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writes:Ok you lot will think im a complete idiot here but im not.I was kind of seeing this guy he was a few years older than me and to be honest ive never before had a relationship and this guy was so special i was so happy to have a guy like me. anyway cut a long story short he called it off saying he did not like me but he did all the chasing in the first place we never did have sex, thank god. the truth is im not over him i always think about him and what he maybe doing. then i went to the place i meet him and he was there with a another girl so soon after it made me so upset.now i find myself going past his house every day to see if his in. how can i get over him as i really really liked him. do i need help Reply to this Question
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Its normal to feel like that after a relationship ends. You're going past his house to see if he's in because you want some kind of involvement in his life and dont like that you dont know whats going on in his life or what he's up to. but this guy is not worth it. it really sounds like he has dumped you because you didnt have sex with him. what the hell kind of man is that? a not very good one.
You're making things a lot harder for yourself. You need to completely forget about him and get him out of your head. Believe me, I know how hard that is but i also know how much harder you are making it for yourself by going to places you know you will see him or by driving by his house. Keep busy, take your mind off him, see friends, do anything but really force yourself to not go by his house. you need to avoid him or you will never get him out of your head.
all the best
brooke
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Hi,
there are a lot of guys out there who will give a girl a little time then when she doesn't "put out" will simply move on to the next girl. He wasn't into you , just sex.
But don't worry, there are plenty of guys who want to have a relationship and are prepared to form a bond before moving things to a sexual level. Just look out for this type in the future ( they usually heap lots of praise on you, tell you you are fantastic , say all the right things etc.. i.e they are practiced campaigners who know how to get a girl into bed and put another notch on the belt )
So why are you obsessed with this guy again?
Get over him and move on - he was a player, you are lucky to be rid of him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): No, this is quite comman. you think this is a normall relationship as you have not experianced others, relationships should be equal effort and the reason he stopped it was probably due to the no sex- this proves that he is shallow, you will find somebody who you will crave for and experiance what a relationship should be like.
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