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writes:My bf and i have been together for 1 year now. we had many fights before (mostly because of his problems and i forgave him). Recently we had a big fight and both got very emotional at that time. He and I both admitted that we both were at fault. He said "we both need to draw way back". Then on Valentin's day he didn't call me or see me, instead he emailed me saying "his heart is with me". I do not know what he means by saying this. Is he still in love with me? Or is he playing words game? I feel very confused and sad and tired of guessing what he really means. I plan to give him some space\time to cool off, but I don't want him to break up with me. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 His e-mail can be a good or a bad sign.
Good: he at least kept contact. The relationship is ailing but he's still there.
Bad: He didn't do what he had to, since you're still officially in a relationship.
It seems that the meaning is the "bad" one, as you mention he doesn't want to meet or talk to you.
I wish there were an easy answer to your question about how long you should wait. I'm afraid there isn't an answer that's right or wrong. However, if he doesn't call in, say, two weeks, at most, call him, and ask him where you stand with him. He should give you a clear answer. If that were not the case, leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): Sorry I didn't clarify my question clearly. Right now it's him drawing back and not wanting to meet or talk, I do want to meet him and talk about us. In this case, how long should I wait?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): I think that here you should try talking to him. Tell him that you need some time apart, but don't want to break up because you do love him. If he's not treating you properly (which it sounds a little bit like he isnt) then he needs to realise his problems and sort himself out. You deserve more. Good luck :]
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