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How can someone stop loving you after one month of dating?
Q. how can some one say i love you at the begginning of a relationship then stop a month into it ? ...
A. 23 July 2007: it depends what you mean. did the person just stop telling you 'i love you'? or did you notice in the way they behave towards you that they dont love you anymore? if its the first they probably still love you and just dont feel they have to say ... (read in full...)
He said he wanted a commitment with me, then he didn't want to know; he's since been very nasty to me and I've no idea why
Q. Hi, I was in a relationship with a guy for two years and we discussed commitment and seemed very happy. As soon as we discussed commitment he said he saw a future for us, kept saying he loved me and then out of the blue seemed to freak out and le...
A. 23 July 2007: hey, you should stop feeling confused and hurt because he is not worth all that trouble. He is obviously a person that is unable to commit and that's not something that you can personally change. You are still young and beutiful, feel confi... (read in full...)
I blocked contact with her for 4 months; now I want to be friends again and she's not interested, what can I do?
Q. hey, i blocked contact from a close friend about 4 months ago and just recently unblocked her a couple of weeks ago. she doesnt like me anymore and doesnt want to be friends. ive wrote her poems and such .but no luck. i realy like this person alot ...
A. 23 July 2007: assuming there is a good reason you blocked her, you should try and explain this reason to her. if there is no exact reason (that she may find acceptable) all i can say is just hope and pray for the best. ... (read in full...)
My first kiss became a snog--should we have gone slower?
Q. My first kiss was on a school bus and we went straight to snog, should we have slowed down?...
A. 28 June 2007: should you have slowed down?
hey, its the past so even if anyone says you should have that wont change what you've already done. okay?
but in future, you should consider taking it veeeeeeery sloooooooow
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Dojha... (read in full...)
I love four different boys and am dating three of them
Q. dear,cupid i am in love with four boys and all of them really like me and all but anywayz im going out with three of them right now. and im cheating on all of them and im also scared if i do break up with just three of them and go out with one then ...
A. 28 June 2007: awh stop being so selfish!!!!
you should break up with them. there's no two ways about it. just break up with them asap.
i dont know what else to say...seriously do yourself as well as all those nice boys a favour and BREAK UP WITH ALL OF T... (read in full...)
He keeps testing how sincere I am
Q. i knew my bf since college. We were friends back then although we lost contact for about two years. We met again through a reunion and started dating, for about a year now. I noticed he does not seem to trust me which i find very disturbi...
A. 28 June 2007: my advice is a bit different. i think you brofriend has self-worth issues too but i think that you can tackle this situation much differently.
Understanding his self-worth problem should make you realise that he does need some sort of security... (read in full...)
She went away for 4 months and I missed her terribly. Now she's dumped me. What can I do?
Q. Hi iv been going out with my girlfriend for 5 years. She went traveling with one of her girl mate for 4 months. We where still in contact with each other on e-mail and she would phone me once a week. She just came back from traveling and me met up 1...
A. 28 June 2007: you mentioned that you cant live without her but i would just like to say that the fact that you were able to send this message to us at dear cupid means you are still alive. so look on the bright side. you are stronger than that and CAN live ... (read in full...)
She told me her sexual history and she believes that she will only be loved if she gives a man what they want - sex. I can't stop thinking about it!
Q. Well I just recently started dating this girl. We've hit it off ridiculously well and I really have never felt this before in any of my past relationships. This morning she has told me about her sexual history. I figured that she had had sex before ...
A. 28 June 2007: you may not be able to help the fact that you feel that she may be thinking you want sex from her but if you keep treating her like a real lady and you keep showing her sincere love, one day it will dawn on her and she will realise by herslef that ... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to have sex with him, but I know I'm too young. Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a month and 6 days. He's very sweet and caring but all of a sudden he asked me if we can have sex. He said it's okay if i don't want to. I'm 14 and his going to be 15 on July 14th. I said Yes, its okay. But ...
A. 28 June 2007: hey, you shouldnt even be stressing about this. he already said its okay if you dont want to. you know you shouldnt yet- cos of your age and you also know you dont want to. so that should make things easier.
communication is the key. Tell him... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about whatpeople at school will think about me and my new bf. Help!
Q. ive been going out with this guy for 2 weeks (but ive been on holiday for the 2 weeks) and i saw him last night when i got back. he's a shy guy and he was really uncomfortable so he wasnt very touchy feely but we talked and it became more ...
A. 28 June 2007: Frankly,
i dont think it helps anything thinking too much about what other people may think. If you really like him and he likes you what does it matter that people didnt know you were friends before etc?
Brave yourself girl,and walk into sc... (read in full...)
After a year, he still won't look me in the eyes and say endearing things to me.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for one year, and at the begining of our relationship, he wouldn't kiss me or cuddle with me in bed, or acknowledge we were a couple in public. He has just recently started to do these things, and it's ...
A. 28 June 2007: it's possible that your boyfriend might have never experienced what he is feeling now, ever before so his ability to 'publicly' show love may be a bit restricted. Since he has already started showing affection to you I suggest that you try not to ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be uncircumcised?
Q. I havent been circumsized. is this normal? I'm 15. kinda makes me think it is the problem why I don't hve confidence to have a gf. Help!...
A. 22 June 2007: being uncircumcised is normal.
If I'm correct, circumcision is a religious thing and if you are not it doesnt mean you are abnormal.
you are simply natural and need to take more care of your sex organ. i mean keep it clean regularly to prevent i... (read in full...)
I am only 11, but I am two months pregant!
Q. (ok my original profile thing iz batman but i did something and made a new profile) alright well i am 11 and now 2 monthes pregnant! im really scared cuz me and my boyfriend r both ganna need to take care of this child 2gether and im still liv...
A. 22 June 2007: hi batman,
i know a lot of other people may be dicouraging you from wanting to keep this baby and I agree that it may be risky for you cos of ur age but rather than go through normal labour, why not ask your doctor if a sicerian is a possibil... (read in full...)
I'm scard of being hurt again but I'm finding myself feeling deeply for a guy at church. What can I do?
Q. I'm going to be 21 this year. I have a problem is that I'm scared of loving again. I was hurt deeply once and that I'm still trying to overcome it. Everytime I thought I have gotton over it, it got worse. I'm now feeling miserable and depressed an...
A. 18 June 2007: first of all you need to stop feeling depressed and confused. i've been hurt too and when i was i thought i would never get over it. i thought i would never be able to love anyone anymore but i did in the end and i feel great now.
you can make... (read in full...)
He doesnt come home. Should I kick him to the curb?
Q. Should i stay with my boyfriend the father of our new born son? He cheated on me right after our son was born. There are nights he does not come home. But i dont feel as we have given it all we have, as he does not see a problem or try to change. Am ...
A. 18 June 2007: my father is a similar case to your boyfriends and hasnt changed to this very day. if you have to consider the emotinal hurt you might be going through becasue of his cheating, you might want to consider leaving him as your son may be affected by ... (read in full...)
19 and got prenant, my boyfriend was so excited... I miscarried but now I'm pregnant again he hates the idea! (+ my mom has kicked me out)
Q. I am having a hard time right now and I really don't know where to turn. I an 19 years old and was with my boyfriend for a little over a year when I found out I was pregnant. He already has a 4 year old son and I thought from the start he wouldn't ...
A. 18 June 2007: hi anon,
your situation is quite a tough one. your boyfriend is dealing with the miscarraige in a way that you might not understand but certainly give him some time to get over it.
your mom may have kicked you out but dont let that discourage ... (read in full...)
I dont know what to do, my partner is pregnant and still smoking! I'm healthy and getting sick of the smell!!
Q. My partner is pregnant and has not stopped smoking - she also drinks occasionally a few drinks at a time...i've kind of got my head round it a bit. However I live with her at her place and hate her smoking when i'm at home - nevermind being bad for ...
A. 14 June 2007: okay so your partner hates herself and wants to die (trust me all smokers know they are killing themselves very slowly)but i advise you dont let her take you with her to that early grave cos people who are not smokers often suffer dangerous ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up the subject of my fiery girlfriend's smelly punani with her?
Q. My girlfriend really smells-It really especially puts me off if I have to go down on her and she really smells awful. Sometimes the smell is so bad that I can smell it when she simply takes off her thong before even going down there. I think maybe ...
A. 13 June 2007: save yourself a lot of trouble so dont do the telling cos you might upset her. if she smells before taking her clothes off it means somebody else may smell it too so why dont you ask a female friend to tell her as it is a sensitive subject and she ... (read in full...)
He got someone pregnant before we met and says he wants to stick by her but doesn't want to lose me!
Q. hiya.. ive been in a relationship 4 some time now, and recently found out that my boyfriend made somebody pregnant.. which isnt a big deal as it was before i met him..he was only recently told himself and has made the desicion 2 stick by her..again ...
A. 13 June 2007: your boyfriend is an utter dissappointment to the male race. he is totally SELFISH and not taking your feelings into consideration. he wants to have his way and his way only. his plan makes no sense at all.
making such riduculous rules shows th... (read in full...)
I'm gay. My boyfriend was sleeping with my best friend for the last 12 months of our relationship!
Q. How do I get through this? Three months ago I broke up with my gay partner of 14 years. We did this because he told me he had been sleeping with my best friend for the last twelve months of our relationship. He said it was "just sex". But it was an ...
A. 13 June 2007: There's a saying that 'a tiger never changes it stripes' or loses it. i'm not too sure...so your partner is a CHEATER and will always be a CHEATER.
If you need to get over him, it starts with changing your mind set. See him as the cheater ... (read in full...)
How do I get a really smoooooooth shave in my genital area?
Q. Im 16 When i shave my vagina it leaves red dots and when i run my hand over my vagina it feels like i havent shaved, its all prickly and hurts.. how can i make it feel and look like there's no hairs there. Also do guys get turned off by a little bit ...
A. 12 June 2007: like everyone else has said do it for yourself not anybody else. Have you considered laser treatment? it's a permanet hair removal technique that lasts nearly forever so no pricklies. Downside is its expensive and you might want your hair back som... (read in full...)
I hate my girlfriend's tats!
Q. My girlfriend has two tattoos, both of which i hate, and she has plans for more. i dont know if i will be able to cope with them. Has anybody got any suggestions? ...
A. 12 June 2007: The thing is she's your girlfriend and you must like her to be with her. so have a nice chat about this, trust me communication does a lot of good. she probably doesnt know how you feel. another thing is most tattoos are for showing off so i... (read in full...)
Why is my ex suddenly contacting me?
Q. So, now my ex and I are at a point where I've tried getting over her and i was slightly successful (very recent breakup). But out of no where she begins to contact me once or twice a day for about 6 days straight. I'm here thinking, oh my god, maybe ...
A. 12 June 2007: your ex has only one mission: to toy with your emotions. she knows you are the one who still feels something and she is taking advantage of you by contacting you regularly when she isnt hoping to get back with you. Next time she calls, don't pic... (read in full...)
Why is my ex suddenly contacting me?
Q. So, now my ex and I are at a point where I've tried getting over her and i was slightly successful (very recent breakup). But out of no where she begins to contact me once or twice a day for about 6 days straight. I'm here thinking, oh my god, maybe ...
A. 12 June 2007: your ex has only one mission: to toy with your emotions. she knows you are the one who still feels something and she is taking advantage of you by contacting you regularly when she isnt hoping to get back with you. Next time she calls, don't pic... (read in full...)
Is he just using me for what he wants?
Q. heya right I'm stuck! I have loved this boy for 4 years now and I have been with him before and we've been on and off for 3 years and now I want to be with him properly and now hes just being agressive and like saying he dont know what to do?! is ...
A. 5 June 2007: ok here goes....
you love him, he loves you not.
if he is being agressive towards you that's a clear sign
that he doesnt WANT you but he doesnt want to say it in words.
so i suggest you read between the lines: pack your bags and leave. but ... (read in full...)
Why do men change when they have been with you for a few years?.
Q. Hi all, Would like your thoughts on this subject. Why do men change when they have been with you for a few years?. I remember when we first used to kiss and cuddle and it was like melting in his arms. The sex was the best ever, and we couldnt lea...
A. 5 June 2007: Hi Tellulah
I know what you mean and I have been there before.
I dont think your guy is just lazy but the problem is that you just dont make him jump like you used to. the fact that he is still with you shows that he does care about you but hone... (read in full...)
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