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Well for years n years ive sat back watched my mates and their relationships and learnt alot im the one they always come to for help even the boys so I think that im preddy gd at this n I just want to be able to help other people like I help my friends.
I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend of two years and 2 months and I often use my experiences that ive had with my boyfriend as help for other people who have had problems that ive experienced in the past with my bf.
Anyways I hope I can do alot of gd on here and if anyone has anything they would like to ask me feel free to email me.
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I'm not sure what is happening to my body, could it be mini heart attack? What should I do?
Q. i'm not sure what is happening to my body. Couple days ago i had pain on my left side of my temperals while i was talking. I just felt pressure. furthermore, for this condition, this happens on and off, i get these pain on my lower right intestine ...
A. 3 September 2007: hi huni im pretty sure ur not having a mini heart attack your way too young but im not a doctor the best thing to do is get urself checked out as soon as possible by a doctor and tell ur dad about it. they will tell you whats what there n hopefully ... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend haven't been the happiest lately, and I'm attracted to another who doesn't know I have a boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm having relationship problems. I have been in a happy relationship with my boyfriend for the past 8 months. Lately we have been very rocky. I've started to fall for another guy, i've only met up with him twice, i haven't 'cheated' on my boyfr...
A. 3 September 2007: hi huni ouch a tough one i was sorta in same situation my self not long ago i was attracted to another lad but he knew i had a bf turned out he had a gf to but it didnt stop us we ended up doin stuff i told my bf n luckily he stayed with me see the ... (read in full...)
What are the general signs that a girl/woman fancies you?
Q. i am new to the dating scene. what are the general signs that a girl/woman fancies you? only the other day a girl walked by me and looked at me for quite a time. i'm sure she fancied me? so, what are the signs that a girl fancies you? c...
A. 3 September 2007: hi huni as soon as i saw ur question i jumped at it to answer it, this is an easy one its the same as when ur 12 till when ur 112 women will always do the same flirty things so look for her givin u the eye staring at you maybe with a liddle smile or ... (read in full...)
He wants to wait until we're in our late 40s to have children! How can I convince him he's wrong?
Q. I'm 24, my husband's 26. Yesterday we were discussing about having children, and he said he wants to wait until we're in our late 40s - early 50s to have children. I've told him that's a bad idea, but he insists it will be better if we have kid...
A. 3 September 2007: hi ya i guess if i were u i would try gettin facts off the internet about middle aged pregnancys as it is alot harder if not impossible to concieve later on in life so if u wait that long u may not be able to have children at all, also things like ... (read in full...)
I'm not very tight down there! I'm worried guys dont like it...
Q. Hi. I am worried. I am sorry if this is too graphic but i feel my vagina is looser than it should be. I've felt a bit embarrased by it. It is far from tight and i am worried men do not like it. I know i can't do anything about it but i feel it is ...
A. 27 August 2007: Hi ya there is a technique women use to tighten there vagina muscles all you do is squeeze (its like clenching your bum cheeks) and release and do this for 10 minuites a day ive heard it works never tried it tho :S good luck give it a try cant hurt ... (read in full...)
Me and my ex have an on/off relationship. I like another guy but i had a girlfriend. Shall i find out if he's still with her???
Q. Hi, i really need your help. I am a teenage girl and i have a problem i need help with. You see, my ex-boyfriend and i have this make-up, break-up relationship and i have no idea if i like him anymore. But you see, trouble is he still wants me b...
A. 27 August 2007: Hi huni first of all your only young and dont need to be rushin into serious relationships i was 16 before i even had a bf n i think even that was too young as it got serious fast n im still with him now at the age of 19 and ive not experienced ... (read in full...)
This guy at school is flirting with me, am I reading the signals right?
Q. okay im going to feel and sound very stupid for asking this question, lets just say im not the most advanced at dating but yea. well theres this guy who i really, really like hes 16 (im 14) an we've reasonably good friends, havent known each other...
A. 27 August 2007: Hi huni ide say yes he does if hes wanting to get close to you wanting you to hug him n touching lips if you like him keep up the flirting he'll realise that you like him sooner or later, or if ya feel brave enuff tell him. just be carful cuz he is ... (read in full...)
I just wanted to know what are the differences between cheating in a relationship, going on the rebound and having a affair is.
Q. I just wanted to know what are the differences between cheating in a relationship, going on the rebound and having a affair is. Why do these types of relationships have a low probabilty of working out?...
A. 3 August 2007: cheating - doing anything like kissing anything sexual with someone else whilst ina relationship.
Rebound- Finishing with someone then jumpin into bed with the next person u see to try and forget about ur ex.
Affair - Is cheating just th... (read in full...)
She gave some details to some relationships, now when we make love I get that picture of her and some other guy...
Q. My girlfriend opened up and told me of the 9 sexual encounters she had over a period of 9 years, two of which was from a long term relationships, but the others were to fill in the void and get even to the steady guys she had. She had sometimes been ...
A. 3 August 2007: Look she was willing to come clean in the first place n by her own choice so thats one thing she wants to be completly honest with u n have no secrets if you are goin to get married. You cant blame her for her past and you need to start believing ... (read in full...)
I just am trying to decide whether or not to throw in the towel and just cut my losses.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now and have been living together for a year and a half now. I'm starting to wonder why we are still together though. When we first started dating everything was so fun and so new...now we argue ...
A. 3 August 2007: your young u should be out there having fun hes obviously not your mr right so i suggest u get out there n find him if neither of u are willing to try something new togeather thn ur just gunna stay as u are n ur not happy so wats the point go n find ... (read in full...)
She tells me she got walked home by the guy she was attracted to and then spent 2-1/2 hours talking to him before coming home. Her therapist says this is ok????
Q. My wife and I went to a dance and she asked me if it was ok if she danced with someone she was attracted to. She then went and spent 30 minutes up at the bar talking to 2 guys. I left (mad) and she came home at 4 in the morning told me she was at a...
A. 3 August 2007: Hey i dont know ur wife so i cant exactly say yes she definatly cheated on u cuz i could be wrong but let me put it this way. ive been with my bf 2 n half yrs n i dont get the butterflys or the excitment i used to get wen we first started goin out, ... (read in full...)
I also fear for my life, he has came very close to seriously injuring me in the past.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years, he is thirty and I am 20. I am still growing up and I would prefer to do it alone but I love him and he has helped me immensely. We have a lot of problems, there has been abuse, b...
A. 3 August 2007: hey huni only if he gets some seriouse help he cant keep putin u in danger if he loves u that much he should understand that he needs help to stop the abusing you. Men like that are controlling and like to have the power hense the blackmail if u ... (read in full...)
Can I still have sex if I'm pregnant?
Q. I am 12 weeks pregnant with my first child, can i have sex while i am pregnant...
A. 1 August 2007: YES YES YES YOU CAN! so go have some fun :)... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't find me attractive after we had such a great time together.
Q. I recently met this guy online and we just went on a second date and we had a great time and really get on, kissed loads and cuddled/held hands lots and have loads in common. He then sends me a text to say that he loves my personality and we have ...
A. 1 August 2007: hey, ye sounds to me like he has some issues maybe with commitment he wouldnt of dont those things with u unless he found u attractive unless he was using you but thn hed only be using u for sex n im guessin with jus havin 2 dates u didnt have sex. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me about his porn. How can I trust him now?
Q. I'm having big trust issues with my boyfriend right now. We've been together for about a year and a half. The problems all started about a year ago. I found some "questionable" pornographic pictures saved on his computer, which I promptly ...
A. 1 August 2007: Hey huni ever thought he was embarresed to tell you he had porn in the 1st place? its something he enjoyed but didnt want u to know about in case u thought he was pathetic or something? so after he got rid of it all he decided to get some back ts ... (read in full...)
I really fancy this footballer but have never spoken to him. Any advice?
Q. hi i am 14 and i really like this footballer who i recently saw at a football match. i have never spoken to him before and have only seen him twice, but i really fancy him because i think he is very good looking. but i wish i did not feel this way ...
A. 1 August 2007: hey huni, well to be honest you are just going to have to convince yourself that its not goin to happen. hes alot older than you, n i know your feelings wont just turn off like that like sometimes you wish they would im currently tryin to get over ... (read in full...)
Does he love me but he's just afraid to say so?
Q. I've seen this guy around town for a number of years, and I've always had a crush on him but never really met him, formally. I learned not too long ago, that he and his g/f had split up and he wasn't seeing anyone for the past 2 yrs. Since he used ...
A. 1 August 2007: I think its probably fair to say that he does love you with wat you have said so dont have doubts in your mind about that, he'll say it one day he will when hes ready just give him time i no 8 months is a long time theres something jus stopping him ... (read in full...)
I want to talk to my daughter to suport her but she seems to keep things from me. What should I do?
Q. hi everyone hope you can help me with this well this lad and my daughter are best friends and have been since they were in infant school, they are both 16 now. Well he stays with us a lot even thought he only lives a 5minute walk away as he doesn't ...
A. 1 August 2007: Hey based on what youve said about your daughter it seems to me that u can jus go right ahead and ask her maybe say excitedly "sooo ur door was open other night when i came in and i saw (lads name) with his arm around you wat was tht all about" if ... (read in full...)
I walked out of his home two weeks ago after he said he didn't want a dead relationship and he hasn't made any contact... do I ring him???
Q. I believe my relationship of 8 years is over. The past 2 years haven't been too good for either of us due to my belief that he was seeing someone else. I'm sure he had a fling but he made a lot of effort to keep us together. Alas my trust was not as ...
A. 27 July 2007: NO NO NO dont ring him honey 8 years is a long time n to be honest if you dont trust him there is no point in gettin back togeather anyway u cant have a relationship without trust im my opinion n if he hasnt made contact with u then leave him be he ... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out, only problem is I fear her rejection...
Q. I'm 17 and there is a girl who I like, 2 years younger. My famly don't like her, and I personally used to hate her, and she like wise, yet the other day when I saw her, I just longed for her. We only talked for a minute but we had matured. I want to ...
A. 27 July 2007: Hey Huni i can see you like her but theres no need to rush itll be easier n less likly she'll reject you if you 1stly become friends keep havin those liddle chats see if she starts flirting with u thn go for it food luck :)... (read in full...)
I think he prefers this new "friend" to me...
Q. First off I'm gay and I have a boyfriend that I love very much, he just met this guy that he works with and he told me that he liked him and he liked him back, and he said that it will stay a friendship and he recently started to hang out with him. ...
A. 27 July 2007: Hey huni just give him a chance at being friends with this new lad the more you moan n moan at him the more likely you are to push him away frm u right into this other lads arms. you say he told you he likes him and he likes him back you need to ... (read in full...)
Anyway if I start online dating which are the best ones and is it ok to tell them that I am a virgin?
Q. I am a 22 year old virgin female not sure about online dating. Is it ok? Though I am trying to finish college I decided not to start dating until I am 25 or 26, however not only did my mother tell me not to date during junior high and high school ...
A. 27 July 2007: Hey so heres my opinion online dating is ok i think that love is hard enough to find and spreading your search is great but it can also be very dangerous there are alot of weirdos out there and over the internet you can never really no if a person ... (read in full...)
I consider myself heterosexual with strong bi tendencies...
Q. I consider myself heterosexual with strong bi tendencies. My friend Adam is straight to the best of my knowledge, as well. Anyways, we ended up taking E together. First, we ended up making out. By the end of the night, we were naked, in bed, and ...
A. 27 July 2007: hey huni sounds pretty confusing i cant really relate to you but im gunna have a go at helping you any way ok so 1stly i cheated on my bf with sum1 i work with n we both have partners we slept togather n thn the next time i saw him we pretended like ... (read in full...)
When I was drunk she kissed me on the cheek about 3 times and asked me if I liked it? Do you think she likes me or am I just being paranoid ?
Q. well I'm a girl and I love a girl, I've never felt attracted to the same sex before. She talks to me about liking these lads but when we walk down the road she will hold my hand, seems like nothing but she stops half way down the street and we ...
A. 27 July 2007: Hey Huni well first thing that comes to my mind is does she have many friends if she doesnt then she might jus be tryin to show u how much she appreciates u as a friend. 2ndly have you told her that you have feelings for her? if yes she might jus ... (read in full...)
If a member of your own family (male) steals your clothes and shoes and cuts them up so he can wear them, is he gay?
Q. If a member of your own family (male) steals your clothes and shoes and cuts them up so he can wear them, is he gay? or whats wrong? please help...
A. 27 July 2007: maybe hes just creative and imaginative people can do alot worse things lol. Maybe hes just in touch with his femenin side or maybe hes a stylist in the making. Whatever it is theres nothing wrong with him but gettin your clothes stolen by a fella ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that I would like to have more sex? When I bring it up he just ignores me.
Q. I got married 3 weeks ago, to my boyfriend of 3 years. We are very close, and he is a wonderful, caring (and) good-looking guy - so far, marriage is good. Only one major problem - he hardly ever initiates sex, and Im very disappointed to say that we ...
A. 17 June 2007: Hey maybe the next time you have sex you should try something new and exciting maybe handcuffs and blind folds make it really nice n fun n this may make him want it more in the future if you spice it up abit and keep tryin new things. you could try ... (read in full...)
What label do I put on her?
Q. I'm kinda lost, There is this girl but i'm not sure what she is to me.. Like.. My mum has a sister.. which is my aunt.. but my aunts husband's brother is the father of the girl.. what is she to me?...
A. 17 June 2007: Hey huni shes not really anything to you cuz shes on the wrong side of your family. your aunts husbands brother is jus someone whos brother (your uncle) has married into your family. the girl would just be your aunts and her husbands niece but ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my boyfriend cheating on me?
Q. Hi. I am the person who needed help on the topic (Slept round my girlfriend's house and he broke up with me coz he didn't believe me! What should I do?). I tried calling my boyfriend this morning and by accident he pressed the button on his mobile ...
A. 17 June 2007: Hi ya 1stly you really do need to make sure your right bout this that he has cheated and that your not just jumping to conclusions. Have a good chat with him im sure the truth will come out. if he ses no and sticks to it then i suppose its all bout ... (read in full...)
He still looked at porn after we had sex. Is he addicted or something because he said that when we don't have sex he is horny and needs porn, but we did have sex.
Q. I need some major advice from all you guys out there. Please just give me your opinion on this subject. I live with my boyfriend of 9 months. We are very happy together and a few months ago I noticed that he had been to porn websites. I asked hi...
A. 13 June 2007: Hey Huni im sorry im not a man but i just wanted to say that you shouldnt worry just yet he probably just has a very high sex drive ya no men love it and women can be just as needy its not unhealthy and if it really bugs you and you dont feel your ... (read in full...)
I have somewhat recently started having feeling for a fairly good friend.
Q. I have somewhat recently started having feeling for a fairly good friend. I have known her for about a year through our church group. I would really like to go out with her, but I also don't want to hurt our friendship. The real problem however, ...
A. 13 June 2007: Hey Huni
I always said to myself DONT DATE YOUR FRIENDS i broke that and did now ive lost him and its awful im gunna listen to my advice again from now on and its what im goin to tell every1 whos falling for their friend, However if you do want... (read in full...)
I found out he was married so I've backed right off, how do I get over him when I see him all the time?
Q. What should I do - I always seem to go out with a certain 'type' of guy. They are always ones who have nothing really going for them except their looks and who are generally bad for me who end up treating me badly - so I guess they are badboy types. ...
A. 13 June 2007: Hey Huni
I no how your feeling at the miniute im tryin to get over someone its hard its taking me ages and some days i feel great and others are not so good. theres no quick fix im afraid huni but itll get better i promise think bout how many ppl ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship that my family is not OK with. How can I stay on good terms with my family, but not have to leave my boyfriend?
Q. I am in a relationship that my family is not OK with. How can I stay on good terms with my family, but not have to leave my boyfriend? A few years ago I moved to the USA, and I began a relationship with an illegal immigrant. We've been together fo...
A. 13 June 2007: Hey huni
You just have to try get thru to your family that you really love him at the end of the day they are your family and will love you no matter what and will want you to be happy what i suggest is you gettin your family to allow your bf roun... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend wants to get back together... but we have no sex life together!
Q. My ex-girlfriend wants to get back together, which is great, we get along perfect except one thing... we have no sex life together. We dated for a couple years and it began to break down when it felt like it was going to be a long term commitment. ...
A. 13 June 2007: Hey Huni
Im guessing you have never whatched the programme "Sex Inspectors" its brilliant and its two theripists gettin couples who are nearly spliting up over lack of sex in their relationship and they get them back on it by jus simply making ther... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very relaxed about his personal hygiene
Q. My boyfriend is very relaxed about his personal hygiene and is quite happy to have only one shower a day in the morning regardless of what activities he has been doing during the day and only cleans his teeth in the morning too. I am the opposite ...
A. 13 June 2007: Hey Huni one shower a day is very hygienic i no someone who has about 2 a week his gf absolutly hates it so from that aspect think your self lucky lol n ok i suppose you cant really change him but you can tempt him if he wants sex tell him he has to ... (read in full...)
I want to be with him but we're both reasonably shy and we are from completely different social groups at school so everyone would judge us.
Q. im 15 and go to a mixed comprehensive school. I really like this guy who's at my school and he likes me (we've told each other and we talk on the internet all the time) I want to be with him but we're both reasonably shy and we are from complete...
A. 7 June 2007: Hey Huni
Ya know what sod what everyone else thinks this is you and him not you and the school sure at first they might tease a liddle my friends did it to me but they soon get over it and stop and accept the fact your togather, you can handle a li... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is small! really small! Any idea on how to improve things?
Q. Hi all.. okay ive been seeing my boyfriend for a while now, the last couple of weeks we've started sleeping together, however he is really really small and im not getting any sexual gratification. He already forwarned me that he was small and I dont ...
A. 7 June 2007: Hey Huni
There are loads of different positions you can do to make it go in deeper you should check some out on the internet. I can think of two one is lie on your back with ur legs up and bent thn have him lie on top of you tht goes in really deep... (read in full...)
I love her but she wants to be friends!
Q. i made friends with this girl online and we got along so well on msn. then we went out on sunday. really had fun. started texting each other she says she misses me and stuff. and when i asked her for the next date. she says she love to.. but h...
A. 7 June 2007: Hey Huni
I dont think what your feeling is love it may feel like that but you really have to know someone inside out to love them im guessing and i dont mean this nasty but im guessing its more like an obsession your addicted to her i no what that... (read in full...)
Could I have missed my period because of exam stress?
Q. I just wondered if any one could tell me if there's something wrong with me or if its just my hormones or stress - i think i've skipped a period i think my last one was in april 20th and i was expecting my period 2 or 3 weeks into may. My period is ...
A. 6 June 2007: Hey Huni,
You can miss periods due to stress but if its been seven weeks you could be pregnant if your sexually active at the minute but if your not then im sure its nothing to worry about thyll return when your feeling a little better, if you real... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex and he 'came' inside me! Will I get pregnant?
Q. Ok I am 14 years old and i had unprotected sex with a guy that i been with for 9 months, he told me he came in me, i dont know if i might be pregnent but this happened like a week ago, will i be pregnent???...
A. 6 June 2007: Hey Huni It is a possibility If your too afraid to go to the doctors you could buy a home pregnancy test from any pharmacy like boots. But if it turns out positive you need to go to the doctors and itd be best if you told your parents or someone ... (read in full...)
Got my first proper date with an older guy on Friday... don't know what to wear or how to behave!
Q. i have my first proper date on friday night,and i am reali nevous i dont have a clue what to wear as i usually dress quite casually, and i dont wanna come on to slaggy either.i am very nervous aswell becuz hes a older than me and im not quite sure ...
A. 5 June 2007: Hey Huni
Hope hes not a great deal older than you if he is bad bad idea but if its just a yr or two then make sure you are comfortable with the cloths you put on if he likes you for who u are it doesnt matter what you wear but of course youll want... (read in full...)
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