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writes:I've just came out of a 5 yr relation ship.One of the reasons i left him apart from him being abusive and a slob was becuase i had fallen for someone else (one of my best friends). This person never knew that this was my reason for leaving him and still doesn't. I've been told that he lkes me and he gives me vibes back that he does. I've not shown any back yet as i thought it was too early as he was close friends with my ex. we had a party at the weekend and i was going to tell him my feelings. That was before my so called best mate decides that she likes him too. they had a quick snog when he was pissed and she went back to his. nothing happened but all ahe goes on about is him and it makes me sick. If i say something to him, he's going to be confused to why i've only now decided to tell him my real feelings. and my mate is going to be pretty annoyed too. she's only with him for his money and knows he's s good catch, i'm in love with him.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (11 December 2007):
 In that case then I would still say nothing to him. It will only make you look jealous and it will be her word against yours. If she is a gold digger then he will find out soon enough on his own accord.
Then again there's nothing stopping you pursuing this guy as well, its not as though they are going out, and as you said she is only interested in his money so she can't blame you for stealing her guy. If she is a gold digger chances are she doesnt have much to offer in the personality department either- that's where you step in!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni,m responding to CALLAROY, you said how can i be sure about her being with him for his money. she said last night that she was going to marry him and then divorce him for his money or maybe get pregnant by him so that she will be entitled to his monery. she said it as a joke but she's like that. she only decided she liked him when he got his new car. she even said she feels like a wag in the passenger seat. i am warm and friendly to him and i'm not nasty about her aloud as no one knows my feelings. i just dont know whether to tell him or not.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (10 December 2007):
Hi,
relationships are like newly opened restaurants , about 70% fail in the first year. I wouldnt worry about your friend as he may not be into her. Or chances are it wont come to anything.
But the issue here is not your friend, she has every right as a single girl to go out with whoever she wants. It is unfortunate that its a guy you fancy, and it seems rather petty that you say she is only into him for his money. How can you be sure of this, has she said that she's only interested in his money to you?
I am only saying this because if you want to go out with this guy, being in a negative frame of mind is not the way to go about it. For a guy there is no bigger turn off than a girl going all nasty on another girl - you start to wonder what she is going to be like with you .
So I would start by getting the negative thoughts about this girl out of your head, it will only put you in a bad light and make you seem petty and vindictive . Instead be yourself and be warm and friendly - guys like this.
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