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writes:Hi All,A quick question something I haven't come across before early on in the dating process. I have been dating a girl for 3 weeks, we met online and chatted on the phone etc for about a month before this. We have since had 4 /5 dates.It's her birthday on the weekend ( she is going away with the girls ) this has been planned for some time. In between commitments on saturday ( she plays sport in the morning then off with the girls in the afternoon) she has said she will come over and see me for an hour or so.My question is how to acknowledge her birthday correctly without coming across too strong. My thought was a card, single flower and small box of nice chocolate I know it's cliche but I don't want to spook her with too much too early and certainly don't want to not acknowledge her birthday correctly.Appreciate peoples take on it ? Thanks :)
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (22 September 2011):
 I have yet to hear a woman complain about a gift that "comes across strong". :) The only ones that complain are women who aren't fortunate enough to have generous partners. Honestly, cards, flowers and chocolates show that you haven't put much thought into the gift. It's so cliche and over-used that it's not special in any kind of way. If anything, it's the most common gift for Valentine's Day, so you're not avoiding the "romantic" aspect of it. I suggest you get her something that she likes. Surely after 3 weeks, you have a good sense of what she likes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): do you even know if she likes chocolates or what kind she likes yet?those gifts will most likely be tossed aside or not appreciated as they should be because lets face it you could give your gran the same pressies.clothes are not too bad if you have some taste, nothing too expensive and quite general but you might need to check her style first to see if she would appreciate that. if you do then don't worry about getting the size right too much, they can always change it.if she's into fashion or clothing too much then might be best to go for something else, earrings don't tend to mean as much as a necklace or a ring so that could be another alternative.a home made cake is good too if you can manage it, it's cheap but semi-thoughtful especially if you made a cheesy homemade card then maybe the next day or the day before you could take her for a nice meal.hope this helps
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (21 September 2011):
 Spring has Sprung! What about preparing a picnic lunch to be eaten in the nearest park, or national park?
You could include some cup cakes and have a birthday candle handy to stick on it!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 September 2011):
 How about you bake her a cake and put some candles on it?
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reader, amh87 +, writes (21 September 2011):
I would say just flowers and a card would be nice. I do not think that would be coming on too strong. Anything more than that, I can see she would be thinking you are moving a little fast.
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