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writes:I was with my partner for 16 years and its been 8months since we separated. I found out that she might have been cheating me. Since she had found a new boyfriend within a week. She basically left with no expanation and has not made any contact since. How do I move on and reduce the amount of time thinking and dwelling on my past thoughts of my ex.
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (20 May 2007):
theres no sure fire way of moving on from a broken heart, over the course of life we all pick one up at one point or another. the only cure is time.
especially after such a long time together, you'll have an empty social calender, an empty home and a feeling of loss and thats just magnified by the dwelling and thinking. the 'why me' thoughts are killer.
for me the best thing to do was go out, meet new friends/old friends, take up hobbies. youve got a chance to do things in life you missed out on. get out there and take life on.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (20 May 2007):
 There comes a time to realize when it's time to cash in our chips. If you two are split up and she's moved on, then you have your answer right now. You lucky in a way - you've got definite closure. I know that things seem hard now, but you know that she won't interfere with your future. This is your chance to take some you time, then move on to better things.
Best wishes,
DV1
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2007): Its never easy getting over a break up, especially one of a 16 year relationship. don't assume that she cheated on you because thatll just lead to self doubt, the person that answered this question before me is right, you should get out and enjoy life, time is the greatest healer (forgive me for how cheesey that was, but there's not really another way to put it). Hoped that helped.
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reader, kenny +, writes (19 May 2007):
 Its never easy splitting up with someone that you have loved, and been in a relationship with, 16 years is a long time the two of you were in a relationship. You suspected she was cheating on you, then she finds a new boyfriend within a week, the likellhood is that this is probably the guy she was seeing while she was with you.
I know its hard but over time you will forget about her, go out with friends socialise, start a hobby, do anything that will take your mind away from her.
In time you will meet someone else and fall in love again and forget all about your ex.
Good luck
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