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writes: My best friend is really unreliable. She's told me loads of lies, made up a boyfriend, and said she'd snogged him, but she's never snogged anyone. When we had a new girl, my best friend totally ditched me for her. Then the new girl left and my best friend came running back to me. Now my friend has got a real boyfriend and she's done exactly the same thing, ditched me. Every break time she spends with him, and I'm left alone. When she told me she hadn't ditched me I said "whatever" and I was bout to tell her why I was so upset, but she'd stormed off, and started telling all my other friends bad things about me. She's so unreasonable. The only problem is, I don't want to ditch her as a mate because when she hasn't got anyone, she's the best mate I could ever wish for. Please help me, what do I do with a friend like this? Any other readers been in this situation? Please help. Any advice is needed. Is she a friend worth having? :-(
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (5 February 2006):
Ditch this one. Believe me, the best friend is the one who sticks around when you are on top of the world. This one will only make you more and more unhappy.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 This is such a toxic realtionship, it is bringing you down. She uses you when there is nobody else better who is more interesting. Unfortunately her lack of layalty will probably follow her thru her life and she will come to regret how she treats people when it is done back to her.
I think you should distance yourself from this girl and when she is next *free and available for freindship* keep maintaining that distance. Don't let a user use you. You are better than that!
Good luck.x
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reader, willywombat +, writes (5 February 2006):
This is such a txic realtionship, it is bringing you down. She uses you when there is nobody else better who is more interesting. Unfortunately her lack of layalty will probably follow her thru her life and she will come to regret how she treats people when it is done back to her.
I think you should distance yourself from this girl and when she is next *free and available for freindship* keep maintaining that distance. Don't let a user use you. You are better than that!
Good luck.x
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Sweetie, this girl is not your friend...
She lies to you & ditches you when it suits her!
Then when she's alone again comes running back to be your
"friend" again when that suits her too!
True friends don't do these things.
She is using you for her own convenience, when it suits her.
A true friend is someone who you can always count on no matter what, in good times & in bad times... someone you can rely on!
Just the mere fact that you took the trouble to come & seek advice here, shows that you are too good for her.
Make some new friends who will appreciate you for the friendship you can offer them.
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