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writes:Hello, I have a slight problem with bringing up a certain subject with my boyfriend but it'll be very confusing and probably worse if I don't so could you all please give me any advice you have on this matter.This summer I had just arrived at my neighborhood's public pool and was going to goof around with my friend Cassie* when I saw a fifteen year old guy hurting her. Normally I try to stay out of fights but Cassie* has a medical condition that makes her very fragile and her bones snap like glass so I stood up for her. This guy was a total barbarian and threw Cassie* halfway across the pool. Normal horseplay I'm fine with but it escalated from there. I've had Junior Lifeguard training plus a few Tae Quon Do lessons and chased the guy out of the pool, however he came back with a guy from his football team the next day when I was swimming laps. Definitely weren't gentlemen and didn't mind hitting a girl in the least. The first guy ended up with a few scratches from my nails when I refused to scream when he hit me, and grabbed my head and nearly broke my neck throwing me sideways into the water. His friend the football player tried to force me under the water but found I didn't go down easy, he had to practically jump on me to force me under. The fight continued for awhile before Cassie* managed to run and find one of the lifeguards who had been on break and stop the fight. The boys got kicked out for the day and I was fine at first but when I got home the pain in my neck and back was killing my so my Gram took me to the chiropractor's they snapped my neck back in place and put me into therapy for a few days,he told me not to get into anymore fights or push to hard or I wouldn't be healed in time for the fall swimming season on my team. When I returned to the pool to swim off the injuries by doing laps the first boy's mother threatened me if I ever touched him again (referring to the scratches I gave him) she would tell him to molest me. Being the lovable yet five foot pillar of concrete my Gram is she immediately started yelling at his mother since he was the one who started it by attacking my friend and injuring me and that she could and would sue her and couldn't believe she'd even say that and tried pushing her in the pool. The incident is behind us now and I'm still recovering bit by bit, it was mostly muscle damage between my shoulder blades, I'm working hard at training camp for the team but my back and neck are still incredibly sensitive to the touch.I didn't tell my boyfriend any of this because I didn't want him to worry about me pushing myself for the team but my shoulders still haven't healed completely and he's going to wonder why I scream when he puts his arm around me from the pain so I'm trying to think of a way to tell him before school starts up again and I'll see him at the end of the month. It's just not any easy subject to bring up over the phone or through email or texting, my Gram and my Dad are even more hesitant about letting my hang out with guys since the incident and believe me my boyfriend would never hurt me but he's going to wonder why their over-protectiveness has doubled even if my shoulders do heal in time. So please, I could use any advice you've got on how to tell him or even if I should or how I could avoid telling him.-Recoveringandconfused
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): I think the mods titled this wrong, I'm not worried my boyfriend will be overprotective, my parents are, what I need help with is explaining the situation to my boyfriend.
Thank you for replying though.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Wow. You have my respect for standing up for your friend. Those guys should go to hell!
Are you sure your boyfriend would get over-protective? I mean, I think it is better that you tell him so he can help you and make sure your shoulder heals quickly but, I don't know him so I can't be sure. Good luck with your healing.
I hope that helps
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