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writes:I hate sex! I am in my fifties... I have a wonderful husband and three adult children. I love them all. I find men attractive, but I hate sex, I always have, I am not a lesbian. It is not all it is crancked up to be. No. My husband does not know this. Still not game to tell him, I have become a good actress over the years.Am I alone in feeling this way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): I am not at all keen myself and look on it as a necessary chore. I think if you have been used to acting and pretending that it was great to spare their feelings then it becomes very difficult to actually decide how you do feel. I am not even sure that it is about somebody being good at sex or not it is more a mental attitude. With me I just cannot be bothered, am too tired and would rather read my book and drink tea! I have had sex with quite a few chaps and none of them have ever done anything for me. I do think there are a lot of people out there with low libido/ sex drive and it is not that unusual. The question is - do you want to change this or are you happy with the way things are? If you want to change then definitely a trip to the docs would be in order as they can prescribe things that will increase your sex drive and offer all sorts of sex classes for you and your husband. Please don't feel pressurised into doing anything if you are happy the way things are - you are not alone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): You say you hate sex, but you do not say why.
Your sex life is something you and your husband need to work at. First of all you need to tell him how you feel and stop pretending everything is wonderful, the poor guy doesn't even know that there is anything wrong.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 You are not alone, but you have experienced a lifetime of bad sex. Sex is as fun, wonderful and earth moving as everybody says, when you with a loving partner and somebody who knows exactly what they are doing.
Please take a look at this website, and tell me if it dosen't look like sex is really fun. http://www.sexinfo101.com/
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): Low sex drive has nothing to do with lesbianism. Being a good actress over the years is the problem. If you never experienced good sex then I can see why you would hate it. You may need to take something to get your sex drive up, something to speak with your doctor about if it has been happening for years. In general your sex drive would decline as you get older anyway but you said this has been a problem all your life. If you are interested in improving your sexual experience talk with your doctor and your husband, and don't be embarrassed about it. Our society teaches us to be ashamed of sex and "feeling good" but its a normal part of life. To answer the question are you alone, I know your not because someone yesterday expressed on here that they were repulsed by the very idea of sex so don't feel bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): Is this suddenly or something that's always been with you? Sounds to me like you've just lost your sex drive which is perfectly normal..
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