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writes:Hi everyone, I've been with my bf almost a year. He is amazing in every aspect and is everything I've ever wanted. He is the shy type so I was surprised when a few months ago he would start randomly bringing up marriage discussions ie. "I was telling my friend that if we get married..." or "would you want to have a blue themed wedding since it's your favourite colour" --stuff like that. He also talks about kids too. He knows twins run in my family and boys run in his so he will talk about how we're "probably going to have twin boys someday"A few weeks ago we went to a friends wedding, now he had a few drinks when he brought up marriage stuff again, but he was sounding logical. He started talking about how he wants to get married when he's 30 (right now he's 24..ie 6 years from now) and I was like why so long? He answered that he wants to make sure he is financially stable before he gets married because he wants to make sure he can support his wife and future kids.I do respect his decision, but how do I bring up wanting to talk about that topic without sounding weird? See the thing is if he's 30 when he gets married I'll be 28, and I want a few years before I try to have kids. I have fertility problems and have already been told I'll have difficulty conceiving, thats why I would like to be a little younger than 30 before I start trying, since there is the possibility it could take a while.Any thoughts on what I should do, or how to casually bring up a conversation about that? Or should I wait til he brings up the marriage talks again?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 If he brings up that topic a lot, you can just wait to talk about it. Obviously he's keen on getting married so, if there just isn't a right moment and you two are walking somewhere or something or doing whatever you could just turn to him and say "This is pretty random but I was thinking about that time you said you wanted to get married at thirty..." and then say whatever it is you want to say. That doesn't sound weird at all does it? Good luck
I hope that helps.
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