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writes: I feel silly for posting this... but, a few months back, my boyfriend was in touch with a girl. I got quite jealous and an instinct told me this girl was something else... well, my boyfriend told me she was just a friend, and I was ok with it, although I thought she was really reaally pretty (prettier than me), and also shares some interests with him that I don't. However, I accepted this friend of his (she lives in another city anyway but her family is from here so she comes often).Well, the other day I found out this girl is his ex. He says they haven't talked for a while, but still.. I felt weird. This girl cheated on him and hurt him deeply, and they just dated for a few months compared to the long year we've been together... they also dated about 3 years ago, so it's been a while. I know I'm more important (this has been the only girlfriend he has had before me and he's my first boyfriend). So I'm more important, and everything...... yet I feel very silly because this girl is just so pretty! She has a web site and all guys tell her how pretty she is! The only one to ever tell me I'm pretty is my boyfriend, yet he dated someone who's prettier than me (he hasn't told me she's prettier though, he says that's nonsense)... but still, I've never been pretty, at least I've never been complimented for that, like she has... I know looks aren't the most important thing, but I can't help but feel insecure about that! What can I do?
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 i know what its like sweety, you always think the ex is so much more prettier then you, and you get jelious when your boyfriend is around her, you feel horrible when she is around as he draws all his attendation to her not you. in a way you will have to deal with it , they are friends now even though she broke his heart. but you have to think they broke up because she cheated you have him now he is with you and so what she may get all the attendation from being pretty but you have the guy and thats it. and stop thinking you are not pretty and confident women gets the guys. a guy wants a girlfriend who is comfortable with herself and doesn't compares herself to his exs or her mates or to models just be greatful that you have a great boyfriend (im only saying what i know from you question) who tells you are beautiful and you are the important one not her.
good luck hunny. xxxxx
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 I'm quite sure if he'd stop e-mailing her and paying her attention, you'd feel alot more pretty. If he isn't still interested in her, then he needs to cut contact with her and focus on you. No good can come out of this so-called friendship he has with her. Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Pretty is as pretty does so I guess she isn't all that pretty after all since she cheated on him. Try not to dwell on her looks but on her character, obviously you have her beat in that category. Your boyfriend is with you so just sit back and enjoy your relationship knowing your boyfriend thinks the world of you.
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