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writes:Is 16 too young to be engaged?I've been with my boyfriend over a period of 4 years. (I understand 12 is a young age to get with someone and for it to be on going for 4 years) and we recently got engaged. I understand 16 is a very young age to be commiting yourself to somebody and i'm not having doubts as such it's just some people (friends basically) are saying me and my guy are way too young to get married but I try to explain to them that just because we are engaged it doesn't mean we are going to get married straight away and that we wont get married until another 5 - 6 years IF we do get married. And then they say "yes well you are too young to be engaged". Thing is my parents were engaged at 16 and WERE happily married for 25 years. So I don't necessarily see the problem.I do understand that just because we are engaged it doesnt mean we are going to spend the rest of our lives together or even get as far as marriage all I know is that its what I want now and thats all that counts - I dont know how I will feel in a couple of years time or even a few months time but I like I said I know how I feel now and I know what I want now. Thats all that matters to me.So your opinions will be much appreciated :) Thanksxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): This was on my mind for such a long time...
My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. We love each other to bits, and talk about everything in our future. Past 2 months I really thought hard, and I knew I wanted to get engaged to her. So i saved those 2 months, got a ring, and surprised her the other week.
I'm 19, and 18. We're both at University for the next 3 years, but quite close. We trust each other and plan to have the wedding as soon as we finish Uni.
I don't think age comes into the equation really. If you are so positive about it, and know you want it, it should work.
I, personally, can't wait, and i've never been so excited in my life :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): I have been with my boyfriend for a year and we have dated on and off before this time since the begining of our 8th grade year (we are now in our jounior year) I love him soo much and if yo love your boyfriend as much I don't see the problem with being engaged. Just wait until you are both ready for marraige and you should be fine.
Good luck with everything
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): i completly agree with you me and my boyfriend are eighteen and nineteen and are engaged. we have alot of people telling us the same stuff, just dont let them discourage you. only u know your heart. i hope everything works out with you and your boyfriend.
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reader, m698778  +, writes (20 May 2007):
16 is indeed very young to be engaged. you have many years ahead of you to decide and find your true love. you should think about this....
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reader, DV1  +, writes (19 May 2007):
 I think that 16 is too young to be engaged or married. You're still a child, and you have many years to figure out what you want. You still have high school to finish, then college, and then the real world. You're going to become a different person over the years, and you need to decide if you want this person to be the one you share those years with. You also have to think about the possible hurt and/or jealousy you could put your guy through. The typical young girl likes to go out and party and get with different guys, or play mind games... If you're willing to skip the games and be good to him, than I would at least wait until you're both 18.DV1
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reader, Farris +, writes (19 May 2007):
 I was sceptical when I saw the title but as I read your question, I saw that you're being really mature about this, so I think you're going to be fine.
Love at a young age is a tricky business... People always telling you that you're too young, and so on, but how can they know how you're feeling?! The best thing to do is to keep being as sensible and open minded about it as you are being now.
Just follow your heart, but keep it simple until you're absolutely sure you're ready to commit properly. Obviously if you do want to spend your whole lives together then there's no reason why you can't wait for a while to get married!
Best wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2007): Well- that is very young in general. People do the majority of change and finding themselves in college ( 19-24 years of age) and the human brain doesnt stop growing or developing until you are in your late 20's- you are right in the middle of the bracket where impulsive decisions are at their higest( 14-17)- So i highly advise you to stay engaged with him- but do not get married until you are in your 20s and are more mature and established. Also if you get married and end up being pregant- you wont have much chance for an education- your funds will most likely be soaked up with a child. PLEASE wait- you will be missing out on a big part of life- and that is the college experience and meeting people. Good luck.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (19 May 2007):
 Okay, I'm with you. I don't think 16 is too young to be engaged although I think it's too young to be married. It worries me that you're asking because it makes me think you don't really want it, but then you say you do want it which makes me think the reason you're asking this question is so that you have opinions to throw at your friends when they attack your decision to get engaged right? Thing is, I think you need to use your own reasons for that. If you love this guy enough to get engaged you must have reasons why you think they're wrong and you're right and your reasons will be a lot more convincing than ours.
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