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writes:hi, im 19yrs old and i met this guy on campus. at first i jus liked him as a friend untill we started going out often,then kissing and touching alot. i developed feelings for him. he gave me signs that he liked me back and told me that i could be is girl friend if i wanted. i didnt tell him i wanted to at the time because i wasnt sure. story cut short, we started having sex then my feelings for him got stronger so i told him i have fallen for him, he said back to me the same thing. Aweek later he started to act like a bit of a jerk, hardly txt or call me; then last night we were talking he said to me in a conversation we were having "its not like i like u as a girl friend or any thing, i like u as a friend" when he said that i felt hurt cuz i really started to like him but i bet if we meet up he would want to have sex. im emotionally hurt by this, all i can think abt is what he said to me.please tell me wht to do:(
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 Yes, I think you were "played" - used for sex, and that is apparently all he wanted. Now, if he can string you along just enough to keep you around for occasional sex with him, then you have become an honored member of his harem. Well I did that myself to some degree in college, but soon learned that monogamous and sustained relationships were much more rewarding. It sounds like this guy is just out for a string of conquests. You will get over it after you put him out of the picture.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Bog hug's baby.. these things happen.. you wasn't sure about your feelings, he wasn't sure about his.. You had sex and it made everything more clear to both of you.. He's sure it's only about sex and you want more.
To get out of this with your self respect.. well, the truth never hurts. Tell him, you thought it was more, you had feelings and you got hurt. Remember what he said, he dosen't feel the same. This is not the guy for you, put it down to experience, and the next time you have sex, make sure the guy worships you and thinks your his princess.
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reader, Soon2B_PPD +, writes (28 November 2009):
Girl I feel you. The same thing happened to me. How ironic is it that I'm 19 as well. If u really like him, and u want him to notcie u again, I'd start leaving him alone. Stop texting as much. Go a whole day without textin him. Seem so busy that u hardly notice him any more. Spend time with other guys. Even if they are just your friends. Do more things. Don't sit around and hope he comes back. Guys only want what they can't get. Yes you made a mistake, but ur young and human. Believe me WE will make more. But its time to bounce back and get your shine on. Even if YOU know u aren't moving on make HIM think that. Let the games begin and good luck.
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