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writes:have men divoced their wives to marry their wife's sister?does this happen or am i the only one that is conteplating this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): i don't know for sure how she feels about me. i think that she feels the same way for me as i do for her. but i have never asked her, so i don't know for sure. i have several chances to tell her how i felt about her. i had several chances to make it develop into a relationship. more than likely i could of been intimate with her. i spent a lot of time with her. i regret not taking my opportunity when i had the chance. i really love her with all my heart. i have felt this way about her for the past three years. i guess i never had the courage because i am married to her sister, who i am not in love with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): You talk your love for your SIL; does she feel the same way about you? Strange how you haven't mentioned her feelings at all...leads me to think that your love is not reciprocated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): what about your wife? her feelings. you DESTROYING YOUR FAMILY.
What does the SIL have to say about your undying lust for her.
some things are best left alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): to everyone on this site for answering this question in one way or another i appreciate it. i have been overwhelmingly in love with my wife's sister for about 3 years now. i think about her day and night. i did not set out to fall in love with her it just happened. i don't know what to do. i want so much to be with her. i love her with all my heart.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 Not many sweetheart.. leaving your wife for a new woman is one thing.. Leaving your wife for a family memember spreads a lot of pain. Mother, father, cousins, uncles... so many people will be hurt, disapprove, and be sorry for the partner you left. Love is love, and if you love her, then what can you do? You got to be with her.. But I believe, you don't marry a person, you marry a family and a community. Therefor, leaving your wife to take up with your sister in law will hurt a whole family, a whole community, everyone who originally excepted you into their world.. sorry, good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): You don't give us a lot of information here let's take a look at you and your feelings here. Plainly you are one unhappily married man.
When one's needs for attachment are strong, sometimes the rational judgement gives way to unexamined emotions. It's when one doesn't consider the consequences of how a whole family could be hurt, how two sisters could be forever estranged and torn apart...it's at times like this that the consequences are rarely minor. My suggestion..stop pining away for the sister in law, take care of your marriage or get out of your unhappy situation. If you choose divorce, then have the courage to leave this marriage with dignity. And begin a new, refreshed life with someone else totally unrelated to your wife or her family. This way you won't have to deal with the hearbreaking family upheaval of having a relationship with your wife's sister. So, with that in mind, I will be the first to say..she's off limits. If you are sincere and really care about this wife's sister, and if you care about the rest of this extended family like offspring, cousins, aunts, uncles, parents..the whole she-bang...you'll move on. Think and choose wisely.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (23 November 2009):
 Yes, move away and try to enjoy your lives together while your sister-in-law lives with the reality that she has caused irreparable damage between herself and her family (parents, sibling, nieces, nephews, cousins, etc) and that she will likely spend the rest of her life without her family around.Seriously, if you want out of your marriage, fine. But don't leave your wife and get with her sister. This is incredibly destructive and downright disrespectful. There are plenty of other women out there for you if your marriage is not working; no need to "keep it in the family".
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reader, called Steve +, writes (22 November 2009):
 Does your wifes sister know about this... it seems such a one sided question.
Your immediate family despite wanting whats best for you both will be so shocked that it may just backfire on you both!
If you do get together - please do them all a favour by moving a long way away and enjoyong the rest of your lives together.
If its what you both want go for it but think about the conetations of it all - good luck!
Steve
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reader, Accountable +, writes (22 November 2009):
 You're not the only one, but other people contemplating it as well doesnt make it right. Why have you started to consider this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): When I read questions like this I am so glad I dont have a sister.
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reader, texas_princess +, writes (22 November 2009):
 My God, that seems kinda wrong on a lot of levels! Is this something that's happened to you?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 November 2009):
No, you're not the only one. But please think about it carefully, because you stand to make a lot of people very unhappy suddenly.
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