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writes:Do all men fanatisize of women other than their girlfriends while masturbating all of the time? Is this a red flag? Does it mean they'd probably cheat too? Is it ok to do this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico +, writes (8 July 2010):
For those who believe that a man even thinking sexually about another woman is cheating and grounds for leaving - I have a spoiler for you - you are going to be very lonely in this life.
There is NO man that does not "think" of other woman at least once in a while. The difference is cheaters act on these thoughts, and true men dont.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Oh my god, is it true that after a couple of years men get bored of their girlfriends/wives?
I mean sure, fantasizing about other women is totally normal, but what is the point of being with someone if after a couple of years it gets boring?
Please any men answer this, I'll never get married if this is truly the case, since I DON'T want to be more of a friend than a wife... because if a man still loves me and etc, etc but prefers to fantasize about other women than me, then to me I'd be more of a friend than a wife...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010): Fantasys are totally natural. If you're worried that he's thinking about other women too much, cut him off. Try suggesting role-playing. Then YOU can be all the fantasy women he wants! Don't be afraid to have fun with it! You can be a better fantasy than he could ever come up with. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your input rose petal and getreal....thats exactly how i feel..i mean what in the hell is the purpose of me then anyway! Meaning us being together. U knw maybe i should just start acting like a total dude w him...and pull something a dude might just 2 c how he may react! Which just made me think of my next ? how many women do u think have done this? And what was the outcome?
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reader, GetReal88 +, writes (3 July 2010):
Boy do I have a spouting out about this. I am so SICK and TIRED of hearing that it is OK to freaking pretend to screw some girl and it be OK! It's disgusting and it makes me sick to my stomach! What is wrong with everyone!! I DEFINITLY believe that it is cheating. Why the hell is the guy with you when he's screwing everyone else in his head? What in God's name is the point of being with anyone? Is there any? We might as well have guy FRIENDS and leave the whole sex out of the equation and just masterbate to whoever the hell we want to! It doesn't matter if your out doing it or your doing it in your head. God I want to freaking throw up!!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (2 July 2010):
 No not all men. Most men, and most women. But no not all. And no it doesn't mean anything and it doesn't mean they want to cheat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Haha Yes!! ALL MEN THINK ABOUT WOMEN OTHER THAN THEIR GIRLFRIENDS/WIVES WHEN THEY MASTURBATE!!
As for guys saying they dont.... well guys tell lies sometimes if they think they'll get in trouble.
In fact, after a couple of years we pretty much stop fantasising about our wives/girlfriends.
Doesn't mean we don't love and adore our significant others though.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (2 July 2010):
 Some do, some don't. It does not, by itself, mean anything particular.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): To the man that answered, how do you know? you cant answer for everyman just as we cant say that every woman does this or that.
Who knows mate, but a thought is different from an action. Also unless you are into hearing about his sexual thoughts, Id say its disrespectful for him to tell you about it...and you should tell him so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Yes! :D
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reader, veronika  +, writes (2 July 2010):
 Men and women alike tend to fantasize about scenarios or people that turn them on.
Therefore, there are probably a lot of men and women out there who fantasize about people other than their current partner.
It isn't necessarily a sign he will cheat, or that he is cheating. In fact I would go so far to say that it's foolish to presume this is a sign of future betrayal, when you don't have any other evidence that he will. It's quite healthy and normal to think about other people even when in a relationship.
No, it's not a red flag.
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