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writes:Me and my boyfriend have a pretty healthy sex life but I'm afraid to give him oral sex. He doesn't seem to mind very much that I don't but I feel bad when he gives me oral and the best that I'm comfortable doing is giving him a hand job. He doesn't like ask me to do it or pressure me into it at all, he doesn't even bring the matter up. I still feel bad though. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much guys, we are always safe. We both know that neither of us have a STD and I am on birth control. I feel bad because of the fact that I like returning the favor to people. He is the first guy that I have been sexually active in any way with so everything is very new to me. I'll talk to him about it, thank you all for such great advice!
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reader, LaceyCurves24 +, writes (12 July 2010):
Female,
Before I say anything else, please make sure he does not have an STD. If he does, it will show on your face (depending on the STD).
Personally, oral sex gives me a lot of pleasure (giving & receiving). If I were you, I would start off by licking or sucking on just the head. Once you get comfortable w/ that, you can move lower.
If you don't want him to watch, turn the lights off or ask him to close his eyes & enjoy the feeling.
I hope this helps. Good Luck & PLEASE USE A CONDOM!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): I don't see a problem to begin with! IT is something you don't feel comfortable doing, and also something he doesn't ask for. Where is the problem here?
Moreover, as a 32 y.o man here, I never really enjoyed getting blow job as much as I enjoyed going down on my girl, in addition to sex of course, so yeah, getting a blow job is not a big deal for everyone. Some people really care less about it, and enjoy kisses, hugs, sweet "or dirty" words, and definitely sex, much more than they enjoy oral.
Don't feel guilty about it ok? When a man needs something he brings the topic up, and if he loves you, and I bet he does, he would not enjoy anything you're not comfortable doing.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 July 2010):
 What about it makes you uncomfortable? Obviously you shouldn't force yourself to do something you really don't want to. It's good he's not pushing you into it, but the only way to get over a fear is to face it. Talk to him about it, and let him know you're nervous. Do it in baby steps, like don't give him oral, just kiss it and such and gradually move into it. I used to be terrified, mostly because I didn't know what I was doing. Now that I'm practiced, I think it's really fun to do! If you tell me what specifically scares you, maybe I can try to help more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): Honestly, you shouldn't do anything you're uncomfortable doing. If he's not pressuring you, or even bothered by it. Don't worry about it. I'm sure he's fine with it. If it's really bothering you that you're not giving him blow jobs, maybe you should ask him how he feels about it. See what he says. But honestly, it's really no big deal. Relax, when you're ready, you will.
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