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... Send *V1 a private message | | | *V1's profile:Hi! My name is Devin, but my friends call me DV1. I currently live in Pennsylvania, USA. I'm currently in a serious relationship, and I've found that special someone... I've been in and out of relationships for many years. I've been lied to, cheated on, and lost friendships over relationships. I've found that I've taken many lessons from my experiences, and I want to use those experiences to help others. I'm just your average, run-of-the-mill guy, who sees himself as a hopeless romantic of sorts. I'm just lucky that I've found that special someone who doesn't get involved in drama, and just wants me for me. I want to help others find someone, or stay with someone who makes them feel appreciated. If I can cause at least one person on this planet to find or hold onto happiness, then my job here is done.
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I really like this guy, who I turned down for a date, 4 years ago. What should I do?
Q. this boy asked me out four years ago when i was 11 and i said no cause i was stupid, young and scared but soon after i started to really fancy him. now i'm 15 and i still haven't got over him properly- that's my problem. i care about him so much and ...
A. 20 May 2007: Ask him out for coffee. It's only a few minutes time, and generally a guy is willing to have that short of a conversation.
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One day he acts like he likes me, the next he doesn't. Is he playing a game with me?
Q. hmm there's a new guy at my work. we hit it off from the start. and started dating for about two months... he asked me out. and added me on msn and everything... im very shy so while we were going out i wouldnt even kiss him... yet we were stil...
A. 20 May 2007: I'm caught in the same situation at the moment. I find this situation to be difficult. The conclusion that I've come to is that if you really like someone, you need to be willing to wait for them as long as it takes. It also means accepting them for ... (read in full...)
How do I get the guts to talk to this guy I like at work?
Q. i really like this lad who works in the same place as me the problem is i have never even had a conversation with him and i feel like a tit even if he just looks in my direction and i havent got the gurts to start to talking to him 1st any advice on ...
A. 20 May 2007: What you're experiencing is called puppy love. You're attracted to are his looks. Go up to him at work, and ask him about himself. If he comes around and you two hit it off, go out for coffee, or something of that nature. Guys are generally very ... (read in full...)
We both want different things for our future. Any advice?
Q. i love my boyfriend and have been dating for 5 yr, we both know we want different things in future. im ready to start thinking of future while he wants to continue as we are. wot do i do?...
A. 20 May 2007: This is one of the most difficult crossroads of any relationship. A big mistake girls do is to get into a relationship, become serious, and then decide that the other parts of life are more important. If you can't picture the future including your ... (read in full...)
I am a bit shy when it comes to the opposite sex ...any advice on how to cope?
Q. Hey guys...first time writer.....well here goes.... My name's Liam, live in Australia, in Year 12 (Senior Year), im a decent looking guy, i have a great personality, i try to do the right thing everytime, always treat girls nice, but i am yet to h...
A. 20 May 2007: Look at it this way - you're saving yourself for something great. A lot of people go through high school and college, making out and having sex with random people. They wake up, and feel disgusted with themselves the next day. You've been lucky ... (read in full...)
Found out my parter of 16 years was cheating! She's gone..so how do I stop dwelling on her?
Q. I was with my partner for 16 years and its been 8months since we separated. I found out that she might have been cheating me. Since she had found a new boyfriend within a week. She basically left with no expanation and has not made any contact ...
A. 20 May 2007: There comes a time to realize when it's time to cash in our chips. If you two are split up and she's moved on, then you have your answer right now. You lucky in a way - you've got definite closure. I know that things seem hard now, but you know that ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to get rid of these childhood fears about the outside world?
Q. I find it hard to distinguish between when someone is trying to just tease me or is taking advantage or trying to fool me. As a child, some girls used to touch me physically which i did not like and though i protested, there was not much support ...
A. 20 May 2007: I've met a lot of people who have been touched innappropriately, abused, or just outright mentally abused by people they know. The advice that I give them is this: You can choose to give power to the people who have abused you, and let it consume ... (read in full...)
Dating 3 months and we haven't hugged or kissed! What can I do?
Q. I've been going out with this boy for 3 months now and we haven't hugged or kissed. He always tell me how much I mean to him and how much he loves me but he seems really shy. I think i've waited long enough for him to make a move! Please help me...
A. 20 May 2007: If you're dating, and it's been three months, he should have at least hugged you or held your hand. Part of being a boyfriend is knowing when to show affection. It seems that maybe he just wants to be friends. He may just love you in a different way ... (read in full...)
We're dating, but the thought of doing anything intimate with him, doesn't appeal to me. Does this mean I don't fancy him?
Q. Im with this guy who i do really like spending time with but im not sure if i fancy him. The thought of doing sexual and intimate things with him really doesnt appeal to me, does this mean i dont fancy him?? ...
A. 20 May 2007: It seems to me that you're only looking for a friend. You should tell him so before you lead him on. Save the potential hurt you may cause him.
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I want to date her, but she doesn't see me in that way. Any advice?
Q. hey im in high school and one of my best friends since i satrted the school, is a really hot, funny girl. i have asked her out, but she said she didnt like me in that way. but i cant stop thinking about her. being with her etc. i wanna ask her out ...
A. 20 May 2007: You can't make someone your world if they're not ready to be your world. If she doesn't see you in that way, then all you can do is either distance yourself from her, or be the very best friend that you can be.
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I am skinny and my friends tell me to gain weight! Is being thin ...ugly??
Q. is being slim, ugly ? i'm really skiny not anorexic but like those skiny models but my friends say that i need to gain more weight!!!...
A. 20 May 2007: Your friends may be jealous of your low weight. They may be trying to get you to gain weight to be on par with where they are. You should never give control of your body weight to another person. If you are slim, you should be proud of it. The only ... (read in full...)
Torn between my mistress and my family! What should I do?
Q. I have a huge delima,i started becoming friends with a female co-worker,we knew each other some, then begining of March of last year, we became close. We talk everyday, all day,tease, joke around, she is just amazing to me, very diffrent in ever...
A. 20 May 2007: If your wife only has an interest in your paycheck, then it's definitely time to put an end to your relationship. The thing about relationships is that they take two people. Tell her that you feel as though she doesn't want the relationship anymore. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop bitching about people who do not treat me fairly or the way I expect them to? Any help?
Q. I have adopted a bad habit from my mother, that of bitching about those people who do not treat me fairly or the way i expect them to. My mother uses this trick to disclose important private information that she knows about my father to other people ...
A. 20 May 2007: It may also come from not being happy with yourself. The world is as it is, and there is nothing that you can do to change it. It sounds like your family is a little immature, and if you feel that it's a temptation, there's a definite problem with ... (read in full...)
It bugs me that this older guy I date...is a virgin! How do I stop being this way?
Q. Hi I'm currently dating an older guy and I just found out he's a virgin and for some reason I'm having a hard time being okay with it, I always assumed older guys = more experience and now that i know he's got less than me, it bugs me. how can i...
A. 19 May 2007: That should be good news for you. You don't have to worry about previous partners, or stds. Generally people go crazy thinking about their partner's previous experiences. It should be more special this way. A big mistake that a lot of people make ... (read in full...)
I lied a long time ago to her, she forgave me but now, she can't let it go. What can I do?
Q. we were together for about 3 years, ups and downs of course. at the beginning of our relationship (about 2 1/2 years ago) i made a very bad mistake by lying 2 her about a situation. the situation was i had another woman in my room and she caught me ...
A. 19 May 2007: Be flat out honest with her about the entire situation. Tell her that saying that she accepts your apology, and actually accepting it are two different things. If she can't move on from it, you've got a problem, and maybe you need to split. If she ... (read in full...)
We split and he said..we'd try again once school was out. School is now out and nothing has happened! What is happening here?
Q. I don't know what to do, I split from a guy around a month or two ago now, we were never really that serious, but I liked him so much, and loved spending time with him. When we split, he said that perhaps we could try again once school is out...
A. 19 May 2007: If a guy says that he wants to wait for you, he generally means it. Guys aren't playing around when they say that. He's probably trying to give you space, and let you decide when you're ready. He probably expects you to call him, not the other way ... (read in full...)
Is a 15 year old girl dating a 22 year old different from a 18 year old girl dating a 26 year old? Any views?
Q. Hello, I'm 19 years old and dating a 27 year old guy. We've been dating for a year, ever since I was 18 and he was 26. And everything's fine, no problems here. Recently though, my cousin came and told me that she's dating a 22 year old - and s...
A. 19 May 2007: Personally, I think that a 15 year old has no place dating a 22 year old. I've been on and off with someone who is 18, and there's still a different mindset. 15 year olds want to go to school activities, hang out at the mall, or party somewhere. ... (read in full...)
Is 16 too young to be engaged?
Q. Is 16 too young to be engaged? I've been with my boyfriend over a period of 4 years. (I understand 12 is a young age to get with someone and for it to be on going for 4 years) and we recently got engaged. I understand 16 is a very young age to be co...
A. 19 May 2007: I think that 16 is too young to be engaged or married. You're still a child, and you have many years to figure out what you want. You still have high school to finish, then college, and then the real world. You're going to become a different person ... (read in full...)
Is being loud during sex a good thing or a bad thing?
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time the other day, and I was a bit...loud. Couldn't help it really! Anyway after it was over, all he said was, "Wow...you were quite loud." I always thought that was supposed to be a good thing, but ...
A. 19 May 2007: As a guy, part of me would want the girl to be expressive, but there's that saying that "only porn stars are that loud". He might have felt like you've been with more people than you have, and it might have triggered of feeling of inadequecy... D... (read in full...)
I am plagued by suspicions but afraid to ask him lest I breach the trust. What should I do?
Q. Hi all; I am lost and turn to you again for advice. To make a long story short we've been together a little over a year. I'm 3yrs older and have 2 kids from a previous abusive marriage that ruined my self esteem and left me completly insecure. He ...
A. 19 May 2007: As a guy, I can tell you that most guys DESPISE talking on the phone. Even texting is annoyance to most guys that I know. If I were in his shoes, I probably would have felt awkward if you would have texted me from somewhere only a few feet away... ... (read in full...)
Anyone else in a large age gap?? I'd love to know!
Q. Ive been in an age gap relationship for 3 years, me and my partner got married last year and life couldn't be better. Im 20 and he is 59 so a 39 year age gap. Sometimes I feel like we are the only people in the world with a big age gap but I ...
A. 19 May 2007: I've been in an on and off relationship with an 18 year old(I'm 22 myself). If you two care about each other, then it shouldn't matter. At the same time, you may need to understand that he may be in a different mindset altogether. I'm noticing with ... (read in full...)
My partner has anger issue and a cannabis addiction! He won't listen to me when I tell him I've had enough. How can I make him accept that I don't love him and it's over?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 3years and have a child with my partner, but i have completely fallen out of love with him. he has a bad temper and a bad cannabis addiction, and i'm not prepared to live with it anymore. he makes my blood boil with ...
A. 19 May 2007: At the point you're at, you may no longer be able to use words. Sometimes the only way to get through to someone is through actions. Pack your bags, put things into storage, and stay with a relative or friend for a little while. If he wants to ... (read in full...)
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