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writes:Hi my name is Stacy. I need some advice. I have had sex with my twin sister's husband. I do not know if I should tell her or not. I know it is wrong for me to have done that. The first time it was only anal sex just because I was curious and my husband thinks it gross and would not try. Now it has escalated to sexual intercourse. I like him alot and the sex is well the best I have ever had (maybe just because it is so taboo but who knows). The other day my brother in law removed his condom and came inside me. I am not sure if I should tell my sister or wait to see if I am pregnant. Please please please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): Well.. Stacy I understand you since I did the same thing. My family found out and my sis suffered a lot since she loved her husband! My family (including sister) hate me!!! He never left her.. She forgave him and tried to move on... Now I feel like a slut..! Leave him that's the best u can do
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 March 2010):
 I love it when these old chestnuts get dug up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): I am really shocked to read this ! As I have a twin sister too. Are you and her close ?I think it is the ultimate betrayel! I don't think you should tell her, though if you are pregnant you will have to. Do either of you have any children? Unless you want your own relationship, her marriage and your sisterhood completely trashed I suggest you put an end to it now.There are millions of men out there that would love a girlfriend who enjoys anal sex.
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reader, bestavman +, writes (26 August 2008):
Look, you all ready screwed up, now you just need to live with your actions. Keep your mouth shut and take this to your grave. You'll gane nothing but a clear conscious from telling anyone, and a clear conscious doesn't mean a thing if you grow old alone and everybody you care about has turned their back on you for one mistake you made at a moment in your life of bad judgment. Don't ever tell anyone what you've done. If your pregnant, ether jet rid of it if you think that's the right thing for you to do, or have it and don't even tell your brother in law that it's him. Just learn from this mistake and walk away a little wiser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): Ewww how can u do that to ur sis's life...how selfish can u go..u should have remained in ur limit and respect ur bro-in-law...wot if ur sis knows about all this dirty flings...if u really really wanted to anal y cant u go and find sumone else.u do knew that the end result will be really nasty before u started up all this mess...
i think u should go n tell ur sis's about all that happened between u n her husband..
may u rot in hell! yikes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Wow man!! you are the luckies man on earth!! so lucky!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Dear Stacey,
I am a 35 year old male married to a twin for over 10 years and I love my wife dearly. I have read all of the comments above and can totally understand how all these people feel. As I said before and I want to make this totally clear I LOVE MY WIFE WITH ALL MY HEART she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. When I met my wife I was totally blown away and after a few dates we started to go out with her twin sister and her boyfriend as a group. When I first met her twin there was an instant attraction with her too, although we both denied this for years. I could not help this as everything I loved in my wife was also in her twin (personality, sense of humor, kindness, love of life). We all got married and lived normal happy lives. Five years ago my wife’s twin got divorced as her partner left her for another woman, we all found this hard to deal with. Her sister started to rebuild her life and started to see new men. About 3 years ago we all went out to a party got drunk and her sister had arranged to stay at our house as the party was on our side of town. When we got home we all carried on drinking, the wife’s sister started telling my wife how lucky she was to be with me, the wife said I know, but I know he loves you too, and I’m fine with it, in fact I love it, and told her to kiss me, as I sat there and kissed her sister, my wife took down my zip and started to give me a blow job, she then asked her sister to help with it. For weeks after we where all consumed with guilt. A couple of months later her sisters car broke down and I went to pick her up and take her home. As soon as we got through the door we made love. About a month later I told the wife as I could not hold it in no longer. She fell apart, hated me, hated her sister, and hated herself, for that stupid mistake after “that party”. A strained 12 months went by between all of us, arguments, tears, guilt, hurt, pain. Then she invited her sister over for dinner to set everything right. Everything went back to normal. We started going out again all fine. Then 10 months ago the 3 of us went to London to see a show, after the show we all went back to the hotel sat in the bar for a night cap before bed. The wife pointed out a table in the far corner of the bar sat us down and said look, I love my husband, I love my twin, but I hate what you two did. The only thing I hate about it was that it was done behind my back. I know he loves me, and I know he loves you, and I know you (her twin) love him, but I cannot live with us as a 3 some it’s not right. But I can’t see what’s wrong with us both sharing his love on special occasions, the thought of that turns me on (the wife) so much, we have shared everything else in life somehow this feels natural to me, I think its because I am a twin, we all agreed went to the room and they took turns making love to me all night, it was the best night of my life. We have all agreed that it only happens when we all feel ok with it, and only the 3 of us, we no longer feel bad about it, and we are all so much closer, both twins said they have always wanted to do it, but never found any one they could trust to do it with. It has happened 4 times since and gets better each time for all of us. I love both of them how could I not they are identical in every way. The only thing I hope is that you sort this out with your sister it’s not about the man it’s about you two. It worked for us it was a long road and I know it could have destroyed us. I live with my wife in our home and her sister lives just up the road in a flat now with her own life, I take care of both as I love both. But I am only husband to one occasional lover to the other and it’s fantastic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I'll try to keep this as non-scathing as possible, but I have problems with people who are willing to cheat on each other. That said, what were you thinking? First off, she's your sister, your flesh and blood, and you're sneaking off like a total tramp with her HUSBAND. Secondly, YOU are married as well - so the sex is great, huh? What do you think this would do to YOUR husband if he found out? Third, the man married your sister for a reason and, from the way you described it, is probably still married to her. You are being treated like the cheap whore on the side (what's that term? 7 year itch?) and he thinks that he can just get away with it because you clearly don't have a problem with it. If you want to keep any self-respect, tell him that it's over and stay away from him. You should also see about your own relationship with your own husband, because marriage is clearly not a commitment that you are ready to make. And if you ARE pregnant, the truth is going to come out sooner or later. If that happens, I certainly hope you have no surprise if both your sister and your husband (and hell, probably HER husband as well) stop talking to you.
I hope this serves as a wake-up slap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): dont tell her just enjoy it's just a sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2008): maybe you should think about your sister and not your self. yea i just found out that my sister and husband slept together last week. he finally came out at told the truth and shes still denying it. it started 4 years ago right after my first daughter was born and the last time was 2 years ago ( a week after our wedding and i found out i was pregnant again). well i am moving forward with my husband because he told the truth and thinks he may have a sex addiction. but as for my sister im not talking to. she didnt come out and tell me after all ive helped her with since she is younger, then she denied it when i first asked about it until i gave her some details, and she still wont take respondsibility for her actions and says she didnt want it but she didnt say no? i know im rambling and its because i have no one to talk to because i dont want to trash my sister or husband atleast not yet, but if you want to save any of your relationship with your sister be a real woman and fess up. the longer you wait the harder it will be for her to forgive you. weve been together for 7 years and at first i just kept thinking the past 4 years have been nothing but lies. like it meant nothing,my relationships, my kids, my wedding, the sex, everything!! just tell her
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): This is exactly how people get murdered,husbands kill themselves and sometimes their kids out of spite at what their cheating wife has done. Playing with fire is not just stupid,but can be costly as well and you're the one who has to live with it should he do something drastic. Also,what about what your own kids would think of mommy cheating on daddy? You can really kill a kid's spirit,their faith and trust in you as a parent not to mention any respect they have for you(If they are young now,they'll disrespect you later especially if you keep up the foolish behavior.).I wouldn't blame them if they didn't respect you either. You can't blame your kids lack of respect toward you if you aren't worthy of that respect. To all those proud,arrogant and self-proclaimed "sluts" out there,you may want to think about someone else before your own fleshly and worldly desires. With this selfish and irresponsible behavior,you may come home with HIV one day,possibly spreading it unfairly to your spouse and not to mention robbing your kids of a parent. Lastly,think about how you'd feel if the shoe were on the other foot or worse,if your husband brought home to you HIV or some other sexually transmitted disease-it's nasty!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): maybe he shoots blanks.
it is a pretty different situation. IMHO it is a pretty low moral thing to do because of the implications - the people involved who are going to be hurt, the carelessness of the situation, the stuff that is at stake for such instant gratification.
at least you are going to divorce your husband. and be honest about that.
im not going to call you names and tell you you are a slut. each to their own. there are so many different sexual persuasions, and styles of relationship. there can often be a double standard in the differences between sexes and promiscuity (men are studs and girls are sluts). i don't condone what you did, but my opinions are based in moral respect - i couldn't do that to people that i love and cherish.
are you disattisfied with your sex life or your husband? or does it stem from repression? or unsatiated desires? or was it just the moment? can i ask WHY you decided to stray??
i only hope that you look after yourself - i had a friend who went on a fucking spree and used to fuck around when she felt like it. she is now HIV positive. the 10 minutes of a cheap lay is stuck with her forever.
recently there was one guy (travelling from an African nation) who gave 6 girls AIDS and has just been thru court. im just making sure that if you fuck, you do it fucking safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Stacy, this is a very unusual situation, and I do not understand some things about it. For example, you said you had sex with your sister's husband because you wanted to try anal sex and your husband didn't want to do that for you. So did you simply ask your sister's husband if he would have anal sex with you, or did it happen some other way? And why did you ask your sister's husband instead of some other man? Or, if you were so curious about anal sex, why didn't you try anal sex on yourself with a dildo, vibrator, or some other sex toy, instead of doing it with your sister's husband?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): I have ended it with my brother in law. I had a long talk with my sister amd was she pissed. We are trying to work things out and she said she will try and forgive me but will never forget. I filed for a divorce from my husband because I know I should not cheat on him. I going to continue to be promisques ( not sure if that is spelled right) I enjoyed what I did with my brother in law and realized it was not him I enjoyed but rather the sex. Somehow all the fucking we did I never got pregnant. I am now on the pill so I don't get pregnant as I am going to see how many guy I can get fucked by. Kinda like a how a guy is a stud by having sex with many girls. I will do the same.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Stacy,
My sister had an affair with my husband... and now I have no contact with her, nor do I want any. You are taking any trust your sister had and throwing it away. I agree with previous people.. you must really hate your sister to put her through this. Are you such a selfish person that you do not care about the wellbeing of your sister - YOUR FLESH AND BLOOD?? She is your Family. Husbands and boyfriends come and go but family has a history from the beginning. It is worth loosing your sister?
You are the lowest scum for even starting anything with her husband and I can't say I wish the best for you or your lousy lover... you both deserve the hurt and hate that will will come you way. I hope and pray your sister is a strong person and is able to over come what you have done to her.
As for you - God will deal with both you and HER husband.. remember He CHOOSE HER FIRST - you will always be second rate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): Wow and I thought I was the only one that fantasized about sister in law. hey bank person footjobs are great. what's your name and phone number. Yeah like that would happen
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): Hi Stacy,I kinda know what you are going through. Although I did not have sex with my sisters husband I too have cheated. And I do understand the anal escalating into more. As my affair started with just a foot job. It was with a guy that banks were I work and we have been flirting for a while. He has been trying to see me ever since we met and one day we were at a party, I asked him if he would take me for a motorcycle ride. He did but said it would cost me. On the ride he stopped at his house adn we went inside so he could pick something up. It was then that he told me what it would cost. I had honestly never given a foot job before because I did not see the point of it. I did it for some unknow reason. I dont know why but I got so turned on by how excited he got from f***ing my feet, that I ended up letting him f*** me like a slut. Yes I said slut, because that is exactly how I felt afterwards. I am married and so is he but we are still having the affair. And I still enjoy giving him foot jobs. I hope one day I can come clean with my husband who I love dearly, But the problem is he does nothing for me sexually. He is not into anything but straight sex. he hardly does any forplay and hates oral. Yes he hates it not only him going down on me but I have tried to give him a BJ and he wont let me (not that I am complaining). So anyway you enjoy, and to anyone that wants to call me a slut be my guest. I am a slut and I am proud.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): You must really hate your sister a whole lot to do something like this to her!!!
I certainly wouldn't do it to my sister and she wouldn't do it me! Blood is thicker than water and when friends go you have no one but your family!!!
I kno its not only your fault - its your brother in law's fault as it does take two... But you are her sister and should kno better!!!
Walk away and forget about the whole sorry incident!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Stacy, Please end it now you have no idea who is gonna get hurt. It wil not be just your husband and your twin sister it will affect everyone in the family. I know this because my husband of 9 years had an affair with my mom. Yes I said my mom. This is the first I have even talked about this since I found out. Their affair tore up the whole family. My brothers and sisters dont want anything to do with our mom and none of my siblings will let her see their children. My exhusband is now married to her and they are expecting their first child together (and he did not want kids when we were together). Please please please stop it now for everyones sake. End it and never breath a word about it.
Thank You for your time,
Teri
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): Hi Stacy,
I was just wondering what happened when you told your sister and your husband what was going on. You siad you were gonna tell very soon. Hmmmm I am thinking maybe it did not go so well seeing you have not posted.
By the way I am just curious of what happened because i amkinda in the same boat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): Well congrats then. You're a trashy skanky selfish whore. Woohoo I bet you're proud huh? Why would he want you if you're the twin of something he's already had? A new piece of ass? He's going to do the same shit to you so get ready.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 September 2007):
Irish is too much of a lady to call you such names, but I'm not. You are a cheap slut and whore and I think you are proud of the fact. Loser.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2007): Stacey, you are implying I called you a cheap slut or a whore. I did no such thing. You own this one, hun. Those were your words and your individual view and interpretation. You will do what you want anyways. Your actions are saying who you are, and you will be turning lives upside down, fracturing your sister's marriage and your family, destroying everyone's peace and harmony. Oh, how you must resent your sister. Get ready for the legal, financial and a family battle, like no other. It will be dirty, face it. And all you get, is a man like you, with the ethical worldview of an slimey snake and no conscience. This is my last word on this issue with you, Stacey. I am off to answer questions from people who truely have life problems that need help with. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): Irish49,I must tell you no this is not a hoax. I am not proud of what I did, but it did happen. I am sorry if you think I am a cheap slut or whore. What happened, happened and there is no changing it. I am planning on telling my twin sister this weekend and I am gonna continue the affair with her husband.Thank You,Stacy
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Stacey, after reading your latest reply below..I am thinking this has got to be a hoax. You really like to get us ole Auntie's riled up, don't you? Just on the slim chance this isn't a hoax, then realize many people do try to form an identity by going against everything they have been taught. What a dirty technique you are using to stand out here, as opposed to working hard at becoming a special human being. How sad for you. And if you think some of us have been hard on you, that's because good people like all the Aunts on this thread, have a conscience, Stacey. We have a tough time understanding the bad actions of others like you..we don't understand your lack of conscience to control your impulses. You need help dear...please call a family counselor before you 'blow up' your whole family. You really are one messed up lady. Please seek counselling....today. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): You have no morals and seem proud to hurt your sister and your husband. You both deserve each other and you show no concern for the unborn child as you will be having a baby with a man you only wanted anal sex from.I feel sorry for your child [if you are pregnant] - you'll be stealing her/his partner next.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (5 September 2007):
See if your sister is interested in a 3 way or maybe in poligamy. I'm sure this swell guy would add a few more b's to his harmem. Keep on cumin with the great stories.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): Ok I called my sisters husband and told him it was over between us. He came over and said he was sorry for what happened and he would not do it again. We hugged each other goodbye and he kissed me. I just melted in his arms, I have come to realize that maybe it is not just the sex that is so great and I like, but I do believe I have fallen for him. Call me stupid. Yes I know he is married as am I. But when he kissed me and I melted in is arms it was a matter of minutes that we were both naked and making love to one another. This time again without a condom and I told him not to pullout which seemed to turn him on even more and I told him to cum in me I did not care anymore. And I dont care. I know what I did was wrong, I will be hurting my sister and also my husband but I love him. Call me what you want I dont care anymore. We had sex several times today always without a condom and I told him I wanted his baby. We are gonna confess to our spouses real soon and both get divorced so we can be together.I thank everyone for their thoughts,StacyI will keep you informed if you want to know what happens, Just message me
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): I think that secretly you want to hurt your sister very badly. This is disgusting behaviour from two very self-centred people who think that sexual gratification is their right no matter who gets hurt. Their is nothing deep going on here, it is as shallow and meaningless as a dirty puddle.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (5 September 2007):
I think thats a bit weird that your sisters husband would take his condom off...knowing he could get your pregnant...then it would be obvious for your sister to find out. Makes me wonder whether he wants to hide it from her or not. What did you think of that? Or were you too caught up in the moment to think sensibly?
Take a pregnancy test and see the result so you know what to tell your sister. You should tell her NO MATTER wwhat the result is. She deserves to know and so does your husband. Something is clearly wrong and not going right in both relationships...and it cant be fixed until all the truth is out there.
If you dont tell her, then you will forever feel guilty and be paranoid if your sister or husband may find out one day.
Sure it is going to hurt your sister from finding out the truth, but whats done is done. You cant take that back unfortunately and if only you would of stoped and think for a bit longer before sleeping with her husband. In the long run, thigns will be better off if she knows the truth. She doesnt desevre to be in a relationship with a husband who cheated on her, and neither does your husband.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (5 September 2007):
 I guess I dont need to harp on you about your decision making process. The other aunts have taken care of that quite accurately.
I would only speculate (and I do mean speculate) that you have some serious boundry issues with your twin sister. Would I be off base in guessing that you have shared many things in life. Rooms, cloths, thoughts etc? Maybe this is an extension of that. By no means does that justify it but Im just trying to understand how you got to this.
This is such a tangled web of lies I am just trying to start with somthing that actuly makes sense.
Understanding your situation is difficult but providing sane advice isnt.
#1 Get a pregnancy test if he came in you.
#2 Stop having sex with your sisters husband.
#3 Get some good therapy because you clearly need it.
I hope you can untangle this love triangle and stop jeapordizing so many lives. Let us know how you deal with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2007): I think you need to stop being selfish and let your husband and sister know what's going on, who know's maybe u 2 can swap husbands, but it's unfair to your sister and husband just so u can have your fudge packed and cream filling.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (4 September 2007):
 It sounds like he wants to get you pregnant on purpose....basically I think he WANTS to divorce your sister, but feels he needs a major reason, and wants to put the blame on you.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): You had sex with you sister's husband. How sad and disturbing. Stacey, something in your sense of family values and your love for your sister, did not kick in when this occurred. I would like to say, do not tell your sister. Unfortunately, telling her directly will blow up your whole family, causing pain to not only your sister, but your parents, other siblings and extended family members. Amazing, how one's unthinking, unrestrained, self-involved behaviors can cause so much hurt to others. Wait to see if you are pregnant and if you are, then get ready for the devastation and upheaval, this will cause in your life and your sister's life. If you aren't pregnant...do not utter one word. Your sister will have to find out what type of man he is, all on her own. And it may not take long. He will make a fatal error, once again as he sounds like a man of low, character who is out of control and does not love your sister. Good luck.
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (4 September 2007):
What do you think you are doing?You are married, so you are cheating on your husband?Your twin sister is married, so you are cheating with her husband and lying to her? Doesn't she know you quite well?And you're having unprotected sex too? Are you trying to ruin everyone's lives? What is going on here?????All because you were intrigued to try anal sex? You could have hired an escort for this, and not hurt anyone. I think you need to think a bit harder about where all this is going to end up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): You aren't "most likely pregnant" because he came inside of you one time. The other agony aunt said that but it's actually not very likely. You could be, but obviously you'd have to have been ovulating at that time and his sperm would have had to have made it up to your egg of course. Anyways, why would you even let him cum inside of you? Are you crazy? If you got pregnant with his child I wouldn't advise keeping it b/c you are going to ruin his family and your relationship with your twin. And the child would grow up feeling like a mistake. Why are you being so careless? You could have went and gotten the morning after pill very easily. You don't even need a prescription for it here in the US and it's fairly inexpensive. Are you trying to ruin your sister's life? Stay away from this guy for good.
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reader, love-him +, writes (4 September 2007):
 eddie i totaly agree wiv yoo! i wuz about 2 say tat .. it escalates from sex to anal .. not the other way around. and like he said.. if he came in your vagina you are most likely pregnant. And tell your sister she deserves to know what you and her 'husband' is like. I think you should think deeply about your sisters feelings, and i would most certainly NOT tell her that he was the best sex.
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Either way you should have kept the condom on or be taking some kind of contraceptive pill. How could you do that to your twin sister? Just because your sex life is boring with your husband does not mean you should get more exciting with it elsewhere. If your husband does not want to do it then you should have respected his wishes. I feel very sorry for your sister and your husband.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (4 September 2007):
 HiIf you want to get 1 up on her tell her. If you dont i would do the test first. If you are, then the choice is taken out your hands isnt it.C xxxxx
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reader, eddie +, writes (4 September 2007):
 This sounds fishy to me.......... Anybody else?It's "escalated" to sexual intercourse? I thought the escalation would be going from intercourse to anal, I'm old school though.Well, if he came inside your anus, you're not pregnant. If he came inside your vagina, you could be pregnant. This is not rocket science.
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