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writes: Hi aunts. I have a real problem here. I'm just not sure what to do any more. Me and my boyfriend have been arguing a lot lately but last night it escalated and he backhanded me across the face because I mouthed off to him while he was yelling at me. I dont know whether to leave him or not. He wants to come over tonight so we can talk and he keeps saying he is really really sorry and he just didnt know how to react because I've never back talked him before and he hopes I do not think it will always happen. What do I do? I love him. He's 19 by the way and I'm 16. We've been together 6 months. Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 I noticed you said "you both are arguing" and that "you mouthed off" ..... this relationship is destructive... how come your arguing after 6 short months? What happened to the honeymoon, the laughs and the loving? Why are you two even together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): Get out of this. That's abuse and any man who lays their hand on a woman should be severely punished. I'm not critizcizing, but date younger guys. That's ABUSE and don't put up with it!
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (17 November 2009):
 Can you please think about this? His excuse is because you back talked. This means he doesn't want you defendind yourself and his easiest solution to you back talking was to hit you.
Leave.
If he can do this once he can easily do it again, especially when he knows you will just forgive him if he begs hard enough. Hell be my guest and forgive him, but leave him. Stand your ground and demand better treatment and make him realise this is not how you are to be treated. You have every right to back talk whether a boy expects it or not.
Leave him.
HonningKanin
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reader, Eyespy17  +, writes (17 November 2009):
Please leave him now. You are only 16/17 and it's only been 6 months. (easier now than 3 years in)If he's already hit you, he will do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): Icelordess is right!
If he hit you once, its likely to happen again. He told you he hopes you do not talk back to you again. That's a warning you should pay attention to.
Drop him right now. He does not love you and you do not need to put up with such abuse!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): I agree with icelordess. No man is ever supposed to hit a female. This is a red flag.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (17 November 2009):
Listen, he WILL do it again. He "didn't know how to react" because you "mouthed off?" He's going to get mouthed off a lot in his lifetime, so does that mean he should go around backhanding people because he doesn't like what they say? NO! And just because you're his girlfriend that doesn't mean it's okay for him to handle you "mouthing off" by hitting you! Are you going to not be allowed to talk back to him in the future because he'll hit you? That is so wrong, and you need to dump him when you see him tonight.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (16 November 2009):
Break it off with him, if he has already hit you once, he will do it again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2009): If you have any sense of pride, self-worth and emotional courage than you would leave him, you might be 16 but that's only just of age and if he treats a girl your age like that, you know he's weak, cowardly and conceited. X
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