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writes:I don't know how to begin exactly...My Ex... well he was an abusive, liar and a cheater and he took my virginity. I loved him, and I do know that I loved him because I never felt so alive while with him. I know your thinking lucky escape, he's your ex. But today... I saw him at my corner shop with his new girlfriend (not really new, they've been dating 6 months), who he never broke up with me for... He got with her while he was still with me, I feel no closure and it broke my heart to see him with her today, I died inside in every way possible. She laughed at me, and I felt really depressed. I came home and cried. Everyone says she is nothing on me but I don't feel that way, she's the complete opposite, she's really tall and I'm small. She's got tattoo's I haven't. She's got facial and body piercing's, I haven't. And she's older than me and him, we're both fifteen. And she's seventeen. I feel so small and incomparable and a laughing stock. I don't know what to do to create a closure for my ex...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): If he cheated on you then he'll cheat on her. Just thank your lucky stars you got rid of that loser. You'll find somebody who's way better and he'll regret what he did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): I can just about remember that far back and there is nothing like teenage heartbreak. Trust me you will get over it.
She is different to you tattoo's body piercing, none of those things make her better in anyway, you are just different.
He cheated on you and got with her while going out with you, you deserve a boyfriend who treats you better than that, and do you know what? You will get one.
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reader, fishy fish  +, writes (15 August 2010):
Sweety height ot tattoos are definitely not a value measurement tool!!!!!!! why would you cry over a woman who obviously has no self respect, if she did she wouldn't be laughing at you, on the contrary this should be your living proof that the woman felt insecure in your presence, no woman with an iron confidence makes fun at people. Forget about ur ex and his girlfriend , That would be ur closure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): This must have been really horrible for you. And I know that sooner or later I am going to be in the same situation as you. However, I will say that you should never think that somebody is better than you and you must not (however hard it is) compare yourself to this girl! You are 15 years old...you have your whole life ahead of you - GCSEs, college, university...forget about that loser and the girl who he is with (trust me it won't last)and concentrate on YOU - enjoy yourself, have fun and never underestimate the power of family and friends. Good luck xx
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 Don't ever let another person get you down. Being short is in no way attractive! Look at Mila Kunis or Shakira, both are really short and both are really hot! What have tattoos got to do with anything? Tattoos should be a form of self-expression not 'just because'.
Anyway, about the closure thing, I know what you're feeling, I've been through something like that before and lived with that sort of self-imploding, self-destructive, malevolently ugly sort of hatred inside me for three years. But it helped me grow into a better person and now, looking back, I see a lot of changes, the person I am now is more than I could have ever hoped to have been before. So don't feel small inside because of this guy. He was an idiot to have treated you that way, you're obviously a very humbled and kind young girl. Think to yourself, ask yourself why you feel so bad about this, what can you do to fix it?
If I were you, I would just try and forget about him and her. If you go to the same school, it's going to be hard but not impossible. Find someone else. You aren't going to feel this way forever, you'll find someone who'll give you that same rush and that guy won't treat you like crap.
I hope that helps.
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