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writes:Okay my name is jake. im 14 years old and i had sex i think! i dont no if i did it right or not. i mean she didnt make a sound it felt good 4 me but she didnt even move... i kinda thought she was dead or asleep. what am i doing. i was wondering if someone could tell me what i was doing wrong. this is stupid i no but if u would please help? i dont want another girl to break up with me because of this. thank you... Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 Jake... we know you don't understand, you don't even sound like your having fun.. You are young, and of course you think of sex and want to do want your friends do.. Jake.. MOST PEOPLE LIE ABOUT SEX.. most of your friends probably haven't done anything.Jake.. SEX IS FUN, if a woman is lying there it's because she hates it.We are agony aunts, we want to help and we want you to have fun.. but this thing your doing.. well it's not right babyYou are young, at your age, you can still have fun, but more safey.. kisses are fun... touching is fun.. first base, second base, taking things slowly... sex is not fun, when the woman just lies there.. your moving to fast, you want to be adult to quickly.. it's not like that for us.. us adults enjoy sex, women and men.. your too young to understand, and she's too young to respond.. follow what we did, snjoy kissing and touching first, then she will smile and you'll feel like a man.. A penis in a vagina is not the most improtant thing, making a woman smile and like you is much more important.. good luck babes, take things slow, hold hands, kiss, touch.. thats how we adults learned to have fun
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): well in case you dont know anonymous 2..not all women can orgasm through intercourse..or did you forget?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): Little anonymous reader who is sticking up for teens.. have you actually read this young boys story... He's having sex, he dosen't know what he's doing, and the girl is just lying there, probably hating him, hating herself, and in a lot of pain. Since your not 14, you might be older. Is this what you call good sex, and a loving relationship. Is this what you think is enjoyable for 14 year olds to do. If it was, she would have been screaming with pleasure, like us adult women do, and he wouldn't be asking us stupid questions, about how sex works.
Jake... you don't know what your doing. You probably hurt that girl, and made her feel very bad about herself. Don't have sex untill you know more about what your doing. Carry on this way, and it might not be a baby, it might be somebody screaming rape... Lots of things can happen with sexually activity, it's not just the technique you got wrong, but emotionally you don't know how to understand what the girl maybe feeling at a time like this. If either of her parents find out, well, I wouldn't like to be you. Stick to doing things that make her smile, and don't force her to lie there and wish she were somewhere else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): to all of you who thinks im 14 im not. i just stand up for those who have rights too. yes pregnancy can occur but its unlikely if yot take the proper precautions. i was 14 once. i had sex and never fell pregnant. and i believed in my right to enjoy sexual activity as much as anyone else. iam merely annoyed that just because as adults we believe only we can have sex teens cant as they are 'immature' or 'too young etc'. not all are the same. ive been there.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 Anon, you say it's "unlikely" that pregnancy will occur.
First of all, you can easily get pregnancy from having sex. It's not unlikely.
Even if it WERE unlikely, there is STILL a chance!! As devastating and tragic as teenage pregnancy is, why take ANY chances? With abstinence, there is absolutely NO CHANCE of pregnancy AT ALL.
When you're an adult and you've finished your schooling and established in a career, you're in a position to provide for a kid. As a teenager, you're still dependent on your parents. If you can't provide for yourself, how will you provide for a kid? Who would take care of it?
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (17 November 2009):
Any time you have sex, there is a chance of pregnancy occurring. It's not fair to bring a child into the world and not be able to provide it with the best of everything.
Imagine that your girlfriend did get pregnant, from the perspective of the baby. Imagine that your parents had you at 14 and had no means of providing for your basic needs. Imagine that you are the child of teenage parents and had to grow up in horrible poverty, with no nice clothes or shoes to wear, possibly no proper food. Imagine that you have never met your father and have no idea where he is and your mom works two or three crummy jobs to support you, and when you do see her (which is rare) she's always tired and depressed. You have to live in a not-so-nice neighborhood and your mom faces the heartbreaking task of explaining why she can't buy for you the things other kids have. There's barely enough money to buy food, and no money for nice birthday gifts, toys, extra curricular activities, sports, summer camp... the little things that make childhood special. How would you feel if you were the baby that came into the world as a result of 14-year-olds who had sex when they were not prepared to? No child deserves that. I'm not saying this to be mean, but to put things in perspective.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (17 November 2009):
 So tell us Mr/Miss anonymous, were you all red in the face and stomping your little feet when you typed that? Sheesh, kids today....
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): you are NOT too young for sex and dont listen to anyone who tells you so. you are NOT being selfish or immature if you keep yourself safe. sex is NOT just an adult thing people aged 14 up are entitled to sexual pleasure too. if you protect yourself and her a baby is HIGHLY UNLIKELY. and i wish people would stop and think as there are many adults out there who fall pregnant being stupid so stop picking on teens!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): I agree, it sounds to me she wasn't sure of what to do, how to react, and she is just doing it just because, and if thats the case and you don't know either then you shouldn't be having sex either. I don't know what this anonymous reader is really advising, but since you don't know leave it at that. Sex is a natural part of life, it happens naturally, thats definetly not the case with you guys so leave it alone, not because everyone is doing it you have to as well you are just a baby and you sure not ready for another baby!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): Jake, you did nothing wrong.
Seemed like she was dead or asleep, not responding?
She is practising for after she is married!
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 There are a couple of key reasons why a girl would react that way. Because you're not doing it right, and because she's not into it.What you're describing is a girl who is letting it be done to her. She may have consented, but for all the wrong reasons: to keep you happy, to be cool, or because she thinks everyone else is doing it and she wants to be like everyone else. She was too nervous (or even scared) to get any pleasure out of it. When that's going through a girl's mind, no technique on the guy's part is going to help.Honestly it sounds like she's too young to be having sex. And although you don't want to hear this, so are you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): halo!are you out of your mind or something?your just in your early teens and having sex is a very big thing at this age
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