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writes:ok...here goes...i havnt even told my best mates about this so i cant believe im telling the whole internet...im having an affair with my teacher and its been going on for three years... honestly i cant believe noones found out about it yet and i know its only a matter of time! at first i just got with him because i was feeling sad because id just broken up with my bf and he was talking to me and then suddenly just kissed me...i was shocked because it was so unexpected(he'd never shown me much interest before) so i pushed him away. he looked really ashamed and apologized to me and i said id forget all about it...but i couldnt so i went back and asked him if he did like me and he said he thought he was falling in love with me...so i kissed him and we ended up making out on his desk (which was really stupid because anyone could have walked in!) for a few months we just kept chatting and sometimes making out but then it started to get more serious...he started stroking my breasts and my vagina and i ended up giving him oral..after that we decided it was getting too serious and he was risking being arrested so we split up for a while...but we couldn't live without each other and we talked and had sex which was amazing and since then we've been going strong...the thing is someones bound to find out sooner or later and we'll get into serious trouble. should i end it before its too late? i'm madly in love with him but should i put a stop to it? help me please!!!!! thanx mia x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): i hope this will help! iv been in the same situation but not with a teacher. we cooled it till i was the legal age, are feelings got more for each other, now we can see each other without hidding it, it feels so much better. i think in your case though(sorry to be harsh) but i think he is just using you for sex because thats all it seems, you two do when ever your together! i think if you two are ment to be then wait till you have left school and hit it of! and if you find that he was just using you for sex then im sorry! its upto you wether to turn him in or not just remeber its as bad for him as it is you. good luck hope it works out xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): So you guys can get on fine and have a laugh and that? i jsut want o make sure so it aint as if he is using you for sex. where do u guys do it? i mean surely you dont do it on skl grounds i mean thats a bit risky is it not? say the headteacher was to walk in? think about wht would happen if this was found out, he would be fired and you would probley be at the centre of the skl gossip for ages and you will be given a bad name, am sorry to say tht but there was a girl who was accused of sleepin with the teacher in our skl (it wasnt true in the end) but for her last 2 years in skl she basically had a miserable time as she was gettin slagged and teased about him, im suggestin that if you guys are so in love then, leave it for the now, wait til you leave and carry on, if you guys are in love then surely you can wait for each other? text him email him (outta skl tho) and jsut keep in contact with him but dont have sex in skl! its soooo risky. Is he married? coz if he is then end it right now, it isnt fair on his wife. This is wht im basically sayin:- you cant sleep with him anymore, dont even get togeather with him outta skl, i mean say you get caught by sum1 ? jsut text him or email him (not skl computers tho or thorught the skl emailin system) basically, keep your contact with him very low and secretive and wait til you leave then pick up again where you guys left off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): I know what this is like, im in the exact same situation apart from it has only been 7 months, and to everyone else its simple: its wrong and illegal and should do whats right in the eye of everyone else, but to us its dfferent, our emotions are involved and it affects two people more than it is sometimes worth.
I am honestly not sure what you should do, i would base it on how long you have left and the possibility of people finding out even though youve kept it secret for so long.
The other thing (which you have probably thought of) is even after education and you become an oficial item, will it still affect his job as people will speculate how long it has been going on for.
I know this probably hasnt helped, i just wanted to let you know im here to talk to if you ever need it
Best of luck with everything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): that is wrong on so many levels you should really end it know i mean once you finish school maybe oyu can rekindle the relationship then but then and only then should you even think about becoming intimate with him i mean he could get into so much trouble he could loose his teaching licence or even get arrested and then there is not a chance of a relationship then as for he will most like end up not only blaming you but i dont want to say hating because thats so strong but he will really dislike you sorryif it isnt what you wanted to hear but that is the best thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Look. He may well have been in love with, and probably still is.
But facts are facts. It is ILLEGAL for a teacher to have sex with his/her student.
It is ILLEGAL to have sex until a certain age.
He broke both these rules, which were set out to protect people.
So, all your's and his personal feelings aside, he broke the law and should pay the punishment.
You'll notice I do not automatically assume he's done this before. It could very well be he just fell in love with the wrong girl, and lord knows its happened to better people then you two.
But he was old enough to know that he should have at least had the graciouness to hold back until you were of legal age and no longer studying at the school.
So break it off and trully leave it for a year or two. If you still feel the same way, then cool. By all mean bonk away.
But you should still report him.
Flynn 24
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reader, tiger74 +, writes (12 December 2007):
I agree, this guy is just using you for sex and you should turn him into the police. He is a messed up man and needs some help. I'm sure you are an attractive woman but it sounds like he took advantage of the situation for his sexual gain. Even if you don't turn him in to the police, which you should to prevent him from doing this to another girl, you need to get away from him and be done with him.
Good luck
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 December 2007):
 Hi,
well I can only guess that you are closer to 18 than to 21 - this based on your comment that he could have gone to jail when you first started making out 3 years ago.
You may be of legal age now, but you weren't then.
What you should be thinking of is the motivations of this man, he is a sexual predator , you have to seriously consider what is going to happen here. First , you are getting older, and the older you get the more you will questions his motivations. In another 2 or 3 years you will be well into your 20's, believe me you will start to really creep out about how your teacher boyfriend was hitting on a 15/16 year old. Also, sexual predators are not happy with partners once they start maturing, so be prepared for his eye to start wandering for more fresh blood the older you get.
This man is using you for his own sexual deviancy, he has taken advantage of the power he has over you as a teacher.
Hopefully when you get a little older you will be able to report him to the police - just look at the news from time to time there's always some story about a women in her 20/30's suing her ex teacher for abuse - it happens all the time.
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