Does anyone else think that D*cks and sex are overrated?
Q. Now that I've been with a few guys I realize how small guy's d*cks are. Like when he's pushing it in, it can kind of feel big but once you get used to it, it's just not a big deal. And long and short lengths don't make a difference. The ...
A. 23 April 2016: Coming in late to this question, and after reading the answers, Honeypie hit the answer in her 5th paragraph.
Guys are going to get pissed off by your question, because to them, a penis is the measure of their manhood. But if they suddenly... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend's Doberman comes first. It's making me miserable. What do I do?
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have a 1 yr old son. The problem is when me and my boyfriend met he had a Doberman but the problem is he treats the dog better than me. He takes the dog everywhere with me. The dog can do no wrong. T...
A. 22 April 2016: I grew up with a Doberman as well. One of the best and finest dogs I have ever known, and that dog was a family dog to be sure. Dobermans would not be urinating to mark territory if they are neutered. Young Dobes are a handful. A dog like that ... (read in full...)
He cuts me off in middle of me speaking. He said people do it all the time. Is this true?
Q. My boyfriend and I were working in the office yesterday. After a while he had to take over from what I was doing and I sat waiting for him. We were talking a little,but every time I was telling him a story he either wouldn't answer me or he would...
A. 19 April 2016: Ask him if he cuts off his boss at work?? If he would cut off an elected official? His father?
Only people who do not respect the person they're talking to behaves the way he does. Be angry and stand your ground. If he does it, say "EXCUSE ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on keeping in touch with his ex
Q. My fiancée still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend by sms. He says that it's only messaging not talking and he only answers her messages. When i asked him why he did it he said he liked giving her hope and being a shit to her. Once when i a...
A. 19 April 2016: Your follow-up made it crystal clear.
He threatened to have other women's names tattooed until you threw a fuss and he "couldn't understand" why it would bother you?
He calls his ex just to boost his ego by being a shit to her?
He's bei... (read in full...)
Our manager has threatened to fire us if we don't close our Facebook group
Q. Okay, so where i work we all have a facebook ‘group chat’ in this group chat there is over 50 of us in this group so basically nearly everyone from work. We use this chat on facebook to organise nights out i work in a casino and the casino is a 24hr ...
A. 18 April 2016: Your boss is a moron. If the group has your employer's name in it, then message each member with the name of the new group and then shut the first site down. If the group does NOT have the casino's name, go to HR and tell your boss to pound sand.... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about my wife's strange sexual dreams?
Q. My wife and I have been together for 40 years, and our sex lives have always been 'satisfactory', nothing out of the ordinary really, only occasionally doing something rather daring. However, about six months ago she started taking medicati...
A. 18 April 2016: Yeah! What's the medication?? heh.
Don't feel inadequate! She's with YOU! Obviously if you only rated your sex life with her as "satisfactory", then she must have rated it the same. Whatever the reason or dreams or libido spike, ENJOY IT... (read in full...)
Have any ladies ever been rejected in asking a man out?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem to ...
A. 18 April 2016: I agree with the anonymous male that just posted. It's almost some sort of badge of honor to reject a guy cruelly. Television and movies glorify it, and you're right, it's cruel and indicative of the type of person you are to take pleasure in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on keeping in touch with his ex
Q. My fiancée still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend by sms. He says that it's only messaging not talking and he only answers her messages. When i asked him why he did it he said he liked giving her hope and being a shit to her. Once when i a...
A. 18 April 2016: It feels wrong because it *is* wrong. If the situation was reversed, he wouldn't be as sanguine about you keeping touch with an ex of yours and putting a promise you made to him ahead of a man you've pledged to marry and "forsake all others". A ... (read in full...)
Is this older, married man, hitting on me?
Q. Can anyone help me understand what's going on with a older (48) MARRIED man from Church? I used to really like him as a friend/ advisor kind of role to me. Lately I have wondered if he likes me more than he should. When we talk only always rubs my ...
A. 18 April 2016: First thing's first:
DO NOT be his friend. NO! He is not interested in friendship, and you can't have his favors and then claim you only want friendship. He's acting inappropriately in touching you AND contacting you during the week one on one. ... (read in full...)
We've been dating almost 7 months and he wants us to marry and move out of province
Q. I'm a single mom with two kids, a four year old daughter and six your old son. I've been dating a guy for almost 7 months. He is great with my kids and they adore him. Last night he proposed ! I was not expecting it at all and he even said he knew ...
A. 18 April 2016: It is WAYYY too soon! It's not just you - it's your kids, and 7 months is too soon to marry, much less disrupt your kids' lives. You must wait longer, and if he pressures you or implies that if you don't move on his time, he'll leave, then you'll ... (read in full...)
Is it bad for a girl to initiate dates? And how to tell if a guy is losing interest?
Q. I have a series of questions I'd appreciate advice on. I want to know if it is bad for the girl to initiate the dates in the start of a relationship or should the guy take charge and plan dates for the two of them? Also how can you tell through...
A. 18 April 2016: I initiated dates as well as had them initiated. I'm married to a man for whom I initiated the relationship, as he was really shy and I liked him and wanted to de-friendzone the relationship. We're still married after 17 years, so I think it's ... (read in full...)
We'd like to get married but don't want to hurt our parents!
Q. Hi,I am in a tricky situation.. I am seeing my boyfriend for about a year now and we decided to commit to each other and exchanged rings,I have never met a man who makes me feel as beautiful and special like he does!we hit a rough patch and everytim...
A. 18 April 2016: The first thing I did when I read your post is look at your age range. We'll get to your "rough patch" in a minute, because I don't want to gloss it over, and it might factor into my advice.
But let's deal with the families. You're of age for ... (read in full...)
What should I ask, when I speak to my Bf, about a stained black dress I found under my Bf's bed?
Q. I found a black dress with dried up white spots on the front under my boyfriend's bed. I do not live with my BF. I was in his apartment tidying it up for him. Now I wonder if he cheated? First I would like to know, does semen dry white when ...
A. 17 April 2016: LOL Thanks Cindy! I bow to Agatha Christie's intellect.
As they say in another mystery, albeit a cartoon mystery complete with anMystery Machine, "Ruh roh".
Yeah, he's lying his ass off. You saw the dress right off, and it's on the outskirts... (read in full...)
What could be the consequences if my Gf and I did follow through with our wish to have sex, discretely, in a public place?
Q. My gf and I want to experiment more sexually. She wants to have sex some place public, like a mall changing room or movie theatre . What exactly would happen if we get caught? She has given me head in a movie but we were pretty discreet about i...
A. 16 April 2016: Forgot to add this. Let this deter you! Show it to your girlfriend!
**WARNING - while there is no actual sex or body parts shown, there are computer simulated questionable animation, so viewer discretion advised, and mods can make a decision... (read in full...)
What could be the consequences if my Gf and I did follow through with our wish to have sex, discretely, in a public place?
Q. My gf and I want to experiment more sexually. She wants to have sex some place public, like a mall changing room or movie theatre . What exactly would happen if we get caught? She has given me head in a movie but we were pretty discreet about i...
A. 16 April 2016: Would you want to explain to a future employer why the charges of "indecent exposure" and "lewd act" are on your criminal record?? Both are typically misdemeanors unless it's a CHILD who catches the two of you in the act. Then you're flirting with ... (read in full...)
What should I ask, when I speak to my Bf, about a stained black dress I found under my Bf's bed?
Q. I found a black dress with dried up white spots on the front under my boyfriend's bed. I do not live with my BF. I was in his apartment tidying it up for him. Now I wonder if he cheated? First I would like to know, does semen dry white when ...
A. 16 April 2016: Besides the dress having the stains, what was the condition of that dress? If you have been with him for a year and a half and this dress was a "prior", it would be pretty covered with dust on top of having the stains. Also, if you took it out ... (read in full...)
Have any ladies ever been rejected in asking a man out?
Q. Girls have you ever approached a guy and had him reject you? I am not talking about being dumped. I am talking about when you meet a guy, you put yourself out there and ask him out and he shoots you down. I have this theory. Most girls seem to ...
A. 15 April 2016: I have! I've been married 17 years, but before that, I have been both the "asker" and "askee" and have been rejected before. I look at it with the same thought as I look at baseball - even the best Hall of Fame home run kings have struck out more ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to understand how unhappy I am that he cheated and had sex in a massage parlor
Q. My boyfriend of 4.5 years has been a very loyal and humble person till recently. He had gone on a vacation and has sex at one of the massage parlours. He told me the very next day and has been very guilty and emotionally unstable since then. On the ...
A. 15 April 2016: This is a strange question, because I'm thinking that he already knows how unhappy you are about this. And, you said something that caught my attention: "I had warned him not to do any such thing." Why did it occur to you to warn him about this? ... (read in full...)
What should I ask, when I speak to my Bf, about a stained black dress I found under my Bf's bed?
Q. I found a black dress with dried up white spots on the front under my boyfriend's bed. I do not live with my BF. I was in his apartment tidying it up for him. Now I wonder if he cheated? First I would like to know, does semen dry white when ...
A. 14 April 2016: Oh! Forgot! If you tell us that in addition to having been with him less than a year AND he lived there when you met him, then my "possibility meter" jumps to 95%.
If he didn't live there when you met him, and he moved to the place he's living i... (read in full...)
What should I ask, when I speak to my Bf, about a stained black dress I found under my Bf's bed?
Q. I found a black dress with dried up white spots on the front under my boyfriend's bed. I do not live with my BF. I was in his apartment tidying it up for him. Now I wonder if he cheated? First I would like to know, does semen dry white when ...
A. 14 April 2016: How long have the two of you been dating?? That's the real lynch pin for me in terms of advice to you. If you two have been dating for over a year, and you know how long he's lived at his place, and if he's lived there at this place for longer ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you react to your boyfriend sending you flowers?
Q. Hi All Ive been dating quite a while now, things are good generally I do get her the occasional 'just because' gifts, her fave choccies, an engraved pen when she started a new job etc- nothing too overboard though. I would like to get h...
A. 14 April 2016: If she brought the story to you and the idea, you might want to ask her outright if that's something she'd like. Then let enough time pass before you do it. She may have been hinting at you, but don't take the chance and assume that it's a hint. ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you react to your boyfriend sending you flowers?
Q. Hi All Ive been dating quite a while now, things are good generally I do get her the occasional 'just because' gifts, her fave choccies, an engraved pen when she started a new job etc- nothing too overboard though. I would like to get h...
A. 13 April 2016: I'd like to add my vote to the "in private" category! I think you're romantic, and that's awesome! I'm also a private person, so I also keep professional and personal stuff apart. I think it's the same rules for public vs. private marriage ... (read in full...)
How can get a girl that I adore to forget about my past?
Q. How can get a girl that I adore to forget about my past ? From the time I was 18 I was in a band. Even though we were just a small town band we had our own little group of followers and got a good deal of attention. I was young and enjoy life. Ov...
A. 13 April 2016: Let me turn the tables here for a moment, because what we have is an issue with compatibility in values:
I noticed that after having had lots of casual sex, the girl you want a relationship with has had very few sexual partners (she's had one, it ... (read in full...)
My husband has had an affair. What should I do?
Q. My husband has had affair. We have been married 30 years?. He had affair 16 years ago. Our two kids know about it. What should I do?...
A. 12 April 2016: I'm really sorry you're going through this. I know that no matter if the affair just happened, or you just found out about something that happened over a decade ago, the feelings you're going through are just as raw as ever.
In order to best giv... (read in full...)
What is it with men? Do they want what they can't have?
Q. I wrote a question back in November, wondering if this guy was still a player or not. Long story short, I did cut contact with that guy, So for months I hadn't heard anything from the "reformed" player (nor have I laid eyes on him) until today when ...
A. 9 April 2016: At this point, your primary concern shouldn't be with this reformed player who decided to text you to massage his own ego and play more games. Your primary concern is your committed relationship.
I would do two things immediately:
1. I wo... (read in full...)
Am I being a drama queen for blocking him? And why wouldn’t he have checked on me?
Q. Hi , last week I posted a question about what I should do about the situation I am in. I am 5 weeks pregnant and currently going through an abortion I am just waiting for the second lot of pills. I am so upset and distraught about the whole ...
A. 9 April 2016: You came to the right place. I'm really sorry you're going through this. You're not a drama queen. You're going through one of the most physically, emotionally, and chemically traumatic times in your life.
Unless your family is physical... (read in full...)
She never checked his social media or snooped around, now I want to expose him! What do you think of my plan?
Q. My best friend has been seeing someone for the past 3 years and was starting to fall for him. I did a bit of snooping on his social media and found that he's been with a girl for over a year now. My friend trusted this guy 100%, so she never ...
A. 8 April 2016: Honeypie's got the point. You should take in what she says.
Here's something else:
When you found out what this guy was, you did the right thing by exposing him to your friend so that she could get away from him. She made the call that she di... (read in full...)
My ex gave a weak excuse for breaking up
Q. Dear cupid I think my boyfriends excuse for breaking up with me is a cop out and that he won't tell me the real reason why he wanted to break up. He told me that he wanted to break up because of how neglectful I was the first 3 months of our re...
A. 5 April 2016: Heh, that guy seems really high maintenance. Consider yourself lucky that you didn't give MORE of your time to him. He said that because he didn't want to seem like the bad guy in the breakup. He's NEEDY, and he didn't realize that your life ... (read in full...)
I’m not sure I want to hear why he dumped me by text!
Q. Dear aunts, please can I have some advice. My boyfriend broke up with me via a short text after an argument. We were together over a year. Ww have split twice before, both my doing and both times I connected with him again. This time I messaged him ...
A. 4 April 2016: I can tell you why! Easily!
You said that you dumped him a couple of times when you argued, and that you'd take him back? That's your problem! A breakup is not ever a tool for an argument, only to "change your mind" when you've cooled off. Br... (read in full...)
My dad is having an affair! Will it last?
Q. My dad is having an affair with the tennant that lives in our house that we rent. She is literally the scum of the earth (this is not an opinion). She is possibly on job-seekers allowance, claiming benefits, she's never owned her own house ever, all ...
A. 4 April 2016: If you all don't want him back, then why is he ALLOWED back?
And why is a TENANT allowed to live in your house?? You weren't clear whether or not YOU rent the house and she lives with you, or whether you own the house and she RENTS with you... (read in full...)
My dad is having an affair! Will it last?
Q. My dad is having an affair with the tennant that lives in our house that we rent. She is literally the scum of the earth (this is not an opinion). She is possibly on job-seekers allowance, claiming benefits, she's never owned her own house ever, all ...
A. 4 April 2016: Your mom needs to divorce your dad, plain and simple. He's getting away with all of this because your mom is enabling him. He's keeping her hostage to her health, justifying his crap, and she's not calling him out on it.
The law would give her... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has accused me of suffering BO. I shower. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months thinks that I have B.O. and I'm very hurt. I always shower when he comes over and he says that sometimes showering isn't enough, and that the natural deodorant I use isn't effective at times. He doesn't mind but highlig...
A. 4 April 2016: No, it's not YOU that is the problem. It's the BO. Unless your boyfriend said something along the lines of "You smell like a rotten dying cat" or "You are so disgusting that I can't be around you without puking", then there *is* no way gentle ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to deal with this angry and feeling-entitled stepdaughter?
Q. I have posted in 2013 about my husband having a child which he never knew off. She contacted my youngest daughter via fb and after having paternity tests done it was confirm it is his child. She is 34 this year. She was rude from the beginning, ...
A. 3 April 2016: Your husband has zero financial obligation towards her 4 children. The person who failed her wasn't her father. The person who failed her was her mother for not filing for child support when his daughter was a child. She is trying to morally ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has accused me of suffering BO. I shower. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months thinks that I have B.O. and I'm very hurt. I always shower when he comes over and he says that sometimes showering isn't enough, and that the natural deodorant I use isn't effective at times. He doesn't mind but highlig...
A. 2 April 2016: Don't be hurt! He's doing you a huge favor! Think of it this way - if you were wearing jeans and your zipper was down in public, or you had some big black piece of food stuck on your teeth every time you smile and were about to go into a job ... (read in full...)
Am I too uptight with saving intimacy until later? Does this turn men off and was it a mistake to visit his home?
Q. I posted last week and would appreciate further advice. I went on 7 dates with a great guy and we communicated daily. The last date, I went to his place and we made out but I was clear in not wanting to go further just yet. At the end of the evening ...
A. 24 March 2016: I think that there are two issues at play here:
1. The short answer is absolutely you don't have to do anything that you're not comfortable with. Seven dates or 3 months or exclusivity or even waiting until marriage are rights you can exercise... (read in full...)
Is it weird that my husband is a house husband?
Q. Hello! My husband's firm has recently hone bankrupt and he has consequently lost his job. So now I am the only one working. We have no kids, I own the house where we live and I own the family car. He owns nithing.My job pays reasonably well so we ...
A. 23 March 2016: First of all, I see the real error in your thinking, and it is THAT error and not your husband's misfortune that will put the strain on your marriage.
This is your husband, right? As in, you did the ceremony, the license, and the witnesse... (read in full...)
How can I make this work? I want to get back with her. My family think I'm crazy to try.
Q. My ex girlfriend and I had a pretty intense relationship. We met when she was pregnant with her son, we became friends first but started dating shortly after her son was born. I hadn't had much contact with my family for a few years but once we ...
A. 23 March 2016: "I cheated because I could, there really wasn't a reason".
That about sums it up.
Unless you took a set of garden shears and cut off your own penis, you *still* could cheat. You went out once a week, and your girlfriend trusted you comp... (read in full...)
Why do people take advantage of "soft" people?
Q. I find people take the mick out of me for "soft" I have always been like this, people have said I need to toughen up but I like who I am so why do people need to take advantage? I hate the fact that basically I'm going to have to turn into a twat to ...
A. 12 March 2016: If you reply on here, can you elaborate on what "soft" means?? How are you "soft", and how have you been taken advantage for it?
Is it relatives and friends that took advantage? What kind of advantage? Sexually? Financially? Your time? A... (read in full...)
Can I learn to be a sexual 'sub'? The man I love is ending our relationship because he doesn't think so!
Q. My boyfriend just ended our relationship and I am devastated. He really was my best friend and in my whole life I have never met anyone on my wavelength like that. The reason, he said, he ended it is that he is into bdsm in a big way and is ...
A. 11 March 2016: I'm with Jannie on this one, and I don't care how politically correct that sounds. The guy you're with is an idiot, and his fetish (and it *is* a fetish) has now started to interfere with his life. This shows an imbalance, and it's unhealthy.
... (read in full...)
Heartbroken over my ex. Why is his new girlfriend taking revenge this way?
Q. I am so heart broken right now. I was with my ex for 3 years. We've been through a lot together, we loved and sacrificed for each other. We were there for each other through thick and thin. The only thing was we always argued about every little t...
A. 10 March 2016: She is *not* being hurtful to you. Your "ex" is a scumbag who has mistreated her abominably. She's actually naive and understanding to him to a fault, and his deception just blew up in her face. He was disloyal to her, hedging his bets with her ... (read in full...)
Does he just want to be friends? Am I reading him correctly?
Q. I am 40 and been on off texting a guy and he sent me this message yesterday. 'Not scared off thought being responsible adult maybe for the best. Will be able to text Saturday night if you wish, text away' I read that as just wants to be fr...
A. 10 March 2016: That *is* weird. You say you've been texting this guy on and off? Have you met him? Have you two dated? Do you know anything about him?
I don't have enough to go on to give you good advice, so if you could follow up telling us how you met, why... (read in full...)
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