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writes:im tired of being average looking and want to know what i can do to kind of make the most of myself. i know im not UGLY but im far from stunning either. in fact to get a true honest opinion, i registered with hotornot.com where people rate pictures and my hot or not rating is 6.6/10 - not hideous but not hot either.i think i could make so much more of myself but i dont know how to do it - what makes someone attractive? i know all the sayings and cliches such as confidence and its all in the eye of the beholder and i agree with that but i look at gorgeous girls and think i know you didnt wake up looking like that, so how did you do it?im 21 and really quite young looking, i think i probably look about 18 or 19 i have a really round baby face and not very strong cheek bones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): Ok - here is the only advice I have - although I am a little older at 35 but I had my colours done. By this I mean I went to a colour consultant who works out what colour clothes and make up suit your natural skin tone and natural hair colour. I was wearing black, black and more black at the time with pale pastel colours like blue and pink. People used to ask me if I was feeling poorly and tired. After my session I was called a 'Paintbox Spring' (House of Colour) and the consultant gave me a swatch of colours to take away. The swatch contained bright jewel colours, coral pinks, warm blues and greens and brown tones. It really opened up my eyes to new colours and I haven't looked back - people think I look good and the colours flatter me with little effort. I think I instinctively new which colours were best but had got stuck in a rut. If you cannot afford the consultant session (although it makes a great Xmas present if you can hint) just spend one day trying colours in the shops that you never usually try... take someone with you whose opinion you value and is honest but not critical. Good luck.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Have highlights put in your hair, or try a different hair color, one that looks good on your skin tone. Try having a make-over, sometimes getting the right make-up for your skin color and eyes, will make you "pop" suddenly. You could get colored contacts, get your hair cut or styled in a new way. Get it straightened or permed, depending on what suits you. You could try wearing a new style of clothing to bring your look up-to-date and feel more trendy. But the best thing you can do is be confident about who you are, smile when you are listening, or talking to others. Make eye contact. Be genuine and honest and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself. You are probably alot more attractive than you realize. It's just improving the way you see yourself that matters most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): Well I'll tell you this. When I was younger I used to look at pretty girls and want to look like them, not even realising that as hard as I tried we just had different features and I couldn't even pretend to look like the girls I wanted to look like. In any case I used to go to the beach all the time and get really tan. I used to put sun-in in my hair to lighten it. I kept myself really skinny. I did all this because I never actually looked at myself. I was simply looking at other girls and thinking that I should and could look like them.So eventually I went to college up north and given the different circumstances (cold weather, more inactivity due to studying) I put on some weight, lost all of my tan, and eventually my sun-in faded and my hair grew out dark, (it's normal color). So eventually I went back home and when people saw me, everybody could not believe how BEAUTIFUL I was. I became beautiful the minute I stopped being "other" girls and just became who I am, literally. I have ivory white skin. Black hair. And I became more beautiful than any of the girls that I had been trying to look like my whole life. I couldn't believe it myself. I mean all of a sudden, I had guys like staring at me everywhere I went. That NEVER happened to me with my super tan, lightened hair (to look like a blonde), and skinny frame. NEVER. And once I stopped trying and just accentuated and accepted what I looked like, I was a success! It's the strangest thing. Prettier than any girl I would have ever dreamed of looking like. And now I love myself. I realise how stupid I was. Don't try to look like other girls cause you may miss out on your own features, which if accentuated correctly, are better than any imitation. So if you want to look better, just do what will look better on YOU and not on anybody else.
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reader, youonlyliveonce +, writes (12 September 2007):
It's hard to say one thing that will instantly make you feel better, different things appeal to different people. the most important thing is for you to feel happy, if you don't feel confident, it shows. choose what you think is your best feature and try to emphasise it, new hair? make up? treat yourself to a new outfit? some shops offer a personal shopper service to try maybe something you didn't think off that will look great on you! there will always be something, and it may seem cliche, but everyone is different, there is no "right" look. also, don't rely on a rating website to tell you how you look. this will do nothing for your confidence, it's your opinion that matters, not anyone elses. as for looking young, a lot of people would be jealous! also, many places offer make up advice, maybe you could try this to see what woul suit you if you're not sure? good luck, i hope this helps! x x
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (12 September 2007):
 Don't rely on hotornot to tell you if you are beautiful or not. That site is just there to make money off of people. Everyone wants to be attractive. You have to discover what works for you and use it. I suggest experimenting with your hair and make up. Try different styles of clothing and find someone who looks similar to you body wise and see how they dress themselves. It is all trial and error because each person is different and there are THOUSANDS of colors, decisions and personal tastes out there. Check out magazines, health and fitness websites and etc. The more you know the more you can use to enhance your outter beauty.Above all though, make sure you are a good, honest and kind person on the INSIDE. You can be a gorgeous blonde but have a nasty personality and that keeps people far away. Your personality can outshine your looks and in doing that you become an attractive women to those around you. Just make sure you are changing for you though and not for another person. Be the woman you want to be not what you think someone will like.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (12 September 2007):
 okay what do you like about urself? ur eyes? ur figure? bcoz there is somet u like about urself surely.... u jst need to enhance that...with the right make up and clothes [not saying u dnt have these already] u can look "gorgeous" as u put it...but im sure u are. good luckif u want anymore help mail mex sparkii x
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