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writes:I think I've always been bi.Since starting soccer(the lesbian day hangout where i'm from)I've made alot of lesbian freinds. I'm a major tom-boy so most people assume I'm gay, and I tell them I'm not. I recently kissed a girl, and it just felt good(imagined it was a different girl)One of my oldest friends is also gay(She's a player and a lyer).About 2 years ago I met the most amazing girl. She, like everyone else,I told I was straight. She and my friend then had a relationship and she got hurt. I fell in love with her before thay were dating but was too scared to do anything about!She is now dating someone else(would never tell her I love her while she is because i think its a bit wrong). But I think she might know, I'm a terrrible lyer and can't hide my puppy dog eyes.I think she likes me to, but my "straightness" ,may have gotten in the way. I always catch her looking at me and then she smiles. The way she smiles at me. When she touches me she puts her hand on my very lower back and it seems like she keeps her hands on me for as long as she can. On friday I told her I had kissed my first girl and she loved it(I think cause she thought I was maybe gay as she got to know me better). When we go out (even when her girlfriend is there), we spend most of the night together dancing and chatting, and if I'm not there (like outside talking) I get a text ordering my butt back inside to party. She worries about me to(mainly because I'm an idiot and do dumb stuff). about 2 weeks ago I went out with a her, her girlfriend and some friends and hooked up with this guy infront of her, she didn't seem too impressed with me and acted kinda pissed with me for a couple of days.Is she off limits on the friend code?And does she actually like me or am I reading into it cause I love her?
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reader, accidently_in_love +, writes (1 January 2008):
accidently_in_love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx to everyone who replied. Two days ago I told her that I liked her. She said she couldn't say she felt the same way because she couldn't do to her girlfriend what had been done to her. She said it doesn't change our friendship, but I gues we'll have to see. So at least its left in the old year, so I can move on in the new one! And who knows, maybe! Happy new year! And thanx so much! X x x
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reader, Stupid Lullabies  +, writes (12 December 2007):
Sounds like a difficult situation. I might be reading too much into this, but it sounds to me that she doesn't believe you are straight. If she thinks you are gay then it would explain why she approved of you kissing a girl, and disapproved of you hooking up with a guy, as in her eyes you were denying yourself in a vain effort to keep up your pretence. I would be cautious before reading too much into the way she is acting towards you. I am gay but in the closet and often find I read too much into the affectionate way my friends act towards me, and girls are often much more demonstrative than guys.
I think the best advice I can give is to just be honest with her, if she is gay then she will have no issues with you coming out to her as bisexual, and then she will also understand your interest in guys as well as girls. She will then also be free to openly express how she feels about you without fear of offending you.
If you don't think you can trust her to keep it a secret, you might want to consider coming out to some other friends first for some support. It sounds like you have several lesbian friends, for instance apart from the soccer team you mentioned one of your oldest friends is gay. Does she know? Could she help or offer some insight into the situation?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 December 2007):
 sounds like she's into you too from what you say, the touchy feely stuff is with girls hard to interpret, but her getting jealous is a definite sign. But most convincing is her approval of you kissing a girl. Maybe if its her first time she might be reluctant to make the first move .
What are you waiting for?
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reader, alieP91 +, writes (10 December 2007):
 From what you have told me all of what your feeling is true and you really care for her and the only way your going to get anyting out of it is just to tell her. As you said you can't lie and it would be much easyer on both of you if you told each other the truth. Just have a nice lunch or a coffee don't make it all romantic cos then you don't get to do much talking, unless that is what you want. Talking to the person is usually the answer to most questions.
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reader, sexyhunnibbe001 +, writes (9 December 2007):
 no i think she defintely likes you.just keep hanging out with her and don't hook up with any other guy or girl.n maybe when the time is right if she still has a gf then tell her that you like her n see what her response is.hope i helped :)xxx
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