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writes:Okay,So I don't know what to think if I'm being stupid by worrying too much, or if i have a reason to worry and think so negative about my bf sometimes but... Lately i have noticed our sex life has been decreasing. We don't have as much sex as we use to and that worries me. I've even told him that and he says that i am just being stupid and am worrying for nothing. But things just don't feel the same anymore. When we started off, we had sex like 2 to 3 times a day and it was great! But now we are at like once every month or even less or so it feels. Sometimes i crave for it and ask him and he rolls on his side and says he is too tired to do anything and just goes to sleep. It makes me feel unwanted. His excuse is that he works too hard and is always tired. Which i understand but idk. Am i being too hard on him? Or do i have something to worry about? When we do have sex, he finishes fast and i don't finish at all. And it seems as if he doesn't care as much as he use to when we started off. The tables turned on us lol. I use to tell him i don't care, now i do care. He use to say he cares, now he does not care. What's going on here? Please help, any suggestions?
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reader, Gandalfrex  +, writes (16 August 2010):
Try suggesting sex in the afternoon, right after he comes home from work, or on the weekends, when both of you are relaxed. I find it hard to have good sex late at night in the middle of the week as I have a tiring and stressful job... for me, the best time is in the mornings on weekends...
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reader, stressedlove  +, writes (15 August 2010):
dear
i am facing the same problem with my wife, i believe that we lost interest in each other as i am looking and having sex with other women. maybe he do the same, but for me my wife is the one who nver ask for sex and never care,i dont know why , i dont wana lose her but also i want my sex life to be normal but seems impossible with her. i think nit is hard what ur feeling cause i feel it even if am cheating but i still worried why she doesn't want me anymore, she is not cheating but she has no sexual feelings towards me anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): How long have you been in this relationship? He may be getting too comfortable. He's not like any man i've heard of- refusing sex. Might just be me but he may be playing away. Suprise him one night when he comes in from work and wear some sexy lingerie. If that doesn't get him in the mood i don't know what will. Also remind him of how you used to have fun and how you have missed that. Ask him whats on his mind there may be something troubling him.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 I'm going to assume you're married. Sex is an important aspect of marriage and it seems that it is going downhill for you. How about the other aspects of your marriage? Is he still romantic? Do you two still talk to each other about things like your day or even your favorite sports team or whatever?
Try do something different in your sex life. What does he like? What do you like? Try find something that will interest him and arouse him.
I hope that helps.
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