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I enjoy travel and learning new things. Different cultures interest me and what makes them tick. I think there is always a reason for the way certain cultures do things and many times we are too quick to judge things that we find odd.
The more places I go and the more people I meet, the more I see that we are so similar. Everybody is trying to enjoy life but we are all influenced along the way by the stuff that "happens". The trick is to learn from the lessons and carry on. I have a short fuse for infedility and take marriage very seriously. It's not from personal experiences either. I just don't understand why people don't seem to fix the problems in their marriages before they create more. I see lots of questions on this site pertaining to this topic, that's why I added this part. |
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26 September 2007: Why is it that people get involved in love triangles and feel rejected when they don't work out? Why do so many agony aunts treat the third member of the triangle as a victim? I'm tired of hearing people reccommend.... "distance yourself from hi...
Fidelity and marriage
This question has 12 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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8 May 2007: Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
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My wife was harassed when out for a drink with friends. She's scared and blaming herself, what to do to reassure her?
Q. Hi this morning my wife seemed abit upset it took her ages to admit what was wrong but she went out with some of her friends for a drink last night and there was this guy trying his best to well i won't say make a pass at her but he kept hinting he ...
A. 14 September 2007: I suppose a man who thinks this way is a little thick. He doesn't understand and and feels someone might eventually see things his way. since he doesn't know or respect the woman, he feels he has nothing to loose. After all, some women go for it ... (read in full...)
My wife was harassed when out for a drink with friends. She's scared and blaming herself, what to do to reassure her?
Q. Hi this morning my wife seemed abit upset it took her ages to admit what was wrong but she went out with some of her friends for a drink last night and there was this guy trying his best to well i won't say make a pass at her but he kept hinting he ...
A. 14 September 2007: I still don't think she's afraid of the guy. I think she's afraid that you might get the wrong impression because she chose not to leave.
I always ask myself this question: What would a fly on the wall think if it had witnessed the entire e... (read in full...)
My wife was harassed when out for a drink with friends. She's scared and blaming herself, what to do to reassure her?
Q. Hi this morning my wife seemed abit upset it took her ages to admit what was wrong but she went out with some of her friends for a drink last night and there was this guy trying his best to well i won't say make a pass at her but he kept hinting he ...
A. 14 September 2007: I'd like to add something to my previous post. I was thinking about it while I was out cycling. People have a way of minimizing their participation in an event, especially when it's something they regret. In a situation like you're writing about, ... (read in full...)
She goes out w/ guy friends one-on-one and said if I did that w/ women she'd be jealous, too! But she keeps doing it!
Q. Hi all... I am a 40yo guy and have met a wonderful woman 35yo. At the moment though, her and I live in different states and I am planning to move soon so we can be together. We are already talking commitment/marriage and kiddies which is just gre...
A. 14 September 2007: It makes sense to me and is something you should figure out as a couple. At the same time you can not tell her to drop her friends. I think you won't have to worry about this when you're living together but while you're apart, it is a little more ... (read in full...)
My fiance said it didn't matter if he thought of other women, that he loved me. I'm confused!
Q. im engaged and afew months before we are to be married i asked if he ever fantisize about other women...his reply, what if i do,what does it matter,i love you...im lost and dont know what to do with this......
A. 14 September 2007: You shouldn't ask question like that. He shouldn't answer them either. WE NEVER put blinders on. Life is all around us. Spouses are part of it. It's a package. Do you really think he never day dreams a little bit. Relationships are what we do ... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband of 15 years back after my mid-life crisis affair?
Q. is there such a thing as midlife crisis,i'm a women of 44,been split with my husband of 15 years.i went off and had affair,never even look at another man before,started flirting with men,wanted my life back i suppose.then one morning i woke up and ...
A. 14 September 2007: If it can be true that you went and had sex with another man, why can't it be true that he no longer desires you? I think you still need to understand the magnitude of what you did. You figured out what works for you, in order to understand why ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome this and know that there's nothing going on behind my back?
Q. Hey, I have been dating my new girlfried for about a week or so now, things are going great but I feel a bit tense and worried. Heres why! There's this other lad who kinda likes her but knows we're a item, he said to her when I was not there th...
A. 14 September 2007: If you've only been seeing her for a week, you can do nothing. If she tells you baout him, you can say something like..." oh, some competition"....but laugh it off. Let her know you're not threatened and don't act too jealous.... (read in full...)
My wife was harassed when out for a drink with friends. She's scared and blaming herself, what to do to reassure her?
Q. Hi this morning my wife seemed abit upset it took her ages to admit what was wrong but she went out with some of her friends for a drink last night and there was this guy trying his best to well i won't say make a pass at her but he kept hinting he ...
A. 14 September 2007: If what she what she said was true, I'm not sure why she was that upset. Of course, if the guy was being "really" obnoxious, that would explain things. He wasn't though. To be afraid is a little more that I would expect.
It's possible that she... (read in full...)
Having a torrid affair with a woman who has a bf! And.I am jealous of her bf!?
Q. Hi all. Advice needed. In love /lust with a woman who has a boyfriend. Yes it has turned into a torrid affair. Thing is we became close and realized how similar we are. But with her cheating, me being single she gets incredibly jealous but still ...
A. 14 September 2007: Too bad for you really. ... (read in full...)
If a female family member is home alone with her relative's husband, what are the chances she will have sex with him?
Q. what do think the chances are of a female family member on the wife's side having sex with the husband if she moves in with the husband and wife. especially if she is alone with him alot while is wife is at work....
A. 14 September 2007: Well...another question that is hard to figure out. If the woman is a tramp and enjoys sex with anybody AND the man is equally without integrity......who knows? Anything is possible. Why do you ask? You didn't give much information.... (read in full...)
She has trust issues and constantly accuses me of cheating. Someone please help!!!
Q. My girlfriend that I have know for over twelve years andI have been with her for the past 2 years. she always wants to accuse me of cheating. Her ex Husband cheated on her and she walked in on the two of them well you know. and now she is very ...
A. 13 September 2007: I would give her an ultimatum. Sit down and tell her your dilemma. Offer to get counseling with her, but be firm. Explain how it pains you to be in this position but you will not continue to pay the price for a crime that you have not committed. ... (read in full...)
How do you tell if a man is lying about wanting to sleep with your sister?
Q. how do u tell if a man is lieing about wanting to sleep with your sister?...
A. 12 September 2007: This is a ridiculous question and requires more information. Nobody can give you any valuable feedback based on these details.... (read in full...)
During break from my guy I got pregnany by someone else. How can I get my guy to take me back?
Q. my x R and i were recently on a break. well during this "break" i should have continued to be faithful but i wasnt. i had a one night stand and i am currently 5 1/2 months pregnant. as soon as i became aware of the fact that i was pregnant i told my ...
A. 12 September 2007: One thing women should realize is this. Be careful !! When you decide to have sex with a man and a pregnancy results, there is only one certain thing. The certainty is this....the morning after sex, should a pregnancy happen, you can only ... (read in full...)
I got married 3 months ago even though I am in love with the other man! I feel trapped and alone.
Q. I am married 3 months, we live 2gether for 5 years and we were ok I though,but something always seemed missing,but we were so busy planning a new house and the wedding I never really asked myself what was wrong. Just 3 weeks before the wedding a ...
A. 12 September 2007: You will never be able to repair your marriage, if you even want to, while you're carrying on with Romeo. Of course you're arguing with your husband too, he's being cheated from a real wife and he realizes something is missing. What's missing is ... (read in full...)
Got very drunk and woke up in his bed: what are the early signs of pregnancy, and two, was I raped?
Q. Hi... I am in a very frightening situation some people may have been in before. I was recently living with this guy whom I've met at my job, because he believed he could help me further with my education and help me out. I know I should not have, ...
A. 12 September 2007: You can not claim you were raped if you have no recall of the night. Maybe you took advantage of him. Maybe you were the one who suggested sex. Maybe he was drinking too. This should be a good lesson. If you have no recollection of what ... (read in full...)
I'm married to a great man, but I think I'm in love with his brother, who makes me feel really special.
Q. I'm married to a great man he works hard for us but things havent been going well for a while i feel the love has gone out of our relationship. He's quite a bit older than me but his brother makes me feel really special he's made a few pass...
A. 12 September 2007: Well, well....you brother in law has no integrity and yours is in as good of shape as his. OF all the people in the world you chose to fool around with....waht a disgrace.
Either work on the marriage or get out of it. Plain and simple.... (read in full...)
My wife and I have been married for years and have been happy for the most part, but I found out she made out with another guy 19 years ago
Q. Hi there. My wife and I have been married 14 years and have been happy for the most part. We dated throughout college, were very commited to each other and were seperated one summer for a few weeks when she went to camp as a counseler. After camp I ...
A. 11 September 2007: You guys were teenagers, she was at summer camp.....it's time to get over that. I can understand you feel cheated on but I'm thinking there might be something else that has caused you to hold on to this. You probably never really believed her or ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend stay in jail because he pushed me?
Q. Can anyone please tell me what happends when someone gets in trouble for a domestic disturbance. My boyfriend was put in jail for three days because he pushed me during a fight and my roomate saw and called the police. I do not want to get him in ...
A. 11 September 2007: Also, I hope the other aunts are prepared to eat their words now and state that he was only acting in self defence.... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend stay in jail because he pushed me?
Q. Can anyone please tell me what happends when someone gets in trouble for a domestic disturbance. My boyfriend was put in jail for three days because he pushed me during a fight and my roomate saw and called the police. I do not want to get him in ...
A. 11 September 2007: Well, if this is true, you verified exactly what I was getting at. I hope this is a real posting. If most of the time you slap the back of his head, you should be in jail too. You're not though and he looks like he's a serial wife beater. I do ... (read in full...)
Can my girlfriend get pregnant if I cum in her when she's on her period?
Q. Can my girlfriend get pregnant if i cum in her when she is on her period? and can she get pregnant if i cum in her behind?...
A. 11 September 2007: Yes to the first question, no the second question. If she got pregnant form anal sex, who would the kids look like......??????......YIKES....... (read in full...)
I'm losing my boyfriend because I'm jealous of his kids and I don't trust him!
Q. I'm loosing my boyfriend becouse im jelous of his kids, and acuse him all the time. i dont trust him....
A. 11 September 2007: This is not even a question.... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend stay in jail because he pushed me?
Q. Can anyone please tell me what happends when someone gets in trouble for a domestic disturbance. My boyfriend was put in jail for three days because he pushed me during a fight and my roomate saw and called the police. I do not want to get him in ...
A. 11 September 2007: Nobody should ever push another person, or hit them for that matter. I'd like to know the dynamics of the fight though before I pass judgment. Men ALWAYS lose in these cases.... (read in full...)
I'm quite well off but am I wrong to like a woman that has manners to offer to pay her way on dates?
Q. I'm on the dating scene.I'm quite well-off, but I hate women who are after a free ride. I know as the man I'm expected to pay,initially at least. But am I wrong to judge a woman because she doesn't have the manners to even offer to pay her way? It ...
A. 11 September 2007: Nobody should expect a free ride at any time. It's presumptuous and cheap. You should always offer to pay your share. There are times when you might not end up paying but that doesn't matter. The person who doesn't expect to pay is actually the ... (read in full...)
My fiancee recently asked for permission to kiss two other men before we get married. It has shaken my faith in our relationship. Suggestions?
Q. My fiancee recently asked for permission to kiss two other men before we get married. We are going to get married in about a year. She said she just wanted to get it out of her system. I didn't really think about it much and said she could. The ...
A. 10 September 2007: First of all, why did you tell her she could do this? That is a mystery to me. Second, she is not ready to be in a relationship...with anybody. If you leave her, she'll be sad but she'll also be happy with her new freedom. Once the novelty wears ... (read in full...)
My husband and I are separated for a year now, after I confessed about my affair. 15 years of marriage, thrown away? Help, please.
Q. i was with my long term partner for 15 years we had a son together,we split up a year ago,because i had cheated on him in all the years we lived together i never even looked at another man,but what happened my ex started going to the gym all the ...
A. 10 September 2007: There is nothing you can do except give him time and space. He has a picture in his mind of you naked and in bed doing things with another man's body. I'm sorry to be blunt but that's how it goes through his mind. He's probably thought of every ... (read in full...)
My wife has assured me she didnt do anything with a guy she had strong feelings for. We have sorted it but I cant forget it and we see the guy regularly. Help!
Q. Iv,e been married for 10 years.About six months ago it became clear that my wife had developed strong feelings for another guy,a mutual friend.They had spent some time together though I'm pretty sure nothing pysical happened.I confronted my wife and ...
A. 7 September 2007: Pinkflower. I have it straight, trust me. I do think you're a little bit off though. In your case, you told a man of your desire for him. He told you it will never happen he told his wife and he told your husband. That man did the honorable ... (read in full...)
She started a new job 10 months ago and I know her new boss is flirting with her...
Q. So my girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years and things for the most part seem to be going great. I even bought a ring a few months ago with the intent to propose on our anniversary now 1 month away. Here's the problem. She started a new ...
A. 6 September 2007: This is not about you, it's about her. She is getting the texts and not setting the right boundaries. You have every reason to be unhappy. She has not put her foot down with the boss and leaves you in the dark.
She has allowed him to put you ... (read in full...)
Last week he confronted me on some things that I've lied about during the course of our relationship.
Q. Hi all, please help. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years. We own a home together, have a 1 month old son, and I have a 4 year old daughter who he treats as his own. Last week he confronted me on some things that I've lied about during the ...
A. 6 September 2007: How about sharing what type of things youlied about. That will help to get better feed back.... (read in full...)
My wife has assured me she didnt do anything with a guy she had strong feelings for. We have sorted it but I cant forget it and we see the guy regularly. Help!
Q. Iv,e been married for 10 years.About six months ago it became clear that my wife had developed strong feelings for another guy,a mutual friend.They had spent some time together though I'm pretty sure nothing pysical happened.I confronted my wife and ...
A. 6 September 2007: There are a couple of things I'd like to add. The way to prevent or minimize the chances of this happening again is to focus on each other. This way, any connection your mate might make with another person(to be expected) will pale in comparison ... (read in full...)
My wife has assured me she didnt do anything with a guy she had strong feelings for. We have sorted it but I cant forget it and we see the guy regularly. Help!
Q. Iv,e been married for 10 years.About six months ago it became clear that my wife had developed strong feelings for another guy,a mutual friend.They had spent some time together though I'm pretty sure nothing pysical happened.I confronted my wife and ...
A. 6 September 2007: One of the basic rules of counseling or being in charge of others is to remove your personal life from the formula. You have a conflict of interest if you're dealing with someone who is in this situation with your wife.
In your first post, yo... (read in full...)
Can a guy and a girl be platonic "friends" and nothing more?
Q. I need opinions here! Do you think it is possible for a guy and a girl to just be friends or is there always/almost always romantic feelings at some time for the other person?...
A. 6 September 2007: It's possile to be friends with memebers of the opposite sex. BUT...men can take it to the next level(sex) without any thought.... (read in full...)
I have a gut feeling that my boyfriend likes his friend. Am I overreacting?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years now, and he has never shown any signs of infidelity. Lately, though, I have this strange feeling that maybe he has feelings for a friend of his. I have had this feeling since march, and ...
A. 5 September 2007: You can tell him how you feel. You can also appeal to his sense of what's right. Tell him that you've been together for quite a while and something has been bothering you. Explain you're not usually jealous but you've been noticing something. ... (read in full...)
I hate giving oral sex! How can I get over it?
Q. i'm worried about how my girlfriend feels because i don't give her oral sex. we've been together 4 months and having sex for 3. she has never said anything about it but i really want to please her but it disgusts me even thinking about doing it. my ...
A. 5 September 2007: Lets not jump to conclusions. Just because he does not like giving oral sex does not mean he can't ask for it. At the same time she's not obligated to perform. One does not equal the other and it's not tit for tat. His girlfriend might not mind ... (read in full...)
I never really enjoy oral sex...how do I approach my partner??
Q. I've just started dating a really nice guy and our relationship is progressing to a more intimate stage. My problem is oral sex. I've suffered with various ailments around that part of my body since I had my son 14 years ago and I've never really ...
A. 5 September 2007: I guess this depends on what the ailments are and how they bother you. ????... (read in full...)
My wife has assured me she didnt do anything with a guy she had strong feelings for. We have sorted it but I cant forget it and we see the guy regularly. Help!
Q. Iv,e been married for 10 years.About six months ago it became clear that my wife had developed strong feelings for another guy,a mutual friend.They had spent some time together though I'm pretty sure nothing pysical happened.I confronted my wife and ...
A. 5 September 2007: If your wife is clear that "it" is "over", then there was something to worry about. That is because there was an "it". The word "it" means there was a something.
Where and when did they spend time together? Were they alone? What was you clue... (read in full...)
Had sex with my twin sister's husband. Not sure if I should tell my sister or wait to see if I'm preganant...
Q. Hi my name is Stacy. I need some advice. I have had sex with my twin sister's husband. I do not know if I should tell her or not. I know it is wrong for me to have done that. The first time it was only anal sex just because I was curious and my ...
A. 4 September 2007: This sounds fishy to me.......... Anybody else? It's "escalated" to sexual intercourse? I thought the escalation would be going from intercourse to anal, I'm old school though. Well, if he came inside your anus, you're not pregnant. If h... (read in full...)
I live with my fiance but I am having dreams about her 25 yr old married daughter. Do I tell her?
Q. Hi, I dont know where to start with this so I guess it will be at the beginning...I live with my fiancee and our 3 year old son and I love them both dearly. My fiancee has two elder daughters one is 23 and the other is 25, just recently I have been ...
A. 4 September 2007: I hope this is a joke. There is a reason our heads are pretty well sealed. It's to keep all our crazy thoughts inside. When you say you're thinking about telling her how you feel, who is "her", your fiancée or her daughter? Either way, it's... (read in full...)
Ive cheated on my boyfriend for 7 yrs. I love him but feel like i'm in love with 2 people? How can I get the other guy out my mind?
Q. Hi I am a 27 year old woman who is totally heartbroken. Ive been in love with this guy for 11 years, we met young and started a sexual relationship. We never really dated officially, but our connection was really strong. After a year of hooking up ...
A. 4 September 2007: You should not get married. You're not a good candidate for the role of wife. You do not love your boyfriend enough. Nothing could be more clear. If you really loved him, you wouldn't be in bed with another guy.
If you think you're heart br... (read in full...)
I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...
Q. hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...
A. 3 September 2007: One more thing. As for the post previous to mine, it is normal to judge people by what they like to do. That is how we size up that person. Good or bad, we're judged by what we do. ... (read in full...)
I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when she is on her period and I insist that she sits on my face...
Q. hello my name is vince and I am curious to know whether anybody else out there believes in vampires, I believe I am of this origin. I love to perform oral sex on my girlfriend on a daily basis, as many times as possible, but it is even better when ...
A. 3 September 2007: I have to think, based on my experiences, that most women don't really relish the idea of sitting on a persons face during menstruation. I'll agree that anything is possible and sex does happen during a womens period, but I'd say most would rather ... (read in full...)
She insisted I am the one for her, now we're married but I found her messages to other men with sexual implications!
Q. i am a saved man, who is married to a womam who just can't seem to break a way from her lovers in the past. Before we married i told her that maybe God had someone else for her. She has persude me for 1 1/2 years telling me that i am the only man ...
A. 1 September 2007: You could tell her that she ALREADY did something that could end the marriage. That was behaving as she has done. Unfortunately, this falls back on you at this point.
You have to decide what the possibilities of this meeting actually were. W... (read in full...)
She insisted I am the one for her, now we're married but I found her messages to other men with sexual implications!
Q. i am a saved man, who is married to a womam who just can't seem to break a way from her lovers in the past. Before we married i told her that maybe God had someone else for her. She has persude me for 1 1/2 years telling me that i am the only man ...
A. 31 August 2007: What do the messages say? The reason I ask is because if you're looking at the messages from the view of a "saved" man, your interpretation might be off. Or, they might in fact be sexual messages. Sometimes saved people walk a pretty narrow and ... (read in full...)
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