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writes:_bout a year ago me and my husband separated for about four months. I dated a guy and he dated alot of girls. Well i feel in love and got pregnent. I already had a son with my husband. We turned out after i found out i was pregnant my bf had a meth addiction in the past and was battling it hard. He was the type that would not work...so one day when i was complaining about money he said he would cook some meth...he was back at his moms the next day. Me and my husband got back together and now the baby is born. If he has not touched drugs it will be over a year since he did them should i let him know his son was born and let him see him...oh ya my husband signed the birth certifacate. But always complains about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2011): Hello there, my advice to you will be straight forward. I am in the position like you dealing with my son's father who is too a meth addict. You should get a lawyer and seek help. A meth addict like the other post say they lie, and trust me I've seen it happened. Ask for a test and get a supervise access, that means people watch them in one room if his acting normal with his child. Always stay positive and think what's good for you and your family. You don't need to associate with someone who seems not to care about your child. Its not a good environment to grow up knowing his an addict. Best of luck!
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (8 July 2011):
 I would not rely on his word alone. Insist he get into an addiction program that requires regular blood tests.
If he complains about his legal right to his son, he can file with a court to obtain those rights. YOU can then state his drug problem and the court will mandate clean drug test results prior to visitation.
Best Wishes.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (8 July 2011):
Hi there. It's really hard to trust a drug addict.
They often lie, cheat and steal. Borrowing money and not paying it back. So many things, and most of them negative.
They are often very unreliable, saying they will do things and not doing them.
What sort of father could he ever be to his son, living a life like that anyway? That's if he's even interested!
You are better off with your husband and caring for your son. Don't involve your drug addict friend at all. Your son will have a much better chance in life in your family household.
Your son's father could say he was clean for so long, but the truth is probably more like he's clean on that day - because he took some meth the day before. You would never really know the truth.
You would never know when you could trust he was telling you the truth. They can be pretty convincing liers.
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