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writes: ok, I'm 15 and I am just wondering, what is it that attracts most guys to a girl in the first place? I know the whole thing about how everyone likes something different etc etc, but my stepdad says 90% of teen guys want someone with big boobs no matter how pretty they are. Like I am really pretty and I have a nice figure except I am kinda small on top. He says guys are not going to be into me because of this. (I overhead him telling my mom this because she was talking about how she felt bad because a guy I liked didn't like me) I feel like I am going to be a loser forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2006): hey girl, there is no need to worry, if he doesnt fancy you for who you are, he isnt worth it! One thing... and the other, you're only 15, you're gonna grow till you're bout 20, another 5 years atleast, dont you worry, your breasts will grow. YTou're no LOSER! Its the guys who cant see who you really are that are the losers! Chin up, and DONT LET IT GET TO YOU! OK? You've got loads of time to develop as a person as well as physically... if you're confident from the inside, the confidence will show on the outside too, however small or big your boobs are. Believe me, older guys are more interested in a girl they can talk to, and who doesn't act like a dumb blonde whose only pretty to look at. As for breasts, THEY'LL GROW! Give it time, don't rush it. Enjoy your teenage years, you'll miss them once they're gone... believe me. Lots of love and luck. Maya, xxx
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reader, mystify +, writes (8 February 2006):
 your stepdad is a complete git for saying this to you!
i mean surely he is old enough to know that girls with smaller boobs do actually have boyfriends!
I have a brother like this , he thinks just because he is a man and he thinks , he assumes every other man on the planet must think the same things as him!
no your stepdad is wrong and he is more wrong to of said this to you, if he has a habit of tapping into your confidence i would have a word with your mum about it!
as far as men are concerned boobs are boobs whatever the size and like shania said i too have spoken to men friends about this and most of them said as long as there is a nipple or 2 the size is neither here nor there (with the odd exception)
everyone is differant and like differant thing , i have been every bra size under the sun and the only time i see a differance in how much attention they get if how revealing the top is.
you sound really lovely and this wont be a problem believe me :0)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2006): this is not true. it is commonly known between boys and we like to talk about it and say its true but deep down it isn't
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Yes, the information your dad has given you is very incorrect, but please dont direspect him and call him names, & show consideration for your mom, she is only concerned for you.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Don't let this moron give you a complex. His opinions are not based on fact! Guys like different looks in different girls, take a look at all the many shapes and sizes some of our popular icons are! They don't all look like pammy or jordan do they!
Tell him to get stuffed when he brings this up again and don't let him give you a complex.
Big hugs x
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (5 February 2006):
I thought men like your step-dad had died out with the dinosaurs. What a shame your mother married such buffoon. In fact I think your step-dad is just jealous of those young lads who will no doubt soon be wanting to take you out Put him where he belongs, out with the rubbish.
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reader, barry +, writes (5 February 2006):
i don't think it could ever make a difference, a man is going to love you for who you are, not the size of your boobs.
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reader, shania +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Your stepdad is talking absolute crap! Iv have asked my male friends about this certain subject and they all said that if they were attracted to a girl then the bust size has nothing to do with it.I give you an example....if there was two girls...one had a pretty face but had a small bust and there was girl number 2 who had a face like the back end of a bus but was big breasted....most of the fellas would go with the girl who was pretty.Now, you are going to get fellas that go for the legs or favour the bottom...its a matter of preferance.Dont listen to your stepdad,he thinks he knows what every single bloke wants but he doesnt....you will have no trouble in getting a boyfriend...and he shouldnt be talking to you like that anyway.
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reader, jo_betty_smith +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Well if you think about it, if you had really big boobs and suddenly got tons of attention, it wouldn't make you feel any better because then you'd know that all the guys were only interested in your boobs and not you - and that does nothing for your self-esteem. Luckyman is right - all guys prefer different looks and all have different types and you are right for someone (or many someones most probably), and ultimately the guy who is right for you will like you and feel attracted to you for the person that you are, and boob size doesn't even play a factor! If you're slim and pretty then don't worry about it, the more women you know the more you realise that no girl is ever happy with what she's got - everyone wants to be slimmer, or have bigger boobs, or have straight hair, or have wavy hair, or be blonde etc. etc. and the only way to feel confident in yourself is to be happy with yourself how you are and just think how many big boobed girls are envying you for your slim figure and pretty face...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2006): Your stepdad sounds totally shallow. He sounds like HE is obsessed with big breasts to me. Dont listen to this jerk...there are plenty of nice guys out there who will like you for what you are. Keep looking.
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