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*weetheart1nonly
writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out over a month now and I know he loves me but I'm always the one punishing him, I mean playing hard to get still which I know I shouldn't be doing. But I want to know how far or what he would do, He hasn't heard from me for a week now as we were meant to see in the weekend but he had something else and I understood but now he's been calling me and texting me. I haven't replied, more than 50 times not to exaggerate. I really don't know why I'm doing this, maybe for him to really miss me or what? Now I would have to find an excuse to tell him why I didn't answer him.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (5 December 2007):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys for your help, I think I'll just call him and apologise or any other suggestions and seriously it's not like I want to play hard to get, I just don't know why I'm doing this.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 Hi there,
This is what happens when you play games with people. You have to ask yourself why you did this? What do you possibly hope to achieve?
A relationship is about trust, faithfulness, loyalty and being honest with each other, it is a partnership of equals. You appear to deliberately misleading your boyfriend. I'm surprised he is still calling you, I wouldn't in his situation.
You can say you were at the hospital, but he wont buy it and it will just affirm to him that you cannot be trusted.
It doesnt sound like you are ready for a proper relationship anyway, but if you think you are, from this day on be honest with him, tell him you have been avoiding him as that's what you have been lead to believe a girl should do. If you then say you think its silly and you want to start all over again he should forgive you, but if you are dishonest with him and continue to play games dont expect him to hang around.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (5 December 2007):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHonestly guys, I feel I am playing hard to get too much and would end up losing him, I promise to stop but what do I actually tell now him the reason was for not answering his calls cos seriously there was no reason at all, I just wanted him to miss me. Do I say I was at the hospital or what?
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (5 December 2007):
 Finding excuses means lying to him and thats not a way you want to start off your new relationship. Simply talk to him and explain to him your feelings and HONESTLY let him know why you dont answer. You seemes to explain clearly on here so try and do the same with him. Seems like your trying to test him too much but all your doing is pushing him to the side. The more you push him to the edge, you'll just end up dropping him. Explain to him the real reason and try not to ignore him as much. Theres no need to play hard to get. Your already with the guy.
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