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writes:im engaged and afew months before we are to be married i asked if he ever fantisize about other women...his reply, what if i do,what does it matter,i love you...im lost and dont know what to do with this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): I would never ask a man that question. You have got to know that all men & women have at one time or another in their relationship fantasized about someone other than their partners. You sound very insecure. This is totally normal. Please don't ridicule him & stop asking him ridiculous questions that put him on the spot.
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reader, rcn +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Guys are a different breed of creature. Did you know guys have "animal" instincts. Animals, the dominate male during mating season, gets as many women animals pregnant during that time. All though your soon to be spouse isn't cheating on you, it's normal for men to think about other women. It's normal for guys to look. There's been a couple of time I've been told to put my eyes back in my head, and I wasn't realizing I was doing it. I know the time I stop looking at woman would be the time I'm unable to. It's not harmful, there's no intention besides looking, but women are beautiful. Men look at women, and a lot of strait women look at other women. Even when you look at a women and think, oh my that outfit with those shoes, it's kind of the same thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): Oh come on, be serious, do you never think about a good looking guy like Brad Pitt or Geroge Clooney or insert who ever you admire for their good looks, charm, or power....men are no different, of course he thinks and maybe even fantasizes about other women, and he is absolutely right, what does it matter he loves YOU and is with YOU, and you are not the thought police, or are you?
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reader, stina +, writes (14 September 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
I think your fiance was attempting to sound sweet, but failed. This is one of those things that you probably are thinking too much about - he probably didn't mean it to sound the way it did to you.
I know that one of my friends had a similar thing happen to her. Her boyfriend told her that he loved her no matter what she looked like. lol That didn't go over too well, but he thought he was being sweet and smooth.
And if he really does think about other women, then it's not like an abnormal thing to do. The only thing that would concern me is if he acted on anything. But you have to give him credit for being honest and also trying to probably sound sweet.
Take care.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 You shouldn't ask question like that. He shouldn't answer them either. WE NEVER put blinders on. Life is all around us. Spouses are part of it. It's a package. Do you really think he never day dreams a little bit. Relationships are what we do and how we behave. We all have thoughts that are not totally appropriate, from time to time. We choose not to act on them.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 September 2007):
 He should have lied and said, "No dear, never!" lol. Of course men fantasize on occassion there's no harm in it. They should just be smart and keep to themselves.
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