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writes:[Moderator note: You are not bothering us with 'stupid teen' questions. We're here to help as much as we can.]hi i have a big problem and i need help figuring this out in my life. im only 17 but i am having trubble telling if i like girls or guys or both. i thought it would be easy but i cant tell because i have not found myself attracted to boys as far as i know and i have only been attracted to one girl and screwed it up royaly because i only relized i liked her after she moved away. and the only other person i have fellings for is my best friends cousin and she lives with them. im sorry to bother you guys with my stupid teen questions but im not really shure what to do. thanks
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reader, moomba38  +, writes (25 November 2009):
I understand exactly what you are going through, and I know how confusing and frustrating it can be. Not being sure of my sexuality made me feel lost, like i didn't know who i was.
You haven't been extremely specific so there isn't much i can say to help here, but i've been through what you're going through and have a lot of experience, strength, and hope to share so feel free to message me about any of it.
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reader, coldstove +, writes (24 November 2009):
coldstove is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey i forgot to mention that i find i get erections when im hanning out with guys alot. and im not rily shure what it feels like to be attracted to someone so i cant say for sertain. the only person i have felt rilly close to is my best friend and that is the only thing i know is like love
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 [Moderator note: You are not bothering us with 'stupid teen' questions. We're here to help as much as we can.]
Sorry, I had to repeat the moderators note.. you are young, we are old, we made mistakes, and if we can help you live a happy, healthy life... well.. it would be the best... we are not experts.. but we come together and try to help, based on our own faulty experience, sometimes we are right, sometimes wrong, but we want the best in life for you.
mmmm.. you have liked one girl, and no boys turn you on.. seems like you like girls, but you are young, who can tell...
A story for you......
I knew from when he was young, that my young baby cousin was homosexual, liking boys.. we made his world equal.. no talk of wives, only partners.. no talk of homosexuality.. again only partners.. he grew up lovely and strong enough to tell his family he liked both (shocked the hell out of me, didn't know he liked girls)
Moral.. you is young, who knows what you will become.. labels are a drag and restrict your life. My little cousin, well, for a long time he was asexual.. (not having sex).. you love people, man or woman, not labels... come back when your 50.. then we'll count your lovers.. this is the only way to find out if your asexual, bisexual, or homosexual.. how many times are you attracted to a certain type of person, and how many times do you choose them over others..
21st century babes, keep yourself safe, be a nice decent person, and don't stick labels on yourself... nobody care's anymore what your are..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): You'll be able to work out for yourself as you go along and realise which gender gets you more aroused. If you are bisexual, that's something you should look on as a blessing, rather than letting it bother you. The same applies if you're heterosexual, or homosexual.
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