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writes: Could her suicide be a lie?Four years ago my boyfriend received a phone call telling him his on/off girlfriend had killed herself. He didn't go to any funeral, the call was from one of her friends, and I have searched the death records there is no mention of anybody with that name committing suicide in the year it happened.She wanted to end the relationship you see, she was so screwed up in the head that I believe she could do this...get a friend to call up and say she killed herself in order to be with the guy she wanted to be with.I don't know how to tell him this because it will send him over the edge...he still thinks he could have done more although she left him for another guy and he couldn't handle it...so I think she pretended to kill herself in order to be with ehr new boyfriend in peace.My boyfriend has blamed himself ever since and can't hear the word "suicide" without going into a depression...does anybody have any resources to find death records or suicide records even so I can double check because I have a feeling that he has been living a lie for four years.I truelly need help...this is taking over my life. Reply to this Question
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 I think it should be available through public records in the county she died in, but I am not sure. If you have her soc.sec. records you could probably hire an agency to dig through the court records and determine if there is a death certificate filed in probate court, or if any hospitals/morgues have record of it. It may cost you a small fee, but they will certainly find it for you then you can put your b/f's mind at ease. Go on the web and do your homework. Just think how nice it'll be if you can determine that she faked the whole thing, and your b/f can quit blaming himself, and see her for the psycho liar she really was. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): Why dont you really try and find out from him why she left him?
This can help you find out if he truly loves you and its just out of sympathy that he still talks about her.
The way i see it, he is still hung up on the girl even in her suppossedly death.
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reader, brokenshadow  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 He obviously needs some closure regardless if she is dead or alive. Maybe the two of you should together try to find information as to where she was burried, ask friends of hers, relatives, people in the neighborhood she was in. Someone must know something. That will help you get the answer to your theory and help your BF with some much needed closure. He might need to see a therapist. Don't push too hard incase he's reluctant, but make sure he understands that you love him and want the best for him and your relationship together. :)
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