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writes:Okay so im new to the whole dating thing (late bloomer) i'm 17 and im dating a 20-something year old,so i haven't told anyone about him we havent gone out on a proper date yet because i always avoid making time, but we tend to just spend time together because i always bump into him as we live in the same area and everytime we do the usual stuff, chat and kiss and that. Ithe other day we met up outside and started making out in alleyway then he just started to put his hands underneath my top (not sure i should have let that happen)i like him really but i find him too touchy.i cant stop thinking about him but for some reason i'm avoiding him by not picking up his calls because i really dunno what to say but it's kind of inevitable as we live in the same area. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (20 April 2011):
Hi there. If you like him, just get to know him and find out more about him - his interests, hobbies, music, movies, books etc.
Do this first before you decide to jump into bed with him.
By "touchy", I guess you mean that he is a type who touches you a lot, whereas you are not quite so much that way yourself. In other words, he's more affectionate.
You need to set up some boundaries, so that he's clear on what you like and what you don't like.
You need to take a step back from him and gently push his hands away, so he doesn't touch you quite so much. Let him know if it bothers you.
What seems to be happening, is he wants to get into the physical stuff with you, but you are not quite ready - is that right? Or you just don't want to be hugged all the time constantly.
If it is, well then you need to just tell him and be honest with him. But be respectful, so as not to offend him.
Just say that you don't want things between you to be just about making out. You want him as a friend, who you can actually talk to and have fun with, and laugh with as well.
Just emphasise to him, the fact that making out and sex is not all there is in a relationship/friendship. There needs to be much more than that.
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