A
female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Have you ever accidentally led someone on? I did. It was eighth grade, and i was having a fun last year of middle school with my best friends. There was this kid, A, who was in a phrase, bottom of the food chain. People were nice to him. No one bullied him or anything, he was just not the most popular person in the world. He was also hilarious. I had one or two classes with him, and the teacher often partnered us up. I was nice to him, and i laugh at alot of things. Anyway, he liked me throughout the year. I liked other guys and went out with a few. Rumors of him liking me spread like wildfire, but i ignored them. There wasn't anything between us. I had a boyfriend. He couldn't like me, right? Wrong. On the last day of school, my best friend sent me a text that i never forgot. He went straight up to her and told her he liked me all year and wanted to know if i liked him. She responded with a ummmmm no, she has a boyfriend. And he said "but she laughed at all my jokes!". My best friend quickly cleared that up, and he hasn't talked to me since. I felt horrible that i led him on, even though i didn't do it intentionally. I was just laughing! I had a boyfriend! I realize now i didn't do anything wrong, he interpreted it that way and didn't understand that my boyfriend was the one i liked, not him. I'm posting this to tell everyone that laughing doesn't mean someone likes you. Girls do use laughter to flirt, but you must distinguish when a girl is flirting, or when she thinks you're funny. And sometimes, we don't mean to lead people on!
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reader, heytay +, writes (6 July 2011):
I did that exact thing. I laughed at this guys jokes in lunch all year, mainly because I'm easily amemused. Well anyways people had the idea that I liked him, which I never did any more than a friend. But man, just looking at him could crack me up!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (21 June 2011):
Hi there. It's perfectly ok to laugh when someone says something to crack you up. Why not?
This boy whose funny antics made you laugh, seems to have misinterpreted your laughter as something else.
Well, in future still laugh if you think it is funny, but you'll have to say something if you can see he's getting it wrong.
It's very easy to get crossed wires when it comes to human behaviour. So the idea is to be clear on things.
It's good your friend told him about your boyfriend.
I guess this other guy just made an assumption, that's all.
Well you both learnt a lesson from it anyway. That's life. It's full of lessons.
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