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writes:is there such a thing as midlife crisis,i'm a women of 44,been split with my husband of 15 years.i went off and had affair,never even look at another man before,started flirting with men,wanted my life back i suppose.then one morning i woke up and realised what had been going on,and now ruined my life because i have reralised i still love my husband and what to get back with him.but he wont saying he has no feelings for me anymore,but can this be true after 15 years.any ideas to try and get him back.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Well you can sit around waiting and hoping he and the new woman don't last or you can get on with your life. He may feel that since the trust is gone the relationship with you is just too damaged.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): he does still desire me because last sunday he wanted to take me to bed and after i confessed to him about the affair which was 2 years ago now, he was interested what me and this other guy had done in bed.my ex wanted me back 3 weeks ago but has changed his mind because there is a new women on the scene and he still wants to remain friends with me.he is just hpoing he can be with this new women,because she reminds him of me but with out the cheating i suppose.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 If it can be true that you went and had sex with another man, why can't it be true that he no longer desires you? I think you still need to understand the magnitude of what you did. You figured out what works for you, in order to understand why you did it. He figured out what works for him, in order to carry on with his life.
Whatever the crisis was in your life, you took the wrong path on the road to finding a solution. It's time to figure out how you can rebuild a life with someone else. If your ex decides some day he can get over his pain, maybe he'll resurface. Until then, be happy you figured out what made you tic and understand that he has too.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 September 2007):
Sounds like you are S.O.L. Your affair must have killed off any feelings he had for you. Dust yourself off and move on.
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