Should I ask to go for a friendly drink and a catch up? Am I being foolish to think that we'll be able to work things out?
Q. Hi, im 22 and just last week my relationship of 3 years came to an end. This came about because we argued a fair bit and i admit i didnt do my best to fix things, my boyfriend is the one that did it, over the phone (it hurt that he was such a coward ...
A. 12 June 2007: i think the letter idea is a good one- it will give you a chance to say exactly what you want without it coming out wrong. do you think it will be well recieved? it may be that he is stubborn and wants you to make the first move and this wil... (read in full...)
I'm sick of all the lies and broken promises...
Q. Hey im 18 and i have been with my girlfriend for 2 years and 8 months now. and things have been good. just I'm sick of all the lies and broken promises.. Like i set boudaries for both of us to follow uno like normal things. and she always promises ...
A. 2 June 2007: this story sounds so much like mine its scary
all my bf has done is lie to me and break promises. we also have a 6 month old baby
im sorry to say this but im ending my relationship with him. i just cant trust him anymore... (read in full...)
I'm not saying it's wrong to have a past...but how does one deal with it?
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-girlfriend-gave-her-ex-blow-jobs-why.html A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): It is "disgusting"... Why would i find it to not be "disgusting"?. Yes when she does it to me that fine because its me, ...
A. 2 June 2007: i have this same problem.
my guy is 11 years older than me and basically just rubbed my face in his past when we first met. i understand that everyone has a past( i do myself- i wasnt a virgin when we met) so i tried to get over it
but he ... (read in full...)
Now we now have to put our lives on hold while he is tested for every STI there is. How could he be so reckless?
Q. Last Friday my boyfriend (of nearly four years) flew out to hong kong (on business) and went out with a few friends on saturday night. He called me on monday to say that somehow he had got completely drunk and somehow a girl had gone back to his...
A. 2 June 2007: this is the type of thing id never be able to get over. it would haunt me for the rest of my life with him and id never be able to trust him again
the only positive thing that has come from this situation is that altough he cant be trusted ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and want a relationship, but I fret about the size of my penis..any advice?
Q. Hi iam 17 and still a virgin i would love to have a relationship with a girl but iam very insecure about the size of my penis as it is only 6 and a half inches when erect should i be woried or am i fretin about nothing ...
A. 1 June 2007: this a good size
about the same as my bf and he is really proud of his... (read in full...)
I want to tell him the truth that I lied but I don't know if it'll make the situation better or worse. HELP!!!
Q. Hi...Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half and we just had a son together. The problem is that we live 20 mins from each other and I barely ever see him and when we have plans to see each other it's very rare he'll come over. ...
A. 31 May 2007: honesty if the best policy-
my guy lies to me about things and now i dont trust him at all and am leaving him.
id much rather know that i'll always get the truth no matter how bad... (read in full...)
Should I ask to go for a friendly drink and a catch up? Am I being foolish to think that we'll be able to work things out?
Q. Hi, im 22 and just last week my relationship of 3 years came to an end. This came about because we argued a fair bit and i admit i didnt do my best to fix things, my boyfriend is the one that did it, over the phone (it hurt that he was such a coward ...
A. 31 May 2007: ive been in this situation too honey and you have my sympathy-
his coldness towards you is like a knife to your heart after all the intimacy you have shared.
the worst thing you can do now though is chase after him no matter how much you cra... (read in full...)
Sometimes I wake up and for a while my world feels like it's tumbling into Hell.
Q. Sometimes I wake up and for a while my world feels like it's tumbling into Hell. I cannot explain this because I can find happiness in friends, the arts, nature...but for some reason I have mornings where I wake up and feel "Oh God this life is ...
A. 31 May 2007: i think we all feel like this sometimes honey.- usually its for a reason though.
it could possibly be a hormonal thing- or maybe your just not a morning person.
you have suffered trauma which could be a factor. if your worried about this i thi... (read in full...)
Do men sort of fall out of love with their woman after they have his baby?
Q. I had a baby a mo. and a half ago. Lately, I feel like maybe my boyfriend resents the responsibility I have brought upon him. We were friends for like 6 yrs. before we got together and I was dating a friend of his. Well, we were just seeing ...
A. 26 May 2007: i have a 6 month old and have never felt so loved or cared for since he was born. he is the father of my baby and iam the mother of his and this bonds us more than anything else ever could.
i think you should talk to your partner about how he f... (read in full...)
Things are great...except I hardly ever feel like having sex with my bf!!!
Q. hey, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and things are great... except when it gets to the bedroom.. i can be sexually involved with him... but i hardly ever feel like actually having sex. I know this isnt normal but i would like to know if ...
A. 24 May 2007: sorry to be graphic but do you normally orgasm when you have sex?
whenever ive been with a partner in the past who didnt know how to satisfy me in the way after a while i just cant be bothered with the effort of it.
ive been with the same gu... (read in full...)
I'm 18, virgin, and furious!
Q. Hi, I'm quite a pathetic case really. I'm 18 and still a virgin. Being a bloke its not something that i've admitted - I even spun my best mates off with bullshit stories about how i got layed. I hate myself for it. I don't understand why t...
A. 24 May 2007: i was 17 when i lost my virginity and i was completely and totally head over heels in love with the guy.
i had the opportunity to lose it with others and everyone else was but i really wanted to lose it to someone i cared for.
and im so gla... (read in full...)
How do I drop a hint to my married co-worker, that I really him?
Q. I work with a manager who is about 48 yrs old. I like him a lot for his maturity, confidence, and sincere pride in his job and life. I'm a 20 yr old girl, but feel like he is someone I could get along really well with. I don't know if he likes me ...
A. 24 May 2007: dont tell him.
this is not fair to him, his wife or his kids.
just think how you would feel if your husband cheated on you for a girl or how youd feel if your dad went off with someone the same age as you.
try and build a relationship and... (read in full...)
What does he mean by... "I'm only happy when you're happy" - given that he never asks me if I'm happy?!
Q. My husband of 7 years tells me he's happy when I'm happy. He will never ask me if I'm happy???, He will only mention "I'm Happy When Your Happy honey" or "As Long As Your Happy, That Makes Me Happy" whenever I get excited about something like a new ...
A. 23 May 2007: my bf says this kind of thing to me all the time.
i think its just to shut me up. he thinks it sounds good and covers all bases so he doesnt have to go into much of a discussion with me... (read in full...)
What kind of women do men like?Moral, level headed girls or blondes who are sexually adventurous?
Q. what kind of women do men like? i am pretty, intelligent and fairly well educated. i am a quiet well spoken sort of person. my boyfriends ex's all seem to be loud mouthed and a little slutty with few morals he told me he likes 'proper blo...
A. 23 May 2007: thanks you for your replies guys,
yos, its funny you should say that but this is something that i have asked him myself "how would you like it if i said...." i didnt take it any further than this but i think i got my point across.
i think he ha... (read in full...)
I'm still finding it hard to get over a boyfriend who broke up with me a year ago.
Q. Dear cupid, I'm still finding it hard to get over a boyfriend who broke up with me a year ago. Our relationship was very serious from the outset and he told me he loved me after two weeks. I felt the same way and things were going great until he t...
A. 22 May 2007: this exact same thing happened to me 6 years ago.
the guy dumped me out of the blue then got another girlfriend straight away. then he dumped her and started sleeping with me again- even though he had another girlfriend who he was cheating... (read in full...)
We occassionally have unprotected sex. Is counting days safe?
Q. my boyfriend and I tend to have unprotected sex... ehm, last month we did, he didnt come, we stilled vowed not to do it again. but over the weekend we got carried away and the same thing happend... again he didnt come but ive been following the ...
A. 21 May 2007: there are around 5 days a month when you can get pregnant but dont take anything to chance. sperm can stay alive inside of you alot longer than you think so you could still fall pregnant- even if he doesnt come.
i was lax about this and now have... (read in full...)
Period started-had sex-and then the period stopped! Now it has started again! Could I still be pregnant?
Q. hey .. im a female .. i know its a males account but its my boyfriends and i cba to make my own .. ok i got my period about a week ago and i had sex .. then it stopped .. and its just started again yesterday .. what does i mean and could i be ...
A. 21 May 2007: women dont normally get pregnant while they are on their periods.
your cycle is every 28 days and you have a 5 day window around 10-14 days after your last period and around 10-14 days before your next when you are ovulating and can get pregnant... (read in full...)
Is there an ideal age to become pregnant? If so, what is it?
Q. Is there an ideal age to become pregnant? I'm basically asking for health concerns (increase in birth defects, etc.) My husband and I are pretty healthy, and neither one of us smokes and we only drink on occasion, if that helps. I real...
A. 21 May 2007: ive just had a baby and read absolutely every piece of medical advice going.
there is no ideal age but there are slightly higher risks for women over 35 and doctors encourage these women to take additional tests.
as long as you are happy and he... (read in full...)
He's picking on me all the time. And he threatens to make my daughter's life miserable if I don't get out of the house.
Q. tonight my partner gets back from his work trip. we aren't getting on and he keeps asking me to go away for the weekend - so he doesn't have to pay to stay in a hotel which is what he has done the past 2 weekends running, as he doesn't want to ...
A. 17 May 2007: who does this man think he is threatening a child?
good luck and i really hope you manage to get away from him soon
x... (read in full...)
She slept with someone else just to get back at me. Am I correct to have doubts about getting back together with her?
Q. My girlfriend and I broke up (mutually agreed upon) for irreconcilable differences. No cheating on either part. However, after I moved out (having lived together for two and a half years), I tried to get through the split-up as best I could, after ...
A. 17 May 2007: i think your right about your doubts.
i think this is doomed. a very simlilar thing happened to me and my bf after a temporary split and we have never recovered from it. 3 years later it is still causing problem in our relationship to the point wh... (read in full...)
Should I stay and keep working on it, or should I leave?
Q. I am in a really bad place in my life. My husband and I have been married for almost four years now. I have two girls from a previous marriage (it did not end well, he was very abusive) and one two year old boy from this marriage. In this four year ...
A. 17 May 2007: i think you already know the answer to your question. this man has treated you very badly. one affair could be deemed a mistake but 3? this is disrestful to you and to your marriage. all i can tell you is that when i was a child my mum and da... (read in full...)
Can I still trust my friend?
Q. Hey there, where to start... im 17 and im having problems trusting my best mate as i recently found out she slept with my ex boyfriend twice when we were still together. me and my boyfriend split up around 2 months ago over a row we had because ...
A. 16 May 2007: i couldnt be friends with this girl if she was the last person on earth.
the reason my friends are my friends is because i trust them completely... (read in full...)
What can I do to get some happiness into my life again?
Q. dear agony aunts__x it isnt exactly a question i have but i need to get it out and off my chest, i am a complete mess!!! i dont know what to do, who to talk to, who not to talk to, where to go, where not to go and i am soo paranoid!!! well...
A. 16 May 2007: ah sweetie bless you.
please try and talk to someone about this. i understand it would be hard for a teenage girl to talk to her grandpa about this stuff but is there a female in your family you could go to?
you should definalty tell s... (read in full...)
Are the nudie pics on his phone really normal?
Q. is it normal for my boyfriend to masturbate watching tv, while i sleep beside him, is it normal for a man of 38 yrs old to have naked pictures of other women on his phone, is it normal for him to hide porn in our home. We are 3yrs together...
A. 16 May 2007: i agree completely with eyeswideopen.
this is exactly what i was going to say... (read in full...)
She shouted out a name when we were making love... her broth-in-law's!
Q. After an evening apart over the weekend (me out with my mates and my girlfriend out with her sister and brother-in-law) we were in bed the following morning. Both sleepy and both still a little tipsy from the night before we started playing ...
A. 16 May 2007: sometimes when you spend a lot of time around someone you can accidentally say their name or call them something else.
for example i have accidentally called my bf by my male best friends name or my brothers name or even my sons.
the fact that... (read in full...)
What else can we do to enjoy sex without loosing our virginities?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend now for 3years. We are now both 17 and feel it is the right time to lose our virginity to each other. We have done all the bj thing, but i feel that we needed to go further. So last night she came over to ...
A. 16 May 2007: anal sex is still technically sex. i would say that by doing this act you have both lost your virginity to each other but i know what you mean
you could try using sex toys or aids (vibrators etc) alot of couples enjoy this but in the uk you have... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and he makes me do things I don't really want to do. Does he care about me at all?
Q. im confused about my boyfriend. we have been together for 4 years and live together with a small baby. iam 23 and he is 34. he tells me he loves me and cares for me and i think he genuinly believes that he does but he has treated me quite badl...
A. 15 May 2007: thank you gf, the cab is already something i plan to look into. i am seriously considering leaving him and want to protect my assetts.
he is a very doting and caring father but i worry about him being a bad role model for our son- he also calls me... (read in full...)
I'm blonde--he's brunette..will our children have 'ginger' hair?
Q. if i am blonde haired and my boyfriend is brown haired does this mean our children have a good chance of having ginger hair?...
A. 15 May 2007: this is just a myth.
my bf is blonde and i am brunette and we have a blond 5 month old baby... (read in full...)
I cheated on my bf and he is stressed! Do I start the long process of letting go when there may still be a chance?
Q. Hey all, it seems to be the end of my 3 and a half year relationship.....at least think it is. Last year I cheated on my boyfriend one night with my ex and although everyone said it was never going to happen- he took me back. What I encountered was ...
A. 14 May 2007: my boyfriend cheated on me 3 years ago and our relationship is also on the verge of falling apart.
i have never been able t forgive him for this. the way it happened- the way i had to find out (through a friend of mine) and all the horrific... (read in full...)
He kissed another girl but said he pulled away immediately. Why can I not forget about it?
Q. I know there are a ton of questions about this, but.. my boyfriend and I had a long distance relationship for 8.5 months at the time, the longest we went without seeing each other was about 3 weeks though. After my birthday, which he came to see me ...
A. 12 May 2007: this happened to me 3 years ago in my relationship and i still havent forgot about it. my guy went on 2 dates with this girl tho who happened to be a friend of his ex and knew some of the people i knew.
i also had to find out about this from a f... (read in full...)
Is this relationship worth wasting any more of my time on?
Q. Hi im a 23 year old female. I have been with my bf for 4 years now and we have a 5 month old baby. im really unhappy in this relationship and have been for some time.he is 11 years older than me and has a long past some of the more explicit de...
A. 12 May 2007: thank you for your replies. my son is definatly the reason that i am still here. i suggested couples counselling but he point blank refused to even consider it. it is the same with everything. he wont discuss things then it escalates to an a... (read in full...)
Is this relationship worth wasting any more of my time on?
Q. Hi im a 23 year old female. I have been with my bf for 4 years now and we have a 5 month old baby. im really unhappy in this relationship and have been for some time.he is 11 years older than me and has a long past some of the more explicit de...
A. 12 May 2007: thanks for your replies- our son is definalty a factor in my trying to make it work. and i think its the only reason that now hes even bothered about how i feel. i mentioned couples counselling and at first he point blank refused to even cons... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any idea why my periods are so strange?
Q. hi its just a short question, does anyone have any idea why my periods r strange?? i dont ge period pains but they kill me with pain it doesnt hurt or give me stomach pains but i get a pain i can not cope with when the blood actually comes o...
A. 12 May 2007: hi, i wouldnt say this is "abnornmal"- i think every womans period is different but this isnt something i have experienced. do you have any other symtoms such as discharge or a smell thats not right? how would you describe the pain? is it sha... (read in full...)
Do other guys say explicit things during sex ?
Q. I'm a sixteen year old female. My boyfriend of two years is eighteen years old. About two months ago we became sexually active. Sometimes he'll say things explicit things during sex. It doesn't make me uncomfortable.. infact it kind of turns me on ...
A. 11 May 2007: yeah- my guy does it too- nothing too over the top.
i dont really join in just answer his question but its definatly normal. if you both enjoy it keep doing it!... (read in full...)
Because of the past I have a hard time trusting my bf. How do I get over this?
Q. i am currently with this amazing guy, who treats me well, and everything with him feels soo right! but, i have a past of bad relationships, being used, and being dumped.....and i have alot of anxiety because of all of that i worry about everyt...
A. 11 May 2007: talk to your guy- tell him how your are feeling and your insecurities. a great guy will appreciate your openness and honesty
the only person that can reassure you that he wont hurt you is him... (read in full...)
I'm married to her but she has become moody and she's hard to love. I met someone else and I want more-what should I do?
Q. I've been married 9 months to someone who used to be lovely, but over recent months has become easily annoyed and moody, and very hard to love. just recently I met a girl who I get on really well with and we connected, but altho were good friends we ...
A. 11 May 2007: i think i can empathise with your wife- im currently feeling down and am always getting accused of being "moody"
from my point of view its because i just had a baby and have been neglected by my partner throughout our relationship.
there i... (read in full...)
I can't help but feel she would compare me to other partners. Does this happen?
Q. Im having trouble when im not with my girlfriend I worry about every little thing, for example the other day we were shopping and a guy she only says hi to on the odd occasion came running up to her from across the shop (it was a big store) just to ...
A. 11 May 2007: your situation sounds a lot like mine.
my boyfriend is 11 years older than me and has a lot more experience and a lot more of a past than me. we met throug a friend of mine who was an ex girlfriend of his-
he shared a lot of info about his p... (read in full...)
He's married and I like him alot! I am down because I know we'll never date...what should I do about my feelings?
Q. I have very strong feelings for a married man(38) with 3 children. I think about him all day, everyday. I work with him through a charity organisation so am in touch with him now and again and am always trying to think of reasons to contact him. I ...
A. 11 May 2007: Hi- i know this is probably not what you want to hear but try and see this from his wife and kids point of view.
would you like it if it was your dad or your husband and the father to your children?
sorry if i have been a little insensiti... (read in full...)
I still love my ex, but we both have someone. What should I do?
Q. Well i dont no were to start. im in love with my ex bf kieran, but im now with matty, but matty is a strange person. me and matty got 2geva fine and for the first 3 weeks everything was brilliant no arguments nothing. but then one night time me and ...
A. 10 April 2006: Hi i agree with kt. enjoy your youth and it will all work out for the best in the end. Im 22 but i remember being 13 how confusing it is. If he still likes you he will get back with you... (read in full...)
How do I get back to being the social butterfly I once was?
Q. Well okay i use to be a very out-going, bubbly person but just over the last year i've turnned into such a home body. i don't think being a home body is a bad thing i love really but i'm so young and its seem like a waste of life. but it seem eve...
A. 10 April 2006: Hi Angelicc, the same thing happened to me when i met my boyfriend. He was very possessive at at 1st and i just found it easier to stay in with him than go out and argue. My friends stopped aasking me to go out and in the end was spending my day a... (read in full...)
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