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writes:Hi there. My wife and I have been married 14 years and have been happy for the most part. We dated throughout college, were very commited to each other and were seperated one summer for a few weeks when she went to camp as a counseler. After camp I discovered a note to a male counseler that read " I had fun with you last night and I'd like to see again on Tuesday night but I'm afraid my boyfriend will be suspicious". I drove in to see her a couple of times and other times she told be she was busy with camp duties when in fact she was with this guy and some other camp friends behind my back out drinking. When I questioned her about this she denied up and down that anything happened and that she did not cheat on me. Recently( 19 years later) she admitted that she had in fact made out with this counseler while alone in a truck with him on the way back to camp. Again she swears that is all that happned and in fact felt guilty afterwards and told him she couldnt "hang out anymore" with him. Given the nature of the note and the apparent lack of remorse expressed in it is there really any reason to believe that this make out session didnt go further than says it did??? Im having a hard time believing her. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007): It is time to move on. She made a silly mistake a very long time ago. You will degrade your relationship with her if you keep bringing this up and you will lose her if you continue. Work on your relationship, forgive and forget and you can both be happy with each other, here and now. I am sure that in your heart you know that she loves you. I bet you she would do anything to be able to go back and erase the mistake she made when she was young and stupid.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (11 September 2007):
The statute of limitations has run out on her offence. Forget it.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 You guys were teenagers, she was at summer camp.....it's time to get over that. I can understand you feel cheated on but I'm thinking there might be something else that has caused you to hold on to this. You probably never really believed her or at least thought something was out of line. This probably sat in the back of your mind for years and you finally had your thoughts confirmed. Now, you're angry that she withheld this from you. What on earth even had you to the point of bringing this subject up? I can only imagine it's the fact that you never let it go. She stuck to her lie and it stuck in your gut. I understand that. She lied and was in too deep. She figured she might as well stick to the lie as opposed to opening up a can of worms. I understand it hurts, she's not as perfect as you'd hoped.
Try to focus on all the good things that have happened since. That is more important than a teenage make out session.
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