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writes:We work together. At first he was more into me than vise versa, but I fell in live with him. After hanging out sporadically for a few months, we began to date intensely and steadily, which lasted 5 weeks. I can be jealous, insecure and a little clingy, so I pulled away from him and ended our relationship bc he didn't spend enough time with me. Ultimately we both agreed that we were looking for two different types of relationships and it wasn't working. He was extremely flirtacious at work following the breakup until I asked him to stop bc it was making it harder for my feelings to die. At some point I suggested we hook up and he was down, but I changed my mind before anything happened bc I don't do casual sex well. Although he's initiated the in person flirting, I'm the one who has texted him first every time since the breakup, something I never did while we were dating. I wont do it anymore, but he never calls or texts me since the breakup.So we remained respectful and kind to each other throughout the breakup. There were no insults, anger, bootycalls, resentment, broken trust or cheating ...for these reasons I don't think its impossible for us to rekindle our romance. But how?Keep in mind I see him 5 times a week...but I'm never the aggressor...I wasnt with him the first go around...any ideas for how I can subtly seduce him (but not just for sex)..I think he was in love with me before so I was surprised when he let it end so abruptly..I think he's been rejected a lot in the past. How can I make him try for us again without coming out and saying it ?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 April 2011):
Hi there. Half the problem is you both work together. It's never a good idea to have a relationship with someone you work with.
The minute things go bad, and they inevitably do, it becomes very awkward and uncomfortable to be around each other.
There's probably no use in resuming your relationship while ever you are working together.
If one of you were to leave and work elsewhere, or at least transfer to a different department or different location, that would make it easier to work things out.
Because you are insecure and sometimes jealous, this can cause very big problems in any relationship. Unless you can change the way you are in relationships, you will always have problems. You need to have more confidence in yourself - by learning to trust people.
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