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writes:I've been on birth control pills for over a year now and have been having sex with my boyfriend for the same amount of time. We used to always use condoms as a back-up with the birth control pills but for the past few months we haven't. Everytime we have sex, I look and I make him show me where he came at, so I know that he didn't actually do it inside of me, so each time he pulls out, yes I do see all the cum that there is and I know he didn't do it inside of me. I'm just wondering, since I'm taking birth control pills and I do actually see when he cums and I know it's not inside of me, Can we keep doing it this way and trusting it? Or should we switch back to using condoms also?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 July 2010):
 Birth control pills are more effective than condoms. You don't need to use another form of birth control when on the pill. Pulling out counts as another form of birth control. If you are on the pill he can cum inside you without a condom and you will still be protected. If you are REALLY concerned about the 99% effectiveness of birth control pills versus the somewhere in the 80's effectiveness of condoms and pulling out, you can get the most effective form, which is an IUD. Many feminist clinics and Planned Parenthoods will put them in for free. They're almost as effective as sterilization. But even on the pill, he can finish inside you without a condom and you don't need to worry. Relax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2010): I've been on birth control pills alone almost 8 years. No kids yet. Birth control pills are very effective when taken correctly. In other words, you take them religiously everyday at or around the same time, double up on them when you miss a day, and use back up protection for one week if you miss two days in a row to take them on time. When in doubt, use Plan B available over the counter at the pharmacy. It will give you massive doses of hormones, splitting headaches, nausea, etc., a heavy early period which occurs very soon after taking the Plan B pills... but you will know without a shadow of a doubt that if there was an unfertilized egg in there, it was expelled. As far as this equating to abortion, it is not abortion. A fertilized egg will not be expelled by Plan B, only an unfertilized egg.
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reader, Odds +, writes (10 July 2010):
 Birth control pills are about 99% effective - far better than condoms alone, but far worse than both together. Still, most statistics show that condoms are only slightly more effective than pulling out anyway (they're more for preventing the spread of STD's).However, small amounts of ejaculate (complete with sperm) do leak out well before orgasm in males ("pre-cum"). There is still sperm getting into you, in other words. Certain medications can decrease the efficacy of birth control pills, so check with your doctor before taking anything, even over-the-counter medicine.Of more concern is your boyfriend's thought process - he's putting the entire responsibility of birth control in your hands. No matter how trustworthy you are, this is a stupid move on his part, and if you end up pregnant, he will have no say whatsoever in whether or not you choose to carry the child to term, or whether or not he has to pay for it. Make sure he has completely understood that point before he decides to keep barebacking it.
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