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writes:i was a virgin when i met my boyfriend so hes the only guy i have ever slept with, given a BJ to, etc, etc.we have been together for nearly 4 yearsbut he ended it the other day and said that he wanted to go on a break and that he wanted me to go out and sleep with other guys so i could get experience and learn some new tricks!!and that then when i was done learning stuff he would want me back!if he wants me to be better in bed is there a better way to do it? i am not sure if i want to go sleep with a bunch of random guys just to please him and also i think (and my best friend agrees) that it is an incredibly WEIRD request.is something else maybe going on here? and also should i accept his suggestion and do it? i love him and i really want to be with him but not sure if its worth it
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reader, eitak_x  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 i'm sorry but this request he asks of you is just totally out of order. he should not be telling you to do things like this! if he loves you then he loves you for everything about you, not because of a couple of things he may not think you are up to standard for in the bedroom area. If he wants you to learn new things then he should teach them to you, not send you off to sleep with other blokes!
in my opinion, i dont think he thinks he's particularly good in the bedroom and just wants you to learn new things to pass off onto him, not the other way round!
[and we all know the guys supposed to take control!]
i'd tell this guy where to go, he's not worth it in the slightest.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Hi there,
sorry to say but this is really weird. I think he is using this an a pathetic excuse. I hope so anyway, as otherwise you really are lucky to be done with him.
If a couple love each other, they are in no better position to explore new techniques and scenarios in the bedroom as both are entirely comfortable with each other. Sleeping with strangers will be relatively soulless, it is sex that is quick with lots of fumbling around for light switches, comfortable places to park your butt, avoiding carpet burns and desperate attempts at unwrapping condoms. You dont pick up any tips from one night stands.
Be glad you are rid of him, but do one thing, let him know that he's not welcome back in the future. Sorry to say, but my best bet is he wants to play the field,I'm sure when he gets sick of his one night stands he will probably be knocking on your door again.
Do you really want to share a life with someone like this?
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reader, steven 25206542 +, writes (29 November 2007):
 i think in his suggestin he is thinking of himself i think he is the one who wants to sleep with random girls and he wanted to end it but not hurt u so he made this sick excuse up i think u should take it on the other side and forget about him get on with ur life trust me in NO it hurts but it hurts worst the first time u get ur heart broken and u will move on i ALWAYS thought i never would and trust me i have now LOL but the way he said and that then when i was done learning stuff he would want me back!
i think that he is unsure and carnt choose inbetween having u and having random sex with women i think he is messed up and u should keep u distance ok babe gud luck
and if u ever wanna talk am on here a lot : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007): It's up to you who you get between the sheets with, but this guy is a Weirdo with a capital'W'.
The fun is in learning 'new tricks' together, and you certainly don't have to put it about when there's all this information on the internet for learning new tricks.
Phil
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