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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello..I need unbiased advice..My boyfriend and I are both 21 years old. We have been together for a little over 2 years now. After a year of dating we decided to move in together. At first we had a lot of problems but eventually we started to work out better. That is until the last few months. We started having all kinds of different problems. And decided to live apart.So I moved back in with my parents. They are very old fashioned and religious. So it was very hard for them to accept me moving with him in the first place and then taking me back. but more on them later..the reasons we broke up are because we were having ALOT of money problems, you see, he is a visa student so he is not legally allowed to work in the US. but he works with his uncle. and i am not legally in the US which means i cant work here either which put alot of stress in the relationship beacuse it wasnt like i could just marry him to get his citizenship. Another problem was that he wanted to go out with out me,only his guy friends. which i was ok with until he started making a habit of it.and he is also thinking of moving in with his aunt and uncle because he feels like he cant afford rent anymore. But i honestly doubt he will. He also feels like he has so much going on. A lot of school and work..Now the question i have is: Is it ok for us to still be bf and gf even though we dont live together anymore? He wants to still be my bf (we are not having sex since i moved out).But i dont know if its ok. my parents are completely agaisnt it and i understand them, but i really wanna be with him. Am i being stupid for willing to wait for him to be ready to move back in with me? should i just try and let him go? or what should i do? i am just so confused..if you need additional info, just ask. -B
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (20 April 2011):
Hi there. He's an overseas student in the US on a visa.
You also say that you are not legally in the US either. Are you also an overseas student on a visa?
Because he's there on a student visa, well then that visa is eventually going to expire. Then he will be going back to where he lives, is that right?
What is the situation exactly?
Neither of you can legally stay in the US because you are only there for the purpose of study. So this is a temporary situation.
How did you first meet?
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