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writes:Ive been in an age gap relationship for 3 years, me and my partner got married last year and life couldn't be better. Im 20 and he is 59 so a 39 year age gap. Sometimes I feel like we are the only people in the world with a big age gap but I sometimes come across people with the same or larger age gap.We have just started trying for a baby and everythings going fine!Anyone else in a large age gap?? I'd love to know!
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reader, chick989 +, writes (15 December 2009):
i'm 18, my boyfriend of a year and i have a 32 yr age gap and are very happy together - our only disputes have been due to other people (mainly his 16 yr old daughter). what was the outcome of your situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): Im currently dating a man 20 years older than me, I am nineteen and he is the same age as my parents, but hes not like them, he doesnt have any ex wives or kids and he is athletic and outgoing, I love hime a lot, but I told him that we should go our seperate ways due to our age gap, im sure hes going to want kids soon and I doubt my parents will accept this relationship, I dont know if I made a mistake by letting him go ........
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reader, confusedandmissunderstood +, writes (5 August 2007):
hi. good luck with the baby. just a quick question. what do your family think about it?
im 23 and have been asked out by a 15 yr old girl. im not to shure if its leagal or not. could you give me some advice please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): yes hun ure not alone im 18 and my partner is 53 and i have never been happier we live in kent and are love each other dearly age is nothing people are somtimes cruel but as long as ur happy then who cares ay! I hate it when people pre judge but it nice to hear someone in exactly the same potion as me
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): Hi I am 29 and my husband is 61, we have been married for 7 yeaRS and are very happy. As other people have said, it's other people who have the problem!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007): I'm in a relationship with a man 2o years older than me we've been together a while now and are getting married this year. yes we have had problems with certain family members not wanting to accept it, but then its us in the relationship not them. if they can't be happy for us i would rather they weren't there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): I am in a relationship which will exceed all that I have read here. I am a 73 year old male and I have a 22 year old boy friend and we want to enter into a Civil Partnership. He is in China, I am in the UK. We have spent 7 months living together in China and he will need to obtain a Civil Partners Visa .from The British Embassy in Beijing... I am sure that eventually we will be able to meet all the conditions required but if the Immigration Officer in the Embassy is not satisfied that the relationship is a genuine one we could be refused the visa. Clearly the age difference will be a problem but we love each other and why should there be this kind of discrimination. The local Registry Office has informed me that as far as they are concerned there will be no problem. I believe we have a credibility problem and I can see no reason why that should be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): Hi there :)
I think it's fantastic that you guys are confident and happy in your relationship. You're right too many people are negative about it. In fact I'm working on a TV documentary about this and would love to talk to you more about it. We want to give people the chance to prove that age gaps don't matter and that love is what it's all about.
Drop me a line on [email address blocked]
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reader, Say It Straight +, writes (12 June 2007):
Hi,it's good to see so many positive posts here, normally when someone posts an age gap question then the same old reasons get wheeled out yet again, kids, pensions, "when your forty, he'll be eighty" etc etc, SO WHAT, there are so many other reasons that relationships can fall apart, so why people get so worked up over age gaps i do not know.Most young women want a man who will look after them, respect them and be there for them, most men just want a woman who will love them and be faithful, God, i could go on forever but when you think of all the reasons why people are attracted and want to be with one another there is nowhere that age gaps are the first real negative point against it.Age gap relationships are only a problem to other people on the outside who do not understand, I have a girlfriend 23 years younger than me, the only problems that we have had is from outsiders or because of my baggage coming out of a ten year marriage and a bitter 2 year divorce, incidentally my wife ran off with our postman, it had nothing to do with my girlfriend, before anyone jumps in on that one, my girlfriend has been so supportive throughout but i know that it affects her sometimes, especially when she sees that it upsets me so much, sometimes i feel that i unintentionaly leave her out in the cold, but this again has nothing to do with our age gap.Your not alone, there are many people out there in relationshps who love their partners and only want to be with them and make each other happy forever, there is no difference to their relationships than yours, you don't need people outside your relationship to make your relationship work,Good LuckAGE GAPS ARE ONLY A PROBLEM WHEN OTHER PEOPLE MAKE IT SO
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 59, we started dating 7 months ago
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): I am 55 and my partner is 82 (27.6 yrs). I have never had a problem with the age gap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): I'm currently dating a man who is 17yrs older than me and I've never been so happy! I think a relationship depends on the individuals involved. Not my first relationship with a large age gap, I once dated a man 25yrs older. That relationship didn't work out since I was more of a mid-life crisis. If a couple is in ANY relationship for the right and/or same reasons they can make it work - regardless of outside opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): I am a 35 yr. old woman who has been in a very unhappy marriage for over 11 years. Many ups and downs. Currently I am separated. My husband accepted a position with alot of travel where he is away from my daugter and I. I met an older man of 65 2 years ago. It started out as friends but the feelings have really grown. He makes me feel like the woman I should have always been. I actually feel like I am back in college when I am around him and he brings such peace in my life. The frustrating part is my family. My parents really want me out of my marriage. I have mentioned my male friend to them. They even met him once. They liked him but said that I have my whole life ahead of me and that I have to really look at that. Why does like always have to be so complicated. You finally meet an angel and then there is another hurdle. Anyone else have this happen to them.
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reader, robert +, writes (21 May 2007):
Hi.
I am 52 and in a relationship with a 17year old girl. she loves me very much and we really get on well. my wife knows of this affair and is leaving me. I have two grown up children who have left home. i feel terrible about the split in my family but also feel dedicated to my girlfriend. have looked and looked for other couples in similar age gaps to try to convince myself its ok but find them very hard to find. what do you think i should do. please write back to me and would be great to have your email address to email you as am sure this would help.
many thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): I'm eighteen and i'm in a relationship with a forty-seven year old... we haven't told our families but some of our firends know. Mine have been very supportive, because they've been there through the three year buildup and realize that it's serious. his mainly just think it's cool that he's dating a hot eighteen year old . Other people have been terrible though.. But screw them, you should only do what makes you happy. Couples like you are inspiration to us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): oh dear im glad im not dating someone 40 years older than me an trying for a baby 80 year old dad 40 year old mum 20 year old kid .im sure hun when he is 80 u wont be around i hope you r being realistic
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): When I was twenty-one I was dating a fifty-six year old. Everyone thought it was weird, but we were happy. So to hell with them. If you love the person it doesn't matter - just be ready to put up with snide comments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2007): I'm not in such a large gap myself, but I can direct you to people who are in the same situation as you. Are we allowed to post links to other support forums? If so:
www.mindtheagegap.com/forum
Full of wonderful, open, bright people in normal age gap relationships. They help tremendously. It's a very tight knit community who give great advice and support.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (19 May 2007):
 I've been in an on and off relationship with an 18 year old(I'm 22 myself). If you two care about each other, then it shouldn't matter. At the same time, you may need to understand that he may be in a different mindset altogether. I'm noticing with just a five year difference that she is afraid of being committed. If you're not afraid of a serious commitment, then stick by his side, and don't play games. Once guys hit about 21, they start thinking more seriously about commitment than mind games...DV1
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