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writes:Well for the last 3 months I've been talking to this guy. He's turning 27 soon and I"m only 13. We talk all the time and about last month I started to have feeelings for him. My friends say it's not wrong, but the age differance conserns me. They say I should tell him how I feel. But I don't think I should, I do'nt want to ruin out friendship. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Age difference isnt normally an issue. But 27 yo and 13? No, this is not appropriate. 13 and 18 is stretching it, but anythis outside of teens is very wrong. In this case, your best option is to walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Your friends are wrong. 27 is too old. If HE does anything sexual with you then he should be arrested to tell you the truth.
A 13yo girl being attracted to a 27yo man is nothing to be ashamed of. It's pretty normal actually. (And plenty of 13yo boys get attracted to 27yo girls too, the only difference is that the 27yo girls will almost never have the same feelings back at the 13yo boys.)
But you need to realize that there is a differnce between having these feelings and acting on them. You should NOT act on these feelings and try to get into anything with this guy.
I don't care if you're "mature for your age" and all that. If you are then fine, maybe you really are mature enough to date a 15-16yo guy. But not a 27yo guy under any circumstances.
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reader, becky13 +, writes (12 December 2007):
ive had sex when i was 12yo with a guy who was 30yo
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (12 December 2007):
 You are too young to have a b/f who is 27 period. On most accounts someone of his age who seems interested in you is after one thing. They are pedophiles or sexual predators. Please let your parents in on your conversations. You need to be very careful of engaging in any further conversations other than those monitored by an adult.
Your safety is of the greatest concern. Find a nice guy closer to your own age for a b/f if you feel you need one. Be friends and have parental guidence. Don't let anyone take your innocence away from you. Be a child while you can because in the grown up world things are much harder and different.
You never know how old someone really is on the internet and they could tell you anything to draw you in. Your life itself could be in danger. Please protect yourself at all cost. Never meet anyone you talk to on the internet alone. You could face being raped, kidnapped or forced into prostitution. Or perhaps drugged or become pregnant and have the baby taken from you. It's a cruel world out there sometimes and you must be careful.
When someone is much older than you they can know just the right things to say to make you believe something that really isn't true. I have a 12 1/2 year old granddaughter who recently had a pic up on her MySpace. We deleted the account for her safety. We had found that she wasn't thinking when she set up the account as she gave her real name, her age, and her address! She put a pic up that was nice but it was way out of the age loop. Mind you she is only 12 1/2 and she is built like a 16-17 year old and she looks it too. Her safety was our only concern.
God bless you and keep you safe. May He send you a good companion and friend to be your childhood sweetheart..By the way my Grandmother who has long passed married again after my Grandfather passed away. It was to her childhood sweetheart.*Smiles* Let your life be lived in the joy of knowing that you can have a friend and a sweetheart all in one who can keep you safe just by being all they say they are. Always remember that your parents should be informed when anything seems out of place with anyone you might like.
May the Angels watch over you.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 Hi,
o.k. it looks like you have met him through the internet.
If he knows you are 13 it is very important for you to tell your parents immediately. He is a sexual predator, the police are on the lookout for these type of men and hopefully this one will be caught. The police set traps, they pretend they are young girls ( like yourself ) and then lure older men ( like the one you are talking to ) into meeting them. They then arrest them.
I'm sure your friends find this all very exciting, but they are only young girls who must find this so exotic. They dont realise there are men out there who want to abuse young girls and hurt them.
Tell your parents immediately, this man has to be taken off the streets before he sexually abuses more girls.
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reader, xoTrineyxo +, writes (12 December 2007):
 You cannot do this.
It's your decision but heres my opinion:
He is waayyy to old for you. He has a different mind set. He may be ready for things that your not. Plus its illegal and he might even be considered a pedaphile. My advice is not to start a relationship with him.
xox hope i helped
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reader, missmel34 +, writes (11 December 2007):
 Does he know you're only 13????
Are you chatting on the internet?
Ok....Look, I know you're feeling that this guy is amazing, he says all the right things and understands you. But.... You have to be very very careful here.
I think you do need to talk to your parents about this. Talk to your Mum. The bottom line here, this man is far to old for you. If he knows you are 13 and is still showing you that hes interested then this man is not a good person. How do you know hes actually 27..he coud be 43. How do you know anything what he has said is the truth. Either way, internet relationships are difficult things. Whether you are 13, 18 or 30. They can be dangerous, especially to a girl/woman.
Promise me no matter what, don't tell him your full name or where you live. Don't slip up and tell him the name of your school or the local mall. Its fine to talk to people online. But you have to be careful. And don't take it to serious.
There are very dangerous people out there sweetie, and they say all the right things. They aren't just fat old grumpy men. They can be young, attractive and smooth talking.
My first advice to you is talk to your Mum, second is to never...no matter what, tell him where you live or any personal information.
My third is, no matter how much you think you have feelings for him, he is far to old. And there are people out there who are preditors, who will make you feel things and you infact are playing right into their hands. They are smarter than you sweetie. Smarter than all of us.
Please be very careful.
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