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writes:I recently started dating a guy that I had been friends with for about 8 months. Once we started acknowledging that we had feelings for each other, things moved ridiculously fast. A week ago, we went out on a date and every time he touched me, I wanted to melt. The same happened the next night but later we kissed (well, made out), and my feelings for him have not been quite the same. I do not feel that same spark anymore. Since then, we have kissed again it is has been fantastic. Last night, we had a marathon make-out session and we ended up going a little bit too far (and it was only to my benefit). Now, I am confused as to how I feel about him. I really like him; we share many common interests and have a fantastic time chatting. He even says that he enjoys the intellectual side of our relationship just as much as our physical side. Currently, I am thinking that the best thing to do is to slow it all down about and get to know each other even more before we experience any more physical stuff. I really do not want to hurt him because I can tell he really likes me. I also feel like I am lucky because he will listen to me when I tell him not to do something. He does not make me feel uncomfortable at all. We can also totally be ourselves around each other...but when we go too far in the physical department, I get extremely embarrassed. I just want to be in love with him and have it be sweet and genuine...not built up on sexual pleasures.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI stumbled across this website and remembered that I had posted this question a while back. Just wanted to let everyone know that we did have a break from physical stuff and gradually built up our relationship- both emotionally and physically. Also, we got married a couple of weeks ago.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (21 April 2008):
He's not going to get upset if you phrase it right.
It is perfectly fair not to want a huge physical side to things if you want this to be a serious relationship.
Tell him you really want this to go right and so you want to take things slowly. Having a big GIRLFRIEND label slapped on you can be a bit of a shock to the system. There are all kinds of feelings sloshing about.
He probably feels he's done all the "getting to know you" stuff over the course of your friendship, but I am sure he will understand.
It's perfectly normal to get embarrassed over the sexy stuff... you're a girl, we all get embarrassed about it. I still get embarrassed about it with my husband, who just finds it cute.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 April 2008):
 Love is a many splendid thing.
It is like the elixir of life that makes you want more and more.
Everything becomes beautiful....
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