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*attie
writes:i really like this guy that's in my band class and art club, we talk sometimes and stuff and i really wanna get to know him better and maybe see if he likes me back without being too obvious. i need help!!!!!!!!!!11 Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Ask him. A very few males are dumb and need to be led past their own fears...just ask him if he wants to hang out...or to go pick a box of cereal..or a DVD..something stupid that you HAVE to do as an excuse. Then you'll see if he likes you.
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reader, DsuzaSam2  +, writes (30 April 2011):
If you want to know anything about him try to ask anyone of his friends about his likes,and dislikes and hobbies try to make eye contact with him daily and give a smile.Find the main thing he likes the most. Be appreciate him about his work that he is a good soccer player or basket ball always help him in his work whenever you find him doing try always tell him the tshirt or shirt you are wearing looks good on you or he is having a good dressing sense or whenever he gives advice on anything to his frnd or to u tell him he is a good adviser belive me if u do this u will really get the result 100 perc as i am guy i know what the guy like the most belive me many of my female friends has done this and they got for what they were waiting
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (30 April 2011):
Hi there. You will just have to get to know him better by talking to him more whenever you see him.
When you have your breaks during band practise, and you happen to walk towards each other - smile and say "Hi".
At other times when you happen to pass each other to walk elsewhere - such as going to the toilet - simply smile.
After a few times of doing this, he at least knows then that you would like to be friends.
Then the ball is in his court.
As far as finding out whether he likes you also, well that is going to take time. Perhaps a few weeks.
Time will tell what is going to happen.
When you do get to talk to each other, just keep it light and friendly. DO NOT whatever you do, ask him how he feels about you, or if he likes you. Just don't go there at all. That's a really bad move.
In any case, whenever you both talk, it will be fairly obvious to you by how he reacts towards you when he speaks to you.
If he looks you right in the eye when he talks, or whether he talks to you but looks all around the room at the same time - like he is a bit distracted.
If a person is attracted to another person, they will look you directly in the eye and focus on you. They won't be distracted at all. They won't be offhand when they talk to you either. There will be a feeling of connection at some level, for sure.
If on the other hand he talks to you but seems disinterested, and not very personal, that could be taken to mean there is no chemistry.
However in any case, all romantic liaisons start out as a friendship, and this is the time to see if you actually get along and if you share any common ground with each other.
You need to find out likes, dislikes, interests, hobbies, movies, books, lifestyle, family life etc.
Friendship is a really important part towards what could become a relationship.
Just don't rush things to happen too soon - take your time and make it fun. Relax and enjoy life.
Take care and best wishes.
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reader, LadyIris +, writes (30 April 2011):
 Whatever you do DO NOT move too fast, you are wise to want to get to know him better first. Because you might scare him off flirting too fast you might scare him off. Or lets say you two did get together, and you find something you really didnt like about him while your dating which will lead to drama. Just keep talking to him as a friend and build up a friendship, flirt a little bit and see how he responds. Then later afte you two become trust worthy friends ask him to go to a place you both enjoy as friends. By then you can kick up the flirting and things will become clear if he likes you or not. I hope you get your guy!
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reader, LadyIris +, writes (30 April 2011):
Whatever you do DO NOT rush things, your wise to try to get to know him before you do anything. Because youmight scare him off or if you two did get together too fast you might find something you dont like about him while your dating wich brings drama. Just keep talking to him like a friend and slowly build up then flirt a little bit and see how he responds. Then after you get to know him and you two are starting to hit it off ask him to go to a place you both enjoy as friends. By then you should be able to tell if he likes you or not. I hope you get your guy!
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reader, LadyIris +, writes (30 April 2011):
Just be yourself and DO NOT move to fast, I think your wise to want to get to know him better. Because if you move to fast you might find out something later you dont like or dont want to be with him. So be friends keep the talking going flirt a little bit and see how he responds. Then little by little build up the flirting ask him to go somewhere you both like as friends. Just take it nice and slow I hope you get your guy!
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