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writes:is sex a wrong thing at young age i need help because a girl wants to do it with me but i don't know help me please!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (17 May 2008):
 I am astonished that I read such questions? Are you for real?
If so, please please wait. I agree you are not physically ro emotionally ready. Plenty of time for this in the future.
It is against the law, and many would class it as abuse at such a young age.
There is no rush, please don't aim to be the first in school to have had sex.
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reader, VincentMancini +, writes (7 March 2008):
 Enjoy your youth! Don't have sex while you're young, it may ruin your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): At your age you are not emotionally or physically ready for sex. Besides that it is against the law also. If you wait a few more years you will enjoy it more then and be more ready for it. Sex at your age should be the least of your worries.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 February 2008):
 It's not only wrong IT'S AGAINST THE LAW!!!!
~Eve~
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reader, mildred09 +, writes (17 February 2008):
You're about 12, so no, in a few more years you will just know when you want to do it. You don't sound sure about it and if you're not sure then its a definite NO!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): I would say that you'd regret it totally, when in the future you tell your wife you lost your virginity when you were less than 12, to a girl you didn't even love. Honey, it's not a good idea at all.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Yes
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reader, M!  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Well considering your age i dont think your ready.Your not in love. And you say your just going to do it cause a girl wants to?thats not a very good reason.Wait until you feel its right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): do NOT have sex as this girl could end up pregnant or hurt because she is so young. Wait until you are older because you will enjoy it more. i am personally not losing my virginity until i meet my future husband
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): Exploring your sexuality at a young age is very common, and actually perfectly natural. The key is identifying how comfortable you feel with it, and the risks that go along with it. For instance, pregnancy is a risk, as are STDs- so protection must be used. I advise that the female get on birth control pills before starting sexual intercourse, and that the male always wear a condom- twice the protection against pregnancy. If you aren't comfortable talking to your parents about acquiring birth control, then perhaps you should rethink your decision. You must be open and honest with them, because they know much more about the risks of sex than you do and they may be able to shed light on it.Another thing, perhaps you can do things other than fullblown intercourse. Passionate kissing for instance is rewarding and relatively risk-free. You could touch one another "down there" with your hands.You may not be old enough to fully enjoy the pleasure that can come from sex, so it might be a waste of time anyway. Keep that in mind, it likely won't be very "good" at your ages due to inexperience... and your bodies have not finished developing either. The emotional aftermath of sex can be extreme, especially for girls who are told to hold onto their virginity like it's a precious gift (haha). If you're unsure about having sex, then you probably aren't ready. If it makes you feel anxious or uncomfortable, then don't bother. Stick with hand-holding and kisses. Wait until you feel ready to have sex before you start doing it. It's the safest way to avoid regrets and complications that arise from doing it. And, remember, if you are going to have sex- use protection! You are not financially or emotionally ready to take care of a baby!Good luck.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (17 February 2008):
It is possible to grow up too fast so just enjoy being a child and do not rush into things.
Tell her you will not be ready for years yet as you have plenty of time later. If she gets pushy and insistent about it then tell an adult that you trust. You should not have to put up with this at your age.
When you are old enough it will be a much better experience but right now it is not only wrong but likely to be not nice.
Grow up slowly
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 yes definitely!!you are both to young to get into something as intimate as this, and you are not emotionally mature enough. your still developing, whats the rush? tell this girl that you are not ready to do that yet. dont waste your childhood, there are plenty of yrs ahead of you to have sex!!you will get there so just slow down and enjoy being young while you still can
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reader, kenny +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Yes sex at this tender age is very very wrong, as Waterloo Sunset says you body and minds have not developed properly yet. Decline this girls offer and enjoy your young life, you have all the time when you are older to be thinking about these sort of things.
Good luck
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reader, Kitty18 +, writes (17 February 2008):
 In my opinion sex is never WRONG, unless it's hurting someone, or is against their will. However, I do believe that it is a bad idea to have sex before you're ready, and, I don't think you can be truly mentally prepared at a very young age. If you're having doubts about it, that in itself is proof you're not ready. Spend your time being a kid, there's no reason you need to worry about having sex until you're older. It's a burden that no child should have to bear. If you do decide to have sex with this girl, make sure you love her and that you do it safely, although I really don't recommend doing it at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): YES!!!!!! Sex is very wrong at a young age. Your bodies and minds havent developed properly.And what is the rush???????????????
You have the rest of your lives to do it.So dont skip your youth and childhood to do adult stuff, you will get there soon enough.
take care
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