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writes:OK, Im 14 but i really like a 19 year old.... I just need advice on to how to make him to learn to like me? Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, lisa b  +, writes (2 May 2011):
 hi hunnie
for one its not that easy if u did get him to like u your gonna have alot more problems to have to deal with he is 19 years old and may want things that your not ready to do your far to young you may like him alot of even may think he is the one and you have to have him but u dont you cant make a guy like you and to tell u the truth i would really find yourself somone your own age xx
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reader, redlipzxx +, writes (30 April 2011):
sorry but you cant make someone like you and theres to big of an age gap, dont bother forget him there will be many other boyz x REDLIPZ XX
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 April 2011):
I'm afraid your age is the major factor here. You really are too young for him. You're still a schoolgirl who is legally under-age, whilst he is a (hopefully) grown man who is over age and will want sex amongst other things. As you're underage, he won't be able to do it with you without being considered a sex offender. Also, whilst I hate to shatter your dreams, you can't make a man 'learn to like you'. A man either likes you, or he simply doesn't. In this case, the guy doesn't fancy you. And that's a good thing, because I'm sure you don't want him to wind up in prison. You need to let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Take a deep breath and let it go. He's too old for you. Just enjoy a friendship with him. Unfortunatly for you there is a corner that is turned as you hit 18. I know 4 years sounds like a million to you but if you make him smile now when youre 18 those 5 years won't matter much if it is to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): 19-year-olds and 14-year-olds want very. different. things.
And see the world very differently.
What he wants will be very different from the romance you might have in mind.
And--like Dorothy Dix said--you can't "make" anyone "learn to like" you. You have no control over that. And it's a bad idea to change yourself into someone you're not just because someone else seems to like that type.
Maybe when you are 20 and he is 25, if you still like him and he's not taken, give it a go then.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (30 April 2011):
Hi there. He can't "learn to like" you. Life doesn't really work that way.
Does this guy even know you exist? What I mean by this, is do you actually say "Hi" to each other now, or talk to each other?
You being 14 and him 19 is a 5 year difference. He is already a young man, but you are still a young girl.
Unless you actually look like an 18 or 19 year old now yourself - i.e. is your figure developing? - the chances are that he looks upon you as a being child still. In which case, you don't have a chance because of this.
Also, you are a minor - being only 14.
As you haven't stated this, I can't make a true opinion on this.
If you do look about 18 or so, well then he would see you as an equal.
So the real answer depends on whether you have the body of a child or a woman.
If you do look like a child - then he probably would think of you as a little sister.
If you do look like a young woman - then he would think of you as a prospect (unless he knows your true age, that is).
It is possible he does know your age already. This would have an impact on his actions.
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reader, LadyIris +, writes (30 April 2011):
 You cant make someone like you they have to do that on thier own. I know we have all been there wanting someone to like us back but sometimes they dont. All I have to say is let it be and be yourself because pretending to be someone else just to impress someone is a big NO. Because you need them to accept them to like you for who you are. And even if he doesnt there is someone outthere who will, I was rejected by 3 guys in the past year and I really like them but then someone else came around who liked me and I fell in love with him and he is way better then those other guys the looks and every thing. So you will find someone just be patient.
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reader, LadyIris +, writes (30 April 2011):
You can make someone like you they have to do that on thier own. I know we have all been there wanting someone to like us back but sometimes they dont. All I have to say is let it be and be yourself because pretending to be someone else just to impress someone is a big NO. Because you need them to accept them to like you for who you are. And even if he doesnt there is someone outthere who will, I was rejected by 3 guys in the past year and I really like them but then someone else came around who liked me and I fell in love with him and he is way better then those other guys the looks and every thing. So you will find someone just be patient.
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reader, St. Nowhere +, writes (30 April 2011):
 To be completely honest with you it really isn't proper for him to date you. As an adult he could get in A LOT of trouble with the law for dating you. Sorry but that's the honest truth. I hope you find someone your age to love.
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