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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): Have been seeing several of the answers and notice that "not spending enuf time" seems to be a common ans. However, its better to weigh things over a period of time, say 2-3 weeks before coming to a conclusion that he's not spending enough time with you.Similarly might find him distancing himself and the reason might be as simple as a lot of work stress or family commitments, hence the signs need to be weighed very carefully. My boyfriend sometimes just gets stressed with work, or just plain moody and withdraws sometimes, but he makes it a point to call and talk on the phone. So I just leave him alone at time and he comes back to normal once again.I am more inclined to think that when you dont feel the spark then there is trouble in paradise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): if the guy you love really didn't love you he should ahve the decentcy to end it and i think if you think he is going to try to talk it out
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): I want to break up with my boyfriend, but I don't want to hurt him, even though he's hurt me far too many times to even count.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): 1) He doesn't call you when you asked him to or when he said he would.
2) He starts avoiding you and makes up excuses.
3) He acts like he has too much going on in his life and he can't deal with it all.
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reader, caffe +, writes (7 March 2006):
He keeps refering to when you are broken -up.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (4 February 2006):
 When they give you less of their time,start going out with their friends, change their appearance and attitude, acting distant and secretive. You will start noticing changes in the way they act towards you, you will feel less important, and feel like something is missing. You will feel confused and question everything they do and say. You wont feel fulfilled in the relationship anymore, because your needs are not being met. It is usually because they have already met someone, or they are looking for someone new.
I dont know if there is anything lower than someone who doesnt have the deceny to be honest and just end it, instead of dragging it on until they have someone else in the picture. It is mean, cruel, selfish and thoughtless. But look at it this way, they will never be happy or content in any relationship, because they are not happy with who they are. You will be happier without them
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (3 February 2006):
We can all be afraid of facing the truth. That is what may be called being scared to end a relationship. Unless you are threatening someone, blackmailing them or forcing them to stay with you, the only fear would be from emotional fall-out. If you think someone is trying to break up with you, then you are probably right. Let them go, write it down to history and get on with your life. They don't want you but someone else will.
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (3 February 2006):
 I doubt someone would be afraid to break up with someone else, provided the person being broken up with is not violent in any way or a female wrestler or something. Maybe the boy doesn't know how to break up with the girl in which case he may try to get her to break up with him. He may do things like cheat on her and make it obvious so he knows he will get caught, he may also make her painfully aware of how hot he thinks other girls are, and he may even sink so low as to make her feel as though she is just not good enough for him. There are so many ways to do it, but the best way to know for sure is to ask him if he is trying to break up with the girl or not. Good luck.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (3 February 2006):
 Some guys (and girls for that matter) will try to pick fights over trivial stuff, storm out and stay away. Not returning calls, being unavailable, to busy to see you all the time. Not wanting sex with you. Having no future in the relationship....say you start to talk about something like holidays together and he changes the subject. Flinching if someone brings up marriage and babies. Having their phone on divert when you call. Missing dates with no real good excuse. lack of affection..kisses and cuddles. Putting you down or making you the butt of his jokes around his friends. Generally treating you with disrespect.
If I think of anymore I will let you know.x
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (3 February 2006):
 Why are you looking for signs, why don't you just have a talk with him and find out?
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